REALLY NEED HELP!!!! Need opinions!!?

Question

Situation:
630 in the morning, I wake to get ready for work. I go upstairs and my brother calls me and asks me to do something for him when I get there. (We work at the same place) I need a pen to write something down and the room I am in there's only her purse. She writes things down for her work so I'm like "there's a pen in there for sure." I look in there and there's a cd from her ex-boyfriend that has love songs. This kid has been trying to get back with her since they broke up. He cheated on her. I don't have a problem with them being friends because I trust and she's said that she wants to be with me and that she'd told him that they'd never be together again. Do I ask her about the cd like why she has it? has she listened to it? Or do I just leave it alone? Please help me

Answer 1

I would leave it alone for right now. If you bring up the CD, she will probably be annoyed with you for going through her purse without asking.

You never know, maybe she was going to throw the CD away, or maybe she just likes the music that's on it, despite where it came from. I wouldn't get too worked up over a CD. If you notice any shady behavior, or feel like she isn't being honest with you, then you should discuss that with her.
Good luck!

Answer 2

Depends what she is normally like about you going in her purse, I leave my purse about all the time and would not have a problem with my husband going in it for whatever reason, if she normally doesn't mind you going in it then just be honest, and explain that you are concerned because you are afford of losing her, not that you don't trust her, if she hates people going in her purse or you don't know how she would be, then may be think of a question you could ask, like when you are out(and she has her purse) ask for a pen, or if she has change, while you are nearer the purse than her, make a move towards the purse and see if she freaks out and gets the purse first or if she is cool, women have thing in there purse for all sorts of reason, may be she found it and was going to throw it out, may be a friend borrowed it and had just given it back, at the end of the day this is going to bug you until you know why, If she has nothing to hide or feel guilty about then there should be no reason for her to get mad, after all it was just one of those things, and having been cheated on she should be less likely to do it to you, just make sure you reinforce that fact that you trust her, it was just the fact it hurts a little.

Answer 3

I'd love to recommend that you just 'let it go'...BUT, if you're anything like me, you WON'T be able to. It'll just fester. You'll be thinking about it all the time, it'll bother you when you see her, it'll effect the way you interact with her...
The best approach is to let her know that you borrowed a pen from her purse the other morning and that you noticed the cd. Then, just say that you were wondering about it. When did she get it? Are they still friends? Why did he give a "love song" cd to her? Does he want more than a friendship?
All these are valid questions. They are bothering you. You ARE her boyfriend. You should be able to mention it without sounding accussatory. Just MENTION it. Hopefully, you will feel much better. Better than just wondering and making up your own scenarios. Good Luck and take care!

Answer 4

Don't read much into the CD thing. If you trust her, it can end there. It could either be that he simply liked the songs and wanted to give the CD to her, or it's his way of "trying to get her back". She was probably just being nice by taking it or just wanted a free CD lol. Don't worry too much about it.

Heath

Answer 5

okay well i never been in this situatiion before but similar i mean how long have yall been together and do u fight a lot u dont have to tellme of course because i dont know u but think about this question andask yourself do u argue a lot that it might cause your relationship to be over and if u dont think your relationship will be jeopridize(however u spell) then i think u should ask her but dont just ask her out like '' do u still like your ex-boyfriend'' i think u should do some background info and see when she got this cd and if u cant do that then i think u should just ask her when he gave it to her and thenif she says she just got it then i think on how she answer u if it would lead to a fight or another question or listen to what she says but if this is not this serious of aa thing then and u trust her which u should then leave it alone but if this ex of her keeps sending stuff confront her about but if not then i think u should leave it alone but i mean my opnion if one of my ex's gave me a cd i wwill thro it away but not if i stilll had feelings but even if i did or she did she might not had time to thro it away i believe because it sounds like to me u had atrustworthy relationship but again i never met u soooo but that is just my opinion u can use or not just tryin to help and hopefully i did

Answer 6

If I were you I would just leave it alone, just keep your ears and eyes wide open! She has gave you no reason not to trust her. I had an ex that done this for 3 years, It takes forever to get them to stop!

Answer 7

Leave it alone. You should have never went into her purse without her permission to begin with. I have been married 11 years and my husband NEVER touches my purse without asking and I show him the same courtesy about his wallet. Not that we have anything to hide, it is just common courtesy!

Answer 8

It's entirely possible she just took it to be polite. Ask her if it bothers you, just know you'll probably get yelled at for being in her purse.

Answer 9

i see where you would be upset but i think that you should just let it go mabey not completly but just keep an eye an her

Answer 10

Pretend you didn't see it. Otherwise, it will make you crazy and kill your relationship.