2007-06-07 08:47:19 · 25 answers · asked by Erika W 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Yes
2007-06-07 08:49:35 · answer #1 · answered by Blunt 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Some people say no... but I just had a wedding and I spent over $30 per person on the wedding. I had a shower and some people didn't get me a gift. But it cost money to have the shower, and it definately cost to have someone come to your wedding. So I say DEFINATELY yes! I had a family of eight come to the wedding and not get me anything because they bought me a dinky gift at the shower. I think it is rude personally.
2007-06-07 12:36:17 · answer #2 · answered by fers04you 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you don't HAVE to. Most showers are for the close girlfriends and relatives to bring the bride what she wants. Also, since there is going to be a lot more people at the wedding it gives you more time with the bride. People sometimes say that a wedding gift should cost at least as much as the bride and groom are spending on entertaining each person at the reception, but that is simply a myth.
2007-06-07 10:31:32 · answer #3 · answered by cr@c@l@c@j@clynn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Both gifts should come from the registry the shower gift can be cheaper. If the bridal shower has a theme you can buy a gift to match the theme. But buy a gift for both. The couple will really be pleased that you thought of them.
2007-06-07 12:27:07 · answer #4 · answered by le 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In a word, yes.
Here's why:
A shower is held in order to "shower" the BRIDE with gifts that are supposed to furnish her new home, although you can get the bride a more sentimental gift if you are really close to her. These gifts are meant to be nominal and are not meant to be a HUGE expenditure.
The wedding is a gift that is meant for the COUPLE to help furnish their new home together. It is also common to give the couple cash (although I never give cash). These gifts tend to be more high dollar.
I am not saying that you should spend beyond your means for either gift. What I am saying is that if you have to pick which gift to spend more on definitely do it on the wedding gift. You can give the bride something handmade for the shower if you want.
2007-06-07 09:53:09 · answer #5 · answered by Laura 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You are supposed to do anything. It's what you want to do.
If you spent a bit of money on a shower gift, and feel you want to spend any more, than don't.
I just went to 2 showers. 2 different people. I knew what money I would spend so, I divided the money up. Spend X on the shower and the rest on the wedding.
2007-06-07 12:21:00 · answer #6 · answered by Nana 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes!! But, the shower gift usually is something less expensive you buy and the more expensive is the wedding gift.
2007-06-07 08:49:44 · answer #7 · answered by erink1799 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes, unfortunately you do. You should buy gifts in both circumstances. If you attend more than one shower, you are to bring a gift each time too. While helping my finance plan our own wedding, the showers and wedding is expensive (each meal for a wedding average $50/person) so the expense adds up, so it is polite to bring gifts (hopefully enough to at least cover the cost of your meal and wedding favor).
2007-06-07 08:51:26 · answer #8 · answered by JaCkSOnPoLlOcK 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Some people consider the shower gift the wedding gift as well. Some people gift twice. It is the gift-giver's choice.
Wedding gifts are never mandatory, and a shower gift is only mandatory is you choose to attend the shower.
2007-06-07 09:00:20 · answer #9 · answered by Etiquette Gal 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Gifts aren't mandatory (hence their name), but a wedding shower and the wedding itself are two separate occasions and can call for two separate gifts. Usually, a shower gift is less expensive than the wedding gift, but always do what YOU can afford.
2007-06-07 09:12:55 · answer #10 · answered by Church Music Girl 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Ya of course!
When you go to a shower you usually buy a gift, and then when you go to the wedding, the gift is usually money.
2007-06-07 08:51:56 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋