help me i am 13 and pregnant!!!!!!!?

Question

help i am 4 weeks pregnant and only 13 me and me bf had sex. and this is wat happend.when will i start to show. how do i tell my mum i am affraid the she will kick me out of the house or some thing. i really want this baby and know one know that i am pregnant....!!!!

Answer 1

My real question to you would be are you really sure you are pregnant did you take a test cause you are more open to skip months of periods when you are so young. But Honey must say I think you should tell your mom i am 9 weeks pregnant and it has been the hardest thing for me now i am moved out. I wish i had my family to help me. Even if she is mad she will understand. I am glad that you want the baby but you need to tell your boyfriend that that pregnancy is only the start. Hon i am not trying to scare you but its the truth. And you wont start showing if you are medium size (not a twig) at about 3 1/2 months to 4. If you need some one to talk to you just e-mail me i am always here i know how hard this is for you.
Mist

Answer 2

I was 14 when I had my son, I am 22 now. You could start showing as early as three months but usually not until you're almost five months. About telling your mom, I waited on telling my mom and she was the last person to know so when I did tell her she was very angry and hurt because I hadn't trusted her from the beginning. Your mom will probably be mad at you and say awful things at first but just remember she's scared because her baby is having a baby and she has to worry about you because you are her baby. She went through all the same fears when she had you that you will go through with having this baby and she will be your most important source of information about labor and delivery, baby care, and even help for those nights when the baby just won't calm down. Tell her as soon as you can. Oh yeah, if she does threaten you by wanting to kick you out or tries to force an adoption or abortion on you, just remember that you are the mother of this baby and she can't force you to do any of those things. The law protects you as a mother and a person in that. I had that arguement too so I've been through that. You'll be okay. My son is a wonderful 7 year-old and I worked hard to finish school and care for him but things always work out in the end.

Answer 3

Tell your mother! Even if it's the hardest thing you will ever have to do. Most girls your age think their mom's don't "get them" but they really do. Remember, your mom ,above all others, will understand about you becoming a mom. If your mom freaks out that's understandable.You know how your mom will react. If you think she will go batty over this seek the help of another adult like a relative ,clergy member, or of counselor at school who will be there when you talk to your mom. Go to them first on your own. This person should be someone who is calm and understanding and you have a very good relationship with. Tell them you don't want an abortion. They can suggest where you can get help during your pregnancy and after the birth or depending on your situation in life whether you should even keep the baby.
In the United States there are many locally private support groups and government run social services for unwed teen moms . If you are a UK citizen There should be similar ones. Remember that there are people out that that WILL help you so don't panic! Talk to one of the adults I mentioned first if you are concerned about your mom's reaction. Also, be careful about contacting websites without the help of a trusted adult. There are many false support groups out there who you just don't want to get involved with.

These links looked legitimate but get the advice of an adult first before contacting any of them.

United States
http://www.heartfre.com/Programs.htm

London, UK
http://www.dfes.gov.uk/teenagepregnancy/dsp_Content.cfm?PageID=85

International
http://www.heartbeatinternational.org/

http://www.positive-choice.org/doc/mentors/sexed/pregnancy

http://www.covenantnews.com/pregnant/

Answer 4

You'll probably show when you're 3-4 months pregnant, since you're already 4 weeks, another month or 2 maybe 3. You still need to tell your mother. She legally can't kick you out because you're 13. Your boyfriend will be dealing with it too. Support each other. Check out Planned Parenthood on the internet and see if there's one near you. If not try other programs, search women's health centers and you should find one. Bottom line, if you want the baby of course you should keep it, but for no one to know that you're pregnant is impossible. If your parents aren't supportive, maybe a grandparent, aunt. brother or sister will be. Find someone you can count on to talk to them for the sake of the baby.

Answer 5

I am going to try to be logical and treat you as an adult as you think that you are. You are 13 your mom is not or cannot kick you out of the house. The only way to tell her is to tell her straight up. Tell her exactly how you feel. Being that you are only 13 I am not sure what her of the state can do, but hey, if you are old enough or think that you are mature enough to spread your legs you need to grow up and take care of your responsibility. Good luck and I wish and the baby most of all the best of luck. Also go to the doctor

Answer 6

Sweetie, i know you're scared, but your mom needs to know! I suggest you talk to an adult you feel comfortable around and you know will not judge you first to get over the jitters. You're mom will probably be very disappointed in you're judgement and also very angry too, but that will pass! As she comes to accept the fact that she can't change the past and that you did something and now have to live with the consequences I'm sure she will support you and help you in any way she can. The sooner you tell her the more she will respect you though. I know if my daughter got pregnant i would be upset but thankful she trusted me enough to talk to me about it. Even though shes only 4 right now =] If it makes you feel more comfortable talk to an aunt or uncle about staying with them a few days after you tell your mom the news to give her some time to think about her emotions. I am very glad you want to keep this baby, it was not the baby's fault for your decisions and does not deserve to be killed to hide a secret from the world! Good luck with everything and if you need anyone to talk to email me at [e-mail]...i know its pretty long but i needed something easy to remember! Not to mention honey it is illegal for her to kick you out at such a young age. You and your baby are in my prayers!

Answer 7

Okay, all these people above really are not seeing that you actually need some help. Alright hunny...to answer your question...

You wont show for another 2-3 months, but if you want to go through with this, you are going to have to see a doctor ASAP, but seeing as you're 13 you need a parent present. You need to tell your mum and your boyfriend ASAP. If what you are scared will happen, happens then you still have alot of options go to connexions is a really good organisation that will help you find a social worker, who will help you find a place to live, and will get some benefits coming your way.

Believe me you have to get help right away. And I know this isnt what you want to here, but consider ALL of your options. If you need someone to talk to email me. Im 18 and pregnant, and have just gone through everything you will go through.

Answer 8

First step tell your mom. If she kicks you out, talk to your school counselor, someone in family planning (health department), or a preacher about options on where to go from this point in your life. Your local health department would be a good source of information on how to take care of yourself and other options besides keeping the baby. Remember you are only 13 and babies are a LIFETIME of care and responsibility. Stay in school and get YOUR EDUCATION. You have to support this child if you decide to keep it. Keeping the child would not be your best option at this point in your life. I'm 37, was adopted, and I have had an incredible life so far. I DO NOT hate my biological mother for the decision she made, I would love to be able to tell her thank you.

Answer 9

Okay dear im not going to say anything bad. I would tell your mom and yes I know u want this baby but you have your life ahead of you your only 13 i say you should abort the baby, your body is not ready for all the changes n I hope this does teach u to wait your so young n look your going to have a baby i am sure your mom will be upset but you have to tell her now I do think an abortion is the way for you to go your so young n not ready to be a mom I wish you all the luck in the world that you do the right thing

Answer 10

Geez, your just a baby yourself! Ok, Do you have another adult you can talk to, like maybe an aunt, your teacher at school, a counselor? Eventually your mum will find out - as you start to show and there is no mistaking that. You really should talk to someone - you will need OB care - vitamins and health checks, to keep you and your baby healthy. Don't do this alone. There are a lot of options out there that the adult you confide in can help you with.

Best of luck to you.