Have you ever been with a nice guy???

Question

I'm talking about a really nice guy the kind that most women talk about but never get involved with. Well i think and I’ve been told i am a nice guy but i starting to think it is a bad thing. In my past ive been dumped because i was too nice and been in a sense walked on because of this too. Im not a p*ssy, i stand up for my women and myself but when it comes to the people im in a relationship with i tend to fold. I've tried to be “tougher” but it is just not me . My question to you is do girls really want a nice guy? and if they do, why when with one do they turn in to jerks? To me it seems like they try to reverse the roles. for example if a woman has always been with an *sshole and thy were the nice guy, then when they find a nice guy they jump into the *sshole position. Would i be happier being like the rest of the male population?

Answer 1

i am a nice guy....but hey that is who i am and im not changing for anyone..i thought that i should change but realized that that is just who i am and how i was brought up...if they cant deal with it then c ya later

NICE 4 LIFE........join da club...and dont change for no one.....we are rare dont let us go extinct......lol

Answer 2

You can only be you and you have tried being the jerk, to no avail. Women want someone who is caring, sensitive and attentive, but who is also assertive, confident and sure of themselves. She doesn't want someone who folds, because then you become the doormat and then comes the game where she is just trying to see how far she can push you, almost like testing her limits and yours. It is good to have a man you can talk to, and who treats you nice, but who will also put you in your place, (politely but firmly) when you are out of line. It is the same with guys when they meet a female who is submissive all the time, the challenge isn't there and he runs all over her, to see how much she's gonna take. It's not right, but there has to be a proper balance of decency and manliness to keep a women interested. Just like a good meal, all the ingredients have to be in the right quantity and properly balanced. So no, don't turn into an jerk, but do assert yourself more and do not allow your feelings to be walked on. Treat people the way they treat you, not everyone is deserving of princess-like treatment. Be more discerning of people and learn to read there character. If you meet a women and she acts condescending or snotty to you, don't let it go, stand up for yourself. You can show her who's the man, without acting and being a jerk. I hope this help. All the best.

Answer 3

There are two parts to getting the girl, the initial attraction and then the relationship-beginning stage. During neither of these should you compromise yourself--women would rather be with an obstinate jerk than someone who will just do whatever they want, but you can find a middle ground. The key to that is remembering that you are worthwhile, and no matter how great she is, you are great too--she isn't doing you a favor by going out with you, so don't cave in when you are right.

For getting that initial attraction to get a first date, you will need to act up a little--not too much, but she should be challenged by you. No matter how good you look, you can't go up to someone and say, "you're beautiful and seem sweet, let's get together", you have to convince her that you are as great of a person as she is, and let her chase you a little bit--you need a little ********* here, and a sense of humor helps too. Once you have her attracted, you can tone down the *********, but never act like you are lucky she's with you until after you are married--she may decide you are right and she needs someone better. You have to stay you if the two of you are going to grow together--if you try to be what she wants you to be, you'll hate yourself and lose her too.

So, once you've been together a little while, you can absolutely be nice--but don't be her doormat. A good (but breakable) rule of thumb when you are first getting together is don't do anything for her that you wouldn't do for one of your male friends--spend too much money, clean her house, etc. Once you've been together longer you can do some of those kinds of favors for her, but don't let yourself be used, and ask for the same kinds of favors she asks of you.

Answer 4

Basically nice guys always end up last. Nice as in very nice. But if you be like every other guy then there nothing unique. Just be yourself and be strong. Not too much sprung or cling. You have your things to do, as well as talking care of your girl when she need you. Thats pretty much will make your relationship last longer, Nice guys are taken advantage by many girls. They think your super nice you care so much they intend to dump you or go out with other guys b/c she knows your still aways going to be there.

Answer 5

I want a nice guy who's a challenge. Someone who will not let me walk all over him and who keeps me guessing sometimes. The problem with nice guys is they make it very clear in the beginning that they will do anything to win and keep a girl. But women tend to lose respect for men like that because they don't seem to have a strong enough personality on their own.

Answer 6

Girls love nice guys for the flowers and the royal treatment they get - but they don't like the guys that bow down to their every whim and can't say no to them..... catch 22!!

There is a song by Usher that says "I want a lady on the street but a freak in the bed"..... this is what girls want too, someone to treat them nice but also be strong when needed.

Ultimately no one likes to be walked over or treated like crap - its up to you to find the right balance with the girl you are with. Good luck :o)

Answer 7

YES, YES! Personally, I want a nice guy. Have I dated nice guys in the past? H*ll no! It's time for a change.
I know how you feel - the whole nice guys finish last thing applies to women as well. I've been waaaaay to nice in my past relationships. I've been mistreated, stepped on and taken advantage of.
Please don't give up being nice. There is a girl out there for you who will genuinely mirror your kindness.

Answer 8

Currently im chasing after a nice guy. I really like the niceness about them and how they are dependable. Being with a nice makes me nicer nad have a better attitude. I dont know but i love nice guys.
Some people say that they are too predictable but hey thats fine with me

Answer 9

ok, Honey, u should just be yourself dont try to change who you are for someone. Most women ,like myself, want a nice guy with manners, not unless when u r on a date u r being to nice to the rest of the girls. I mean u like someone and u take them out to a resturaunt ,lets say, if u have this really nice, cute waiter and u r really really nice to her, then maybe u should stay back some.Women like men with manners. ANd u sound like that kinda guy. JUST BE YOURSELF. E-mail me [e-mail] and let me know if it helps


LUVS

Answer 10

No. Just keep being yourself. The women that have dump you and treated you bad, are insecure and don't know what they want. Yes women do like nice guys and eventually you will find a girl who would respect you and like you for who you are and appreciated. Hang in there

Answer 11

I am married to a nice guy and believe me when I say we all appreciate nice guys and keep on being a nice guy cause eventually you will end up with a nice girl too . good luck to you .