i remain very depressed n insecure,feel i cant do nything in my life,how do i get rid of my hopelessness?

Question

i am 19 years old,i dropped a year for medical field but still cud not get it,now planning to pursue engineering from a good college,but my past failure keeps on hovering over my mind,i feel helpless,lose confidence n underestimate myself,wat do i do???

Answer 1

I really feel for you. I deal with depression too. For me it is hereditary. My mom even tried to kill herself a few years back. I also was a social worker for an outpatient psychiatric clinic until I had to go off work due to my depression and other symptoms.

When you feel like you can't go on another day, try to tell yourself about how people would be affected hearing of you being dead or being at your funneral. Don't feed yourself crap thinking that no one cares about you and that no one would miss you. Deep down, You know that's not true. Try to think of the good things you have planned for you future not the stressful things. I know you feel bad when your not getting propper sleep and then you feel like sleeping all day. For me sometimes I have to sleep all day or when I get super depressed laying down and going to sleep with help clear my head to where I don't feel as bad when I wake up.

I also have anxiety and panic attacks. Over the last few years I have forced myself to chase the thoughts out of my head that people are talking about me, don't like me, making fun of me, or thinking bad things about me. Try to tell yourself good things, smile at people when you walk past them, a simple hello as you walk past a person, hold the door open for people (even as a female), Vocalize your thank yous, your welcomes, and excuse mes. I know that that may seem off the subject but you will find yourself thinking how people must think your really nice. Show that you really care about people expecially when you don't feel like you care about yourself.

Have you ever gone in for counseling or to a support group? There also should be a "Crisis hotline", in your town for people to call and talk to when they are feeling down. Even a Depression chat room online can be helpful. Get it out in the open even if it's to people who don't know you.

As far as your medications go, don't hesitate to call your doctor in between appointments. They can also increase your prescription, change it, or add something to it. I had been on 12 different antidepressants before they found one that works for me. Not all of them are going to work for you either. But keep trying. Even with the one I am on, I still deal with depression on a daily basis and extreemly worse the week before my period. But I have to hold on the the thoughts of how It would affect people who love me if I was gone and that I know there will be a time when the depression will ease up even if only for a day. We are all loved even if we don't feel like it at times.

You can also take hot baths, showers, color, listen to music, read, watch a movie. Some of that stuff usually doesn't take alot of energy to do. You may have to force yourself at times. When you find yourself with energy, try working or volunteering in a field where you can help other people. You will begin to find a purpose and you may worry less about your stressors and more about others.

What ever you do, please don't hurt yourself. I hope that even if it's not me, someone on here can give you some sort of advise to help you through this.

For a while only worry about taking care of things around your house that has to be done. like paying bills or eating. Dishes and cleaning aren't going to kill you if you don't get them done right now, or even today.

Please take care of yourself,

Answer 2

I would not worry so much about not finishing your medical schooling. It wasn't a waste of time. Look at it from the view. Think about all the education and knowledge that you did receive from that schooling. You might actually realize that you gained even though you didn't complete it. I would also be proud of myself that you have the courage and desire to keep pursueing your education. It does not matter which field you go in. Many people have multiple educations and experience. You will actually end up better off for it. Just keep thinking about your accomplishemnts and where they will lead and stop worrying about things you can't control.You feel much better.

Look at life as is the glass half full or half empty.

Answer 3

You are only 19 years old. I think it is normal for people to feel the way you are feeling. You are disappointed. Just keep pursuing education in some form and one day the light will go on for you. Sometimes things don't end up the way we hope; however, that does not mean you are a failure. You are young and have plenty of time to explore the world of careers. Don't be so hard on yourself. Relax, enjoy yourself, and learn all you can. Things will work out if you keep working on yourself.

Answer 4

Its hard to say. For the hoplessness:
If you're religious try talking to a youth pastor at a local non denominational church. They tend to have some very good advice since (at least some of them) have been there themselves.
You could also try talking to a counselor at your college.


Mostly I would concentrate on what it is you need to do to achieve your goals. Right now worry about your core classes and get your AAS done and over with. Its not uncommon for college students to change their majors 3 or 4 times before they graduate. Mostly because they're still young and don't really know what it is they want to do with their lives. I'd say you're pretty normal for a 19 year old, except you worry a little too much. :-)

Answer 5

whatever mistakes you have made are in the past. Today is your day to change it. DO NOT sit on your butt and say Ill do it tomorrow. Get up NOW and turn it all around. 19 years old is way to young to be throwing in the towel, I don't care what you've been through. The human brain is capable of recovering no matter what. Im sure you're a great girl, and if not, you can become one now if its what you really want. So, what are you waiting for? Get up, get out, get a hobby, get a friend, get a book, get a sandwich, get a game, get some exercise, get a new cd, just GET UP AND GET OUT!

19 years old. Time to shine.

Answer 6

Oh honey, so sorry. Must be tough time for you.

But you see, sometimes when things don't work out as planned, it would be better to take a breather. Step back and take time to think. Get your mind of it for a while and relax. You could be burned out. You need to re-charge to get a fresh outlook. At this time, it would help to be around people who genuinely care about you. If you have a religion, prayer works wonders.

The idea my dear is to get back that zest in life that fuels your drive to find that purpose you have chosen in life. Just remember, you surely have a place in this world. If the road doesn't lead to where you expect, then it could only be to somewhere better. That's a promise!

Answer 7

Hai, you are young person who has spirit life...friend if u like to continue in medical field there are variety of courses u can study like physiotherapy,occupational therapy,psychology,nutrition and dietics ,etc..friend first relax urself and find out ur interest..then set a path to ur goal, never feel bad about ur past .... feel that u gained a experience in life...generate positive thoughts in ur self never look back ur past ...u r 19 sure u can achieve a lot...so start a new life choosing a good course in a good college with confidence...wish u all the best....

Answer 8

Maybe this sounds like lots of things you've heard, but you are very young and 'failures' are part of life.

If you're smart enough to get into a good college, you can't really be a failure.

Also, so-called 'failures' can be lessons. Perhaps the lesson is that you don't really want to go into the medical field.

You are still growing...let the process unfold.

Answer 9

You seem to put a lot on your plate. It is fine to set a standard for yourself but it becomes counter productive when it is not personally attainable. Know what you want and know if you truly can do it. That's your homework, personally. Socially, try to surround yourself with positive people who would support you in your choices and its outcomes whether they're attained or not. We are only responsible for our actions...You are at that age where you are choosing a major towards a career and it can cause such pressure, however, remember, an average American (assuming you are here) changes career atleast 3x in their entire lifetime. I am in my 20's and already heading on to nursing after 6 years of working in the human services field. All the best to you and BREATHE!

Answer 10

Perhaps, that person feels that everything is beyond hope. But I beg to differ. I believe that as long as one is still alive and when there's a will, there's a way - and all problems can be surmounted. Feeling of hopelessness may happen, but we must understand that when we are at the depth of despair and beyond hope, there is only one way - UP - and things will be better.

Answer 11

You sound like you feel powerless.

We often can't control the circumstances of our lives but we can control our behaviour and responses. Depression usually arises when we feel out of control so look at how and where you lack self control.

By practising self control, you will take back your empowerment and helplessness, hopelessness and depression disappear and the way forward becomes much clearer. Only you will know in what areas of your life you lack self control. Identify it, change it.