cat thingy...?

Question

hi there, my brother has a male 3 year old cat which is very affectionate but also very territorial and he lives at my parents house, and he adores me. I´m planning on getting a cat for me, I spend weekends on their house constantly and I don´t know what´s better for me and the cat, if I get a female or another male. I hear that females are less affectionate and not as loyal as male cats and as in for my brother´s I´m afraid he will become aggressive if I get a male cat because they would be both territorial even if the new one is a kitten, so this is my dilemma, if anyone has an opinion it will be very appreciated.

thank you so much for your answers, the cat my brother has is already spayed...every comment has been very helpful.

Answer 1

I've heard that it's best to get two cats of the same gender, because male cats tend to play and fight rougher than females! If both males are fixed it shouldn't be a problem; if one or both are not fixed, then you probably will have problems with spraying, fighting, etc.

When I was growing up, we had two cats, a male and female (both fixed). The male cat definitely played rougher and started most of the fights! But the female cat was the affectionate one; the male cat almost never let us pet him!

Now my husband and I have two fixed male cats. We adopted the first cat when he was about 8 months old, and after we had that cat for about 6 months, we adopted a 4-month-old kitten. The vet warned us that they would probably fight for 2 or 3 weeks before they got along; but surprisingly, they only fought for 24 hours and then they were friends! While they do occasionally fight mean, most of the time you can tell they are just playing when they "fight" -- though they do play rougher than the female I had growing up! And even though their personalities are opposite in almost every way, they get along great! In fact, our two male cats get along much better than the male and female I had growing up!

If you do adopt a kitten, watch how the two cats interact. If the older cat tries to hurt the younger one, you'll want to keep them separated when you're not there to supervise them until they get along. Even if you get a female, it might take them awhile to get along, or at least it did with the male and female I had!

Answer 2

My experiences accord with your own, but of course at the end of the day it's all down to the temperament of the individual cat and that can't be answered until you get it.

I've found male cats are very territorial, having them spayed tends to stop them spraying but doesn't change much else.
I tried adding a kitten to a house with a resident male cat and it literally tried to kill it.
I've done the same thing with a female cat and though there was a little spitting at first it's something that settles down after a while.

All I had to do was keep and eye on things while the kitten was tiny.......they even tend to go hide somewhere the bigger cat can't get when things get rough.

Trust me, you WILL be able to tell the difference between a little disliking the newcomer and outright hostility......cats may be silent killers but they sure don't die quietly.
I was soon aware of what my male cat was trying to do and could step in and deal with it.

On the plus side, I've always found male cats to be more affectionate.
My female cats are nice and all that....but just don't like a good loving as much.

It definitely depends on the cat though, I have a resident female to which I added another female kitten less than a year ago.......there was friction at first but nothing life threatening.
Now things are all settled down and the older cat is the more friendly to us than the kitten.

Remember, your resident cat may feel put out by the kitten and spend more time away as a result.

Answer 3

All cats are different, but it has been proven that male cats tend to be more laid back. However, it also depends on the breed. If you get an orange tabby, like "Morris", and you get a male, odds are that the cat will be the most easy going cat you ever have. Maine Coon cats tend to be large, but are incredible hunters...may be a bit too aggressive for you. I have two male cats and they tend to get along okay. It's a little bit too soon to tell...one is 5 years old and the other is 4 months old. As you can imagine, the 4 month old is a little too playful, but he's a kitten. Hope this has helped! =)

Answer 4

I've had both male and female cats, and I've found that the females are just as affectionate as the males, plus they're less likely to bite and scratch when playing. Is your brother's cat neutered? If not, it would definately not be a good idea to get another male, they'd both probably start spraying around the house and fighting each other. I would recommend getting a female cat, they would probably get along better.
Good luck, Mags

Answer 5

Female cats are extremely loving. Two males together unless they are both very young kittens is a no-no. Don't be surprised if the older male begins spraying to mark his territory when you get the other cat male or female.

Answer 6

I have had both male and female cats, and both can be really lovies. But I think the females are more affectionate. I have one now that follows me around and meows at me to get me to sit so she can get in my lap. She and her sister will also jump up on me to ride on my shoulder. So I think a female can be just as loving, and less likely to fight with the male. But one or both better be neutered or you will have more kittens!

Answer 7

Gender will not matter, especially if the felines involved have been spayed or neutered. And these kitties will simply have to get used to smelling eachother on you.

I've had a number of kitties who were prone to jealousy. And I often spend the weekends with my parents, who have a cat and a virtual pack of dogs. There were no undue difficulties from that.

Answer 8

He will be better with a female kitten, and they are lovely it all depends on the cat itself how they are. A female is much more affectionate when they have been spayed.
Good Luck
xXx

Answer 9

Maybe you can keep your male cat at your other house.

I wouldn't put them in the same house if your brothers cat is territorial.
It may hurt your cat.

Answer 10

they are both okay, if the kitten and male cat are together, you will have to watch them.