How do you get the office creep to leave you alone?

Question

I am involved and pregnant and the new guy at my work (who is flirting with every other women in sight) will not leave me alone. Everyday he is sending emails, that I do not respond to, he always is finding some stupid excuse to talk to me, and he will not leave me alone. I have told him I am engaged, pregnant, and not interested. However, I guess he sees how I act with my co-worker friends and he thinks that that is okay behavior for him to do as well. But he is not understanding that we have known each other for 3 years and he's only been here a month. He gets creepier and creepier everyday and I have been nice about it. However, this morning he decided to touch my head randomly and now I am fed up. What should I do? I've been ignoring him and walking away, but when he walks into my office and blocks me from getting up, it gets really bothersome. Help!

Answer 1

He is probably just trying to be friendly BUT touching at work is inappropriate.

I'd tell him "I really don't appreciate being touched at work. We're real busy here, please don't email me unless it just about work".

Or something like that. If you don't want to confront him, go to your supervisor or HR manager.

Answer 2

Unless you are worried for your safety, or it has gone beyond him touching your hand, I would not necessarily go to HR immediately without trying to handle it yourself.

I had to deal with the same situation, only worse, the person doing the harrassing was the golden boy in my office, so you can imagine the scandal and the whole my-word-against-yours had I filed a complaint.

Instead, I saved the inappropriate IMs, and told him very clearly that his comments and actions were unacceptable, and made me feel uncomfortable and I never wanted to be approached in that manner again, with any sexual innuendo, either in person, or by message, or I will report him for harrassment.

I don't forgive the guy, he's a jerk. He was married, having problems with his wife, and has since figured it out. He stopped bothering me, his career was not destroyed. I was not involved in any scandal, and he's since left the company on his own.

Btw, I also made sure that a few of my co-workers knew what was going on as an insurance plan.

Answer 3

Since you have told him you are not interested and things have progressed, it is probably time to talk to people above this guy's head. Save all emails and other evidence of his activity, and inform your supervisor that his behavior needs to stop. If your office has a harrassment policy, follow its instructions with regard to informing people about the situation. If this guy's behavior doesn't halt within a week of you talking to your supervisor, inform the supervisor that you have grounds to sue for workplace harrassment. (After all, the emails have been frequent, the 'creep' has made physical contact with you, and the 'creep' and the supervisor have ignored your requests for this behavior to stop.) If things still don't stop, start looking for a good lawyer.

Answer 4

Enough already!

He has blocked your way, harrassed you, now he has touched you.

Go to HR immediately and also, see a lawyer re; information for a law suit personnally against this bozo. A consultation is not expensive.

Tell him none of the above. Let it be a lovely surprise.

Should HR not do anything to stop this, the company may be in a position to be sued as well.

Don't put up with this BS and ABUSE.

Answer 5

You can pull him aside and tell him you will involve HR if he continues and or just go to HR and make a complaint. You can minimize the severity of the situation by just telling them you are distracted by him and just want there to be separation, if you don't want to make too much of a big deal. It is the best way of handling it and making sure he understands just how serious you are.

Answer 6

Tell him you are HIV positive. That way he'll be afraid of YOU and will go out of his way to NOT be around you. If you don't like lying try this... Nag him. Ask him questions, get opinions, from him and keep doing it to the point where is gets sick of it and then will leave you alone. Remeber the objective isn't to leave you alone as much as it is for him to exclusively bug all the other ladies in the office.

P.S. -- Is this "creep" ugly or decent looking?

Answer 7

you need to tell him clearly you don't like him touching you. if you want to be serious you can report that he touched you to HR. But, the first step they always counsel you on is that you have to tell the person its unacceptable and not welcome.

as for him not being able to talk to you, I think he's just trying to fit into the office. maybe your teammates can help him get adjusted instead of you being the only one. every time he comes up to you, try to get one of your officemates in the discussion and then leave. possibly let you manager know if they're cool. maybe they'll take notice and come to save you from this person.

Answer 8

Tell him the next time he harasses you that you do not like it and the next time he does it he will be reported for harassment.

If he blocks you and you feel threatened, defend yourself. Tell him to stop blocking you. Say it loud enough so your coworkers can hear. If he does not move, a good kick in the crotch or pushing him so he lands on his rear will work.

Answer 9

Tell HR or your manager.

*Or start discussing the REALLY gross things about being pregnant (most men would run).
Make up stuff if you have to. Just make sure its nasty.
He won't find you so attractive and your and your buddies will get a good laugh.

Answer 10

Takes notes such as date/time and what happened and then go to HR with a harassment claim. Either it will end or his employment will end, and if not then get a good lawyer to handle it for you. It shouldn't ever get to that point but you never know.