my freind want me to have is baby but hes already have 6 kids n 5 babymomz. he want me to have one cuz hes diying from lung cancer. what to do? give him last baby or not. help me!
2007-06-07 05:50:55 · 23 answers · asked by licky toto 4 life 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Are you kidding us? You can't even be thinking that this is a good idea? What!?!? comeover here so I can shake you!!!
2007-06-07 05:54:10 · answer #1 · answered by modsax 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
ok, so he wants you to have his child?
he has 6 children already. Hun do you really want to be #7? If he is dying that's no reason to bring a child into the world- that's a reason not to. Do you wan to deal with telling your child why his father isn't around and all of that? It's not fair to the child.
I really think people should think about the child before becoming pregnant.
You'd be a single mother- that's no fun. It's tough being a mother and I don't think any woman or man should have to do it alone.
This isn't that tough of an issue. The answer is you shouldn't do it. He's not going to be around the see the child for that long and then he'll be gone...everytime you look at your child you will see him and that can be really hard on a person.
You need to think about the child, your life, your income and future.
Can you handle being a single mother?
He's planted his seed enough times with enough women. Does he really need to get you pregnant as well?
Is he a good father to the children he already has? What if he ends up surviving cancer (my mom did!) then he'd have 1 more child (maybe more if you have twins) can he do that? Children are expensive. They're roughly $56 thousand to raise and that's not including, private schooling, college, university, sports and music programs, etc. Can you afford that? Honestly it's very very expensive to raise a child and when you're doing it alone it cost even more!
Child are amazing but they should only be brought into the world when a loving married (preferably) couple are wanting to make a child and love, care for, etc the child. Not because someone is dying.
2007-06-07 05:56:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
#1 where is he in the lives of these other kids????
#2 find out from the other woman that he has kids with if he used the same excuse???
#3 he is thinking of himself. why leave another child in this world fatherless and place the burden on tax payers to support another mother on welfare.
#4 for you to even ask this question obviously means you have no understnading of what it takes ot raise a child.
#5 DO NOT HAVE HIS KID. something dont sound right
2007-06-07 05:56:07 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If what you say is true, that is a sad little story..... but, I do believe he has left behind enough name sakes to suffer alone and along thru life with NO daddy...... I think it is kinda selfish of him to even ask you to do this...... when he is gone there will be ONLY YOU to support this child and to make sure it is taken care of........ he is leaving behind 6 ?? that alone tells me what I need to know about this man..... sorry, but in this day and age there is NO excuse for this....... I know he is looking at it from a different angle than me, but the bottom line is all these kids he is leaving behind will never have a daddy..... is there ONE good reason YOU can think of to grant this wish ??? God bless
2007-06-07 05:57:46 · answer #4 · answered by Annie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he has plenty of children already. Not to mention the fact that he is dieing and won't be around to enjoy the child anyway. Why would you want your child to grow up without a father anyway? DO NOT HAVE HIS BABY.
2007-06-07 05:55:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you should only have a baby if you want one because you will be the one taking care of it... he has enough kids why would you do that for him... you guys are not even together... he is dying of lung cancer.... he will not be living for much longer and he is going to leave you to take care of everything... if you have his baby... in my opinion... that is stupid!
2007-06-07 05:59:07 · answer #6 · answered by Broken Blue Eyes 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hell no he has plenty of kids and BM's for a damn BBall team why would you want to be stuck raising a child all by your lonesome. I say unless you and your child will inherit a small fortune once he kicks the bucket then he is out of his everlasting mind.
2007-06-07 05:55:28 · answer #7 · answered by mrsknowitall 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The only problem that I have with this is if you have the baby then when he dies then what will you do with a baby and no father.That is what you need to think about
2007-06-07 05:55:53 · answer #8 · answered by hendersonswoman 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He has 6 children with 5 different women?!?!
Sounds to me like he is feeding you a line of BS about dying. This poor excuse for a man is a walking poster child for irresponsible parenting and STD and HIV/AIDS.
2007-06-07 05:53:36 · answer #9 · answered by kja63 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Ew no, he has enough! Why bring a baby into the world with a dead dad? Yea, thats a great life. Tell him yuoll get him a goldfish.
2007-06-07 05:53:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
if u r ready for a baby and u love this guy then i dont see why not. but then again its gonna be twice as hard on u when he does pass away because u r gonna have to raise this baby by ur self. if he takes care of all of his kids but if not then no. its really up to u
2007-06-07 05:54:05 · answer #11 · answered by crissy 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋