I still need help with my family issue?

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Ok, so if I lived with a friend (im more or less looking at a coach), would my dad try to force his way to the courts and put me back in his home? Again, he is abusive. But by law he must pay for my high school tuition because of the divorce, or he could go to jail. The conditions that he doesn't have to pay for any tutition is if I join the military, drop out, or get married. All 3 of those things arn't gonna happen. I don't want to get lynched if I lived with my dad, both at home and in school. I don't want everyone in town to think I can't face reality. I am sick of being spit in the face by everyone and the only chance I actually feel good about myself when it comes to school is going to be taken away from me. Please I need help. I am 16 too.

Answer 1

If you aren't going to live with your dad, you need to have your parents (the ones moving) to make the people/friends you are going to live with become your legal guardians. That is the only legally safe way to stay away from your dad, but it may be difficult to set up a situation like that where you dad would still be the one paying for your school. You could also look into emancipation since you are going to be living without your parents anyway. You should also talk to your school about tuition assistance or financial aid just in case you need to pay for it a different way. Good luck with everything.

Answer 2

From the US:

This is a tough question. Do you have proof that your dad is abusive - like medical records showing abuse?

At 16, you can ask to meet with the judge who granted the divorce and custody/child support etc. and speak with him about your concerns. Bring all the paperwork you can find about the divorce and any proof that your dad is abusive - police records, medical records, etc. and ask the judge to help you in this awful time.

There may or may not be much that can be done about this - but you can at least ask for help from the courts.

Answer 3

I am so so sorry this is happening to you Sweetheart and It really makes me very sad because I can almost feel your pain. So lets see what we can do to help you. First- who has full custody of you? Your mom? If so she can allow you to stay with a friend if it is in your best interest. By the sound of your father-it would be. Please stay with a friend. It sounds like the police know of your father. Which I hope they do because it can help you more then you realize. You are 16. The courts will listen to what you think would be better for you since you are past the age of 15. Keep all records of your father being abusive. No courts my dear will make you return to a father such as yours. I am so glad to hear that you really want to make something of yourself. And I know you will overcome this. It is easier said then done-I know. If your father does try to make problems for you-remember you are at the age where in the courts you can fight him back. Hang in there please. You really dont have all that long before you graduate and then off to collage. You can do it-I know you can. Do not for any reason stay with your father. Your father sounds like he has some very serious issues with himself. Believe me when I say you have nothing to do with your fathers behavior. I would go ahead stay with the friend and just take it from there. Who knows maybe your father wont even bother you. But you need to go ahead and take the first step before you worry about the next. If there happens to be a next step then go for it. You have rights my dear and one of those rights is to be able to live day by day with out being abused. Please keep us posted. If you need more help we are here for you. I know I speak for everyone when I say we would worry about you if you didnt keep in contact. Always remember for every person who doesnt like you 20 more do.

Answer 4

Yeah, I agree with the first answer. Have mom and stepdad see a lawyer and get things set up legally for your protection. If it is in the divorce decree that he pay your tuition, he has to pay your tuition. Good luck, Honey.