My friend has three children,one boy aged 7 years, one aged 7 months, and a girl aged 4. The eldest boy has started to 'spy' on his parents whilst they are showering or changing, and my friend caught him telling his little sister to 'lick his bum', he has also started to touch himself, quite blatently infront of everyone.
Is this normal behaviour for a boy of his age... or is he a bit disturbed?
2007-06-07 05:07:08 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I would like to add, he is generally quite a quiet kid, very sweet and pleasant. His parents are great and would never allow him to see what they might get upto in the bedroom.
His mum has set down with him on several occasions and told him the behaviour is not acceptable, and asked him why he's doing it, but he just looks at her with either a blank face, or a silly grin, and will not speak!
2007-06-07 05:17:18 · update #1
My son went through the same sort of thing at exactly the same age!! I wondered about him too but talking to him everytime and asking him why seemed to calm it down a bit till it passed. Hes 9 now and doesnt even remember doing anything like THAT! Hes on to other destructive behaviour that comes with being a healthy 9 year old so tell them they have THAT to look forward to too.
2007-06-07 05:50:53 · answer #1 · answered by debcando2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
His dad should take him out for a day of boy fun. While they are out doing whatever they enjoy doing together then his father should just talk to him. Let him know that his behavior isn't acceptable and just ask if he has any questions that would like to be answered. NO, I'm not saying tell him about the birds and the bees but just let his son lead the conversation and make sure he knows he's not in trouble. If he thinks he's in trouble then he might not open up.
2007-06-07 17:06:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually, the touching of oneself is normal at a slightly younger age, which makes me wonder if the youngin perhaps has seen what his parents have done/heard what they have said. Mind you, kids aren't loud when they want to go see their mom and dad in the middle of the night because of a bad dream.
At the very least, speaking with a family physician may be in their best interest either for reassurance, or for better help.
2007-06-07 06:33:58 · answer #3 · answered by Harley 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have you checked what he has been watching TV, sometimes when we think they are too busy playing , the pay mind to more then we think. It doesn't mean he is watching porno or anything, or that the parent lets him watch unsuitable things it could be a babysitter, uncle or even grandma they might just flipped the TV on and walked out of the room and not payed mind what was on it.
2007-06-07 06:27:29 · answer #4 · answered by nudreams2006 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the two. From what you're saying, looks such as you would be better soft to this manner of element. the certainty that an area with a lot of youngsters working around enjoying at the same time makes you frightened is a super purple flag - I advise, this is exceedingly a lot the yank Dream. Are you a city new child? Preschool age youngsters disclose their genitals to different little ones because of the fact they are nevertheless exploring their bodies, study concerning the adaptation between boys and females with the aid of "coach and tell" video games, and have not yet found out to be ashamed of their bare selves. it incredibly is all popular. nevertheless, a boy attempting to pee on different youngsters is somewhat unusual. i could advise which you communicate to the different dad and mom and see if all of us has further this as much as his dad and mom. they might desire to learn (the two with the aid of you, you and your husband or each and every of the dad and mom at the same time) that her little boy is dazzling and you are able to wish to have him have the means to proceed enjoying with your little ones, yet you're worried that this habit is irrelevant. merely... shop an eye fixed out. do no longer gossip approximately it yet shop an eye fixed out, now and lower back (i do no longer want to alarm you unduly) this manner of performing out might nicely be a demonstration that a new child is being sexually abused. meanwhile, until eventually his mom is spoken to, enable your daughter to play with each and every of the little ones which contains him, yet prepare her that if his pants come down, she is to return abode at modern-day and show you how to recognize.
2016-10-07 01:24:20 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I had a 7 year old doing that kind of stuff, I would take him to a therapist or something. I find what he wanted his little sister to do quite disturbing. I would wonder what else it could lead to.
2007-06-07 05:17:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's probably normal, but I would definately have a talk with him about what can and cannot be done. He acts like he could take it further than that, so talk with him soon before it gets too out of control.
2007-06-07 05:11:15 · answer #7 · answered by Amanda M 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's rediscovering himself. The parents should be careful to conseal themselves as much as possible. The best thing though is to have him ask questions and they being parents can choose what they will answer now and whichones they will tell him are to be answered later.
2007-06-07 05:11:32 · answer #8 · answered by KrzyMom2 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wish I could tell you, but I can't. I think his parents need to have a firm talk with about what is appropriate and what's not, and if that doesn't work, outside help might be necessary.
2007-06-07 05:10:14 · answer #9 · answered by Trisha 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your really worried about this take him to see a profecional but I would say he is just normal. Some one does need to talk to him about modesty and what's right/wrong.
2007-06-07 05:16:51 · answer #10 · answered by Rochelle N 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋