me. I know abortion isnt right so everyone can hate all they want on me. No one knows what the situation was, so f*** you if you are just going to tell me to go to hell. I am trying to get thru all of this and be okay. Trust me I do feel like I am the worst person alive for doing it. But now I feel like I have nothing. I NEED ADVICE ON HOW TO BE A BETTER PERSON AND GAIN SOME CONFIDENCE, because I have none. I want to prove to everyone I can be that woman.
2007-06-07 05:03:35 · 14 answers · asked by I love my life 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
look, nobody has a right to judge you. So let that hatred go...you have enough to deal with without letting someone else's opinion get in the way of your healing. i too have had an abortion, and I don;t regret it. I did what I had to do, and no one but me and my man were there...so it is no one else's business. I regret that I got pregnant, and still beat myself up for putting myself in that position. But you cannot go backwards, only forward. You cannot change the poast, but you can control your future...by l;earning from your mistake. A strong woman is made up of all of her circumstances...boith good and bad. A strong woman has lived life, and participated actively. A strong woman feels pain and loss, and helps others through their's. A strong woman is not BORN, a strong woman is CREATED THROUGH CIRCUMSTANCE. A strong woman does what she needs to do for herslef, to make herself a better person. A strong woman defines her own strength...she does not let society define it for her. And lastly, a storng woman takes all things into consideration, and makes the best decision for all involved..and then suffers those consequences without being the victim. YOU are a strong woman, who has exercised her brain, and her rights. Keep on keepin on...
2007-06-07 05:33:55 · answer #1 · answered by hichefheidi 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you can come to terms with the abortion, you will be a stronger person. After that, set more small goals for yourself and accomplish them. Life is a learning experience and you have to go out on a limb and take risks to learn. As for the abortion, no matter whether others think it is right or wrong, it is your body and you made the decision based on the best interest of you and your life. Know that being able to cope with a situation like that, in the long run, makes you a better person.
2007-06-07 05:10:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you are already a strong woman you made a very hard decision and stood by it. Just stop making you feel so bad. Moreover, think well about yourself and try to move on. I know it is hard to move past this type of situation because people are always filling up your head about having the abortion, but you did it for a reason whatever that reason is it was worth it to you. Now, if your boyfriend is causing more of this negativity then you need to leave it at the door because wrong or right he needs to support you at your time in need. I think this feeling is normal after you have abortion a person does attend to have moments of regret, but believe me you will get past it.
2007-06-07 05:25:56 · answer #3 · answered by Mami 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, being a strong person is not visble (muscle...etc..) Being strong is not having an attitude because thats the first thing I thought when I read the beginning. You have to know that you're strong. Take some boxing classes and get all the anger and stress out. But don't take it out on the world. Get your mind right. Don't keep beating yourself up over the abortion. If you thought that was right at the time for you then it was. You have to live and learn. Forgive, but don't forget the mistakes you made, just accept it so you won't make that mistake again. ~Everything that happens is for a reason~
2007-06-07 05:19:43 · answer #4 · answered by Chicago 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well for one thing I don't blame you for doing what you did. After all, everyone does something without thinking about it untill it's too late and then. most of the time it's ireversable, and I guess some of us get licky enough to get a second chance. what you should do to become a stronger woman and prove to everyone that you're not a stupid b**** is to make a difference in you're live and to try to change. as i can see from you're question i know you have the wiil to do that. one thing I sugest is even if you are going to say 'oh look this girl thinks i'm going to talk to god and he's going to make everything ok, sure he is F*** that!' I want you to know that what i'm saying is true and he does help. trust me, a few weeks ago i would have said the same thing about him and wouldnt have even tried to help my problem at all, but now I asked him one time to rid me of all my sins and already i feel better. now you have to belive me when I tell you but dont worry, this guilt free life won't come easy and right now my friends are telling me that i should just call you a nasty hoe who just wants to do every guy she's with but Im not going to . because i am not a 'people' person as you would say so every one thinks im easy to trick or that i'm gullible. if so i still want to help you because not saying it to offend you, just to show you what you are. you were really stupid for doing that and i'm guessing to young for it too. and i just want you to know that hookers and prostitutes start off like you did and never get out of it. but anyway i dont think you're going to do that ever again or else why give youre personal trageties out like this? here are some things you can do to help
*ask god to forgive you and you forgive others who have hurt you.
*ask you're boyfriend straight -up if he's giong to be with you and you only or let go of you and go find someoe else.
*dont pressure yourself over this problem, just look to the future and think at how luky you were not to have been forced to have the baby
*try to find a good well- rounded hobby or try to study if you're stll in school to become a A+ student(that should help with the confidence and the better person part)
* there always is counceling that way you can show how you really want a second change and that you will fight for it!
*just be yourself and hope for the best because if you do it's garunteed that you will be given a second chance at life. good luck and let me know how it ends!
2007-06-07 05:43:33 · answer #5 · answered by bigfoot 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What it sounds like you need right now is a chance to mourn what was lost, and a chance to heal, physically, mentally, emotionally, spiritually, etc. Perhaps going to a counselor would help. A counselor would be a neutral party that you can speak to, who won't judge you, and can either just listen, or advise you - whatever you need best.
I'm so sorry for everything you've gone through. That already makes you a stronger person. And you'll be stronger still when you're able to work through all of this. Ignore any insults as they don't know what you've been through and they have no right to judge. Just know that there is at least one person out there thinking good thoughts for you and giving you one big cyber hug!
2007-06-07 05:17:56 · answer #6 · answered by Erin 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First, slow down, take a deep breath and relax. I'm not here to judge you, but I warn you there will be hateful things said to you...just ignore them. You did what you thought was best and now you live with the consequences. People do things everyday and they must live with the consequences of their actions. #1 You are not a bad person. You were in a bad position and took the best option for you at thaat moment.
#2 Forgive yourself. If you don't, it will eat you alive from the inside and you won't survive it. #3. Get counseling. planned parenthood can help you with that and it is important. #4. Circle the wagons. This means surround yourself with your best friends. You will need them. #5. You are the only person who can heal you. Utilize all the options I have listed and you are welcome to contact me anytime you want. Get my email through my bio page. You'll get through this but it will take time. I care.
2007-06-07 06:13:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like you have already been through a lot. As the saying goes, what doesn't kill us makes us stronger. My guess is that you'll definitely come out of this situation much stronger than you were before. However, I think it would also be a good idea for you to confide in people you trust, such as your friends and family. If it's necessary, you could even consider talking to a therapist. It sounds like you definitely have a lot you need to talk about!
2007-06-07 05:08:00 · answer #8 · answered by tangerine 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you are right when you say that abortion is WRONG. But, since you went through with it put everything behind you and start living for the future!!! Secondly, you DON"T have to prove yourself to anyone but GOD!! I don't know if you go to church or not but if you don't maybe you should start. God's grace and mercy and love should and will be sufficient for you!!
Keep you head high no matter what the situation is........
2007-06-07 05:16:00 · answer #9 · answered by Alisha 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i do no longer think that. What I do have self assurance although, is that if there have been a god, all those christians that pat themselves on the lower back for judging persons, fairly it fairly is a woman who had to make a no longer difficulty-free decision or a guy who fell in love with yet another guy, or despite, are no longer getting that cost ticket to heaven they think of they have coming.
2016-10-07 01:24:01 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋