my wife has been planning to divorce me for a long time, so i have been told and due to an argument with our son where she felt it right to intervene i pushed her away leaving a bruise on her arm. She called the police. The argument carried on over the week end -our son pays nothing towards the house and has been working for the last 12 months. This time i pushed my son away as he was being really rude etc. The police were called again and i was arrested and given restraining order. I can no longer go to my house or do anything which involves them. I can't get my clothes or even my shaving equipment, i have no money hardley. What can i do, i feel such a victim in this. Thanks in advance
2007-06-07 04:53:18 · 15 answers · asked by Audrey L 1 in Politics & Government ➔ Law Enforcement & Police
I would just like to say when i said i pushed my wife and son away i did it mainly as they were in my space. 1) i was on the telephone and she tried to get it off me, i pushed passed her and she fell against the door frame. 2) my son came at me and i felt i had to restrain him and i pushed him away, no marks on his body. Trouble is the police believe other wise, why is it the women always get the help and the home. I am having to live the other side of the country away from my friends and neighbours? Just doesn't seem fair, thats why i call myself a victim!!!
2007-06-07 06:34:51 · update #1
i would go and seek legal advice,it sounds like you are getting the bad end of it,i hope it all works out for you, they should allow you to go and get your things, I'm sure your lawyer will help you with that, keep safe,all the best
2007-06-09 12:53:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Rule #1: Never make physical contact in a domestic issue or SOMEbodies going to jail!
Rule #2: If you were given a "condition of bond" or are the subject of a restraining order....do NOT go making telephone calls or visiting the house until such time as you're released from either!
Have a friend make arrangements in your stead to obtain the necessities you desire.
Hire an attorney to take care of the issue for you!
Best wishes...but quit pushing others around and control your temper!
2007-06-07 04:59:50 · answer #2 · answered by KC V ™ 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well seeing as you pushed both your wife & son away I dont really see how you are the victim. Your wife is the one left with a bruised arm because you pushed her.
As for the restraining order you can have a police officer escort you to the home to get a few of your belongings or you can request that a police officer goes to the home and has your wife pack some of your belongings.
I dont know what to say about the pushing ordeal but thats my advice for the restraining order.
2007-06-07 05:01:04 · answer #3 · answered by NCIS ♥ Addict 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You will need to use a third party to obtain your personal property. (friend, cop, attorney) I don't know how your restraining order is written but some even no contact via telephone. If your doesn't have these words, arrange to have your property picked up at a set date and time by a third party. You are entitled to your personal property.
Do you have a copy of your restraining order? Read all the limitations that are listed on it. How may feet you have to stay away from the victim.
If your wife should allow to take back be sure the restraining orders is removed before you go back.
2007-06-07 05:04:26 · answer #4 · answered by Patrick M 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
In order to get your personal belongings you can call the police station and request a civil standby from the police. You are allowed to take your personal belongings. Rest of it (money) is a legal question dependent on your state law. Consult an attorney or organizations which provide free legal advise.
This forum is not the best way to get answers of this sort since there are too many variable invovled.
2007-06-07 04:58:41 · answer #5 · answered by Raja 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well Audrey since you have been in prison and lost your job, you are having a hard time.Seems to me she trying to get rid of you for a long time. You need see doctor for your depression too. You need get your life back on track.
The law is changed to give women the right of abode in SUSPECTED cases of domestic abuse. Since she was deemed "in need" of protection.The women now 9/10 points of law to help them. Best keep away from her.You will get upset and anything can be accused for more.Get someone else to make a formal request to get your things from the house. Your friend could do it on your behalf. Get a place time, your friend get the things.
With regard to the house. If you jointly owned or shared a house,ask a solicitor to see about putting the house on the market.You are entitled to half the money to setup you up again
There are many associations to point you in the wrong direction.Go to a Citzens Advice Bureau. In your circumstances legal advice/help is free. Its a common case
As soon as you close this relationship the better.Sounds like trouble to your life.Don't medicate yourself.Talk to others. I hope you can talk to your son again.
2007-06-07 05:28:45 · answer #6 · answered by Lazarus 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
HOW DARE U lay a hand on your son and wife. You deserve all the bad things that are going to come to you. A peson simply does not get a bruise by getting pushed away--please. You did more than that and you know it. You have an anger problem. Say goodbye to your wife and child..you idiot!
2007-06-07 06:25:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Get yourself an attorney, have him/her help or make arrangements for you to get your things. Most likely you should be able to get them when NO ONE IS HOME or you will end up being supervised by someone in order for you to get them.
Just so you know-women are NOT always the victims, however whenever a "MAN" puts their hands on a woman in a supposedly threatening way "YOU" are now in trouble.
(ex cop here)
2007-06-07 09:13:00 · answer #8 · answered by nickle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You pushed not only your wife but also your son and you call yourself a victim? What do you call your spouse and child?
You need to realize you have a problem and get help for it. Consider anger management classes at the bare minimum.
2007-06-07 04:57:20 · answer #9 · answered by QueenLori 5 · 3⤊ 2⤋
replaced into it introduced with the aid of hand or in the mail? If in the mail he would not might desire to pass because of the fact it replaced into served illegally. Get a lawyer and see what he can do. She desires to coach abuse, police data and so on. She is attempting to get out of visits.
2016-10-07 01:23:03 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋