How should I say this?

Question

I have a new friend and she is a about 11 years older than me..she is my former college teacher and we talk all the time through email and she is about to have a baby next month.I would really like to help her out if she needs it and become better friends with her..we are planning to go do something later this month before she is due.I hope we don't lose touch because I think she would be a good friend to have in the end.She gives me alot of advice and actually started me a hobby that her and her husband like to do and she tells me alot about it and suggests alot of things to me.I was just wondering ..I dont want the friendship to fade away...and I want to make her something when the baby is born like some kind of dish but I don't know how to tell her..I mean how would I ask her if I could bring her by some food or whatever?? I have never been to her house or anything... what would you say?(we are both female) I also dont know where she lives.do you think she will want me to come over?

Answer 1

When someone has a baby, it is very normal for friends, family and neighbors to bring things, such as a gift for the baby or a prepared meal. If you brought something like a casserole, that she and her husband could easily prepare by putting it in the oven, or could freeze for a future date, it would not cross any boundaries. Rather, it would show that you are thoughtful and care about how she is getting on with the new addition to the family. If you want to do something nice for her, just ask her when it would be a good time to drop something off & meet the baby. She will know that you are being a good friend and although she will be very busy (and sleep deprived) she will not forget what you did for her and her family.

Answer 2

Just tell her that you want to bring her some food or whatever. She is going to be very busy when the baby is born. Do not expect her to be as close to you as before, but I am sure that you will keep the friendship going if both of you are interested.
Ask her if she will prefer a visit at the hospital instead.

Answer 3

say" listen i hear that especially athe first few weeks after the baby is born the parent need time to 'recouperate'. and often times things are hectic trying to find a routine. but i just want you to know that if you guys need any help i wouldbe happy to help you. I'm a decent cook and i could always whip up a thing or two maybe even somethign you could freeze and reheat if neither of you have the energy to cook. I really value our friendship I think your a great mentor and that's very hard wuality to find in friends so it would be no trouble at all and i would expect nothign in reutrn. So here's my # . ....."

Answer 4

are you really friends? and you do not know where she stays? then I guess she prefers it that way. If I had a person I thought was my friend I would share alot with her including where I stay and joke with her about what she was going to bring the baby. Maybe YOU think you are friends but she only sees you as a younger girl she can give advice to and whom she would rather not get too close to. I have a good job and I have a 'friend' who is 20years older than me, I think we are 'friends; but sometimes I really wonder because she acts embarassed when her age mates are around us. Thank God I am old enough to know that there are friends who use you-for finanances,errands or company when it suits them .Be careful.

Answer 5

Send her an email and say "hey, I was thinking you could use some help with meals when the baby is born, would you like me to fix some stuff and bring it over/". Her response will let you know if she wants you more involved in her life than you are now.

Answer 6

For getting in her house you must invite her to your house first so she invites you to her house later

Answer 7

u do talk all the time.....