We spent 8 months getting to know each other, texting continuously, phoning several times a day, having fantastic sex (sorry, had to put that in). And then he leaves his job and I've only seen him once in 3 months and spoken to him 4 times.
Im so upset!! How can he just forget about all the time we spent together?? I make the effort to call but on his side its just dwindled to nothing. I just feel like he's neglected me.
Has anyone else experienced this?
2007-06-07 04:23:40 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Tom A and Heartbroken - I have not been pressuring him or constantly ringing him. I dont beleive in calling a guy continuously. I left it to him. This past week I havent recieved a text at all!! Im slowly getting over it but its still upsetting.
2007-06-10 09:18:17 · update #1
Yes i ve had a vary similar experience and it hurts alot and unfortunately for a long time. Eventually i managed to convince myself that he wasn't the person that i thought he was else he would never have treated me the way he did and that i was better off with out him in the long run.
its really hard and i still have to resist the temptation to text him and phone him now, i got fed up of always having to contact him.
I was left with a feeling of being used and neglected but i am trying to view the experience as a learning curve, and remember all the great sex!
Good luck you deserve better!
2007-06-13 11:44:31 · answer #1 · answered by Violet Sky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
trust me I've experienced the exact same thing...they are so romantic so in tune in the beginning then they just disappear...to be honest i think he did like you in the beginning as he was continuously texting and seeing you but something along the way has changed. Men love a challenge they don't want a girl to be so into them...always hold something back its more interesting that way. Occupy yourself, don't always be available, hardly return his calls rarely text him etc. It seems like game-playing but its not...men are simple when they are interested they make an effort and when they're not they don't. so if he is interested he wont mind chasing you he'll do anything to have you
Don't call him or text him anymore...i no its hard im trying to do the same thing now but its worth it in the end...at least this way you no if he's interested or not. if he is let him do the chasing if he's not at least you wont waste no more time on him and you can move on!!! when you feel like calling him call a friend or someone to talk you out of it...DO NOT LISTEN TO THOSE FRIENDS WHO SAY WHAT HAVE YOU GOT TO LOSE ! because you have something to lose...a guy you really like!
2007-06-07 04:41:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh dear. It isn't nice at all. You are being dumped slowly as men think this is letting you down gently. I think you should not make any contact yourself and try and keep very busy so that you are not thinking about it. If someone is interested, this should get them running. If you don't hear anything, forget it. Sounds horrible and I know you are going to hurt but sometimes there are no good explanations as to why a relationship dies. It just wasn't the right person at the right time.
2007-06-12 11:42:49 · answer #3 · answered by AUNTY EM 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a jerk,
He did thid because it meant nothing to him, the next time u speak with him u may want to ask him whatsup with him treating u this way and if it meant nothing then he shouldn't have lead u to believe it was.
I have went thought this and yes it's hurts and it makes u MAD too
He's a jerk, dog and a lier
I'm sorry that happen to u in fact I'm sorry when it happens to anyone, it shouldn't have happen and he 's not worth it. The only upside when thingd like this happens is we learn from it and not to allow it to happen again.
I hope he goes through it that way he will get a taste of what it's like and may be he will be less or a jerk
Good Luck Girl
Hold ur head up move on and erase him from ur cellphone and delete him from u email list.
2007-06-07 04:36:11 · answer #4 · answered by itspink22@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh chick, I had a similar experience about two years ago. I had an 'on/off' sex buddy who was a policeman. I thought that he was investing time and effort in to me-sadly i was 'rebound' to fill inbetween meeting someone else. I kept texting and eventually realised that men hate giving us the 'it's over' speech and instead they disapear! I'm a great believer in fate and that there are plenty lovely blokes out there. Fill your boots foxy! xx
2007-06-07 04:57:16 · answer #5 · answered by dollydagger 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes...most of us have, but most of us don't continue to pursue a guy that's forgotten about us. I'd suggest that you try to get past the hurt feelings and leave this alone. Your effort to contact him is not getting you a good result. You can't make him be interested if he's not...and since he's not trying to contact you he has shown he in fact is not interested. Let it be. Good Luck
2007-06-07 04:28:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
oh my god yes, experienced this.
He was with me, but seeing another girl and as i was pregnant with his child he said he didn't want to tell me until i was at least 3 mths gone!! what a gent huh!
and it was so painful going on without him, it took months to get over, and the only thing i can say is that you do come through to the other side, might take along time, and it'll hurt like hell but one day you'll say to yourself, right then enoughs enough time to move on and you will.
good luck, hope the pain doesn't last too long xx
2007-06-07 05:11:25 · answer #7 · answered by scatty 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, but it seems like he just wanted the sex. Since you were giving it to him, while not being in a realtionship. He probably has moved on. Guys have a thing with sex, and if hes getting it somewhere else, then it would probably explain whats going on here.
2007-06-07 04:28:33 · answer #8 · answered by mommy to be 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i have experienced the same thing and also have been on the other side of the situation. anyways, get over him and move on. there are other guys out there to be spending time with. don't get attached to one person. have many friends. try not to take things so personal. it just wasn't meant to be.
2007-06-13 17:26:56 · answer #9 · answered by simply*me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's a complete B******. I would say forget him , but here's something else:
Make and photocopy a trillion billion adverts for him as a 'male escort' (aka man-whore). Include his address and phone no. on them. Then stick them on lampposts in densely populated places. (even if noone actually believes he's a ho, he'll still get a looooad of prank calls and mail and crap.)
Then forget him.
2007-06-07 06:45:41 · answer #10 · answered by Insomnia 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋