What should i do if i still love my ex nd he has hit me in the past?

Question

we've been together for about a year nd a half nd we have a baby he has hit me in the past he calls me begging for me to get back with him i dont know what to do i still love him should i get back with him or stay away from him

Answer 1

Run for the hills why would you want to revisit that and put your child through it at the same time!

RUNNNNNNN!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 2

Stay away from him. Any one who would hit you isn't much of a man at all. Find some one who will love you and never hit or abuse you in any way. What ever you do don't give in to his begging or pleading. If you take him back he will only hit you again and then say that he's sorry until you take him back again. It will be a cycle of him hitting and then saying he's sorry and then him begging you.

You don't want your baby growing up and seeing you being abused. There may even come a day when he will hit your baby. That is not much of a life for either you or your baby.

Both you and your baby deserve way better than him.

God Bless both you and your baby. Please take care of your selves and stay away from him.

Answer 3

HI Jennifer,

Your not stupid. I understand wht your feeling. It harder to ignore such a request because you have still have feelings for this person and you two have a child, so he wont be fully out of your life.

I personally dont think you should take him back because you love him. Hitting women is wrong and he needs to understand that. Begging for another chance isnt good enough.

What you could do in this situation, is tell him that although you still have feeling for him as well as for the sake of your child, at this time that would be the best decision. You then should tell him that he need to see counseling or group therapy for domestic violence.You should attend with him at times as well to learn more about why he does it. He needs to handle his own issues before trying to fix things with you.

Observe his actions for a while, I say for at leat a year. If you witness a signigifant change after a year, evaluate your life at that time and make the decision thats best for you.

Statistically I would say no but most women dont do that anyways, so the better alternative while giving you the same effect is to do what I suggested above.

Dont rush, because if he really loves you and wants to make things right, he will abide your your rules and terms and will follow them..

Good Luck:)

Answer 4

Not a healthy relationship for the sake of the child keep away from this abusive guy. This could turn into a cycle "beat me baby one more time" and he could kill you or your baby.

PS I watched my mom's 2nd husband /ex husband(abusive $#@) hold my youngest brother by knife point in the 80's and the cops were there too. Let me tell you, still to this day I would love to take this guy out and get rid of him. He turned me into a man hater for years if I saw a bully picking on someone I would beat his ace. I was like this my whole childhood. Anyways, I met really really nice people who help change my way of thinking and I'm no longer a man hater.
Most females that see their mom nocked around either pick abuse boyfriends or the rare type, man hater ( like I was). Boy childern have a chance to become abusive adults.

Answer 5

This is so painful You have the bruises on the outside and the inside. Do not take him back and pray that the bruises on your heart will someday heal. There is no excuse for physical violence and by staying away from it you are protecting your baby from abuse (having to see you hurt). When you accept him back, you are also accepting his behavior. Abusive people continue because there is nothing making them stop- very simple. Love yourself and your child first. You are one of Gods children and no one has the right to treat you like anything less.

Answer 6

Get your head examined, he is an ex for a reason, unless you are wanting to be hit around again. Once they start hitting and you let them get away with it they end out doing it again and again.

For your sake please get some counselling for it really sounds like your needing it and for your safety.

Because of the child that you may want to get back together and if so insist that he also gets counselling.

It scares the hell out of me when violence starts in a relationship, that is not a good sign at all.
Good luck

Answer 7

You are either too young or from another planet. No offense to you..do you not hear or see what goes on out there in the media regarding "domestic violence"?? I know you love him dearly but you will get over it..Once a man struck's a woman he will do it again and again it is just a matter of time till that bomb goes off in his head. You have a child that you should be considering first and foremost FYI children have an amazing memory and hearing no matter what age they are. DON'T LOOK BACK MOVE ON...

Answer 8

Sounds like it would be best to just stay away from him.
But if you honestly think the relationship is worth salvaging, tell him the only way the two of you can be together again is if he attends and completes some counseling for his disorder, then and only then, will you become a couple again.
This isn't a 3 strikes thing. He only gets one chance at forgiveness.

Answer 9

You have been together with this guy for a yr and he has already hit you can you really see a future with someone like that....

I had a bf for 2yrs and a half and u know what he did to me he hit he in public and left me there and he calls me telling me it was my fault that caused me to get hit from him because i got him vex can u believe that............
Up to this day when he sees me happy doing well he keeps calling me wanting to get back with me,saying he's sorry listen to me get out of that kind of relationship he hit u once he'll do it again do whats best for u and move on with your life no woman deserves to be hit or beaten from any man....

Honey YOU deserve much better

Answer 10

I guess you are a glutton for punishment if you go back to him. Get counseling so you can find out why you want to go back to him. By the way, once you have been in a relationship with an abusive partner, chances are the next guy will be abusive too. That is why you need counseling.

You need to pay special attention to what Monet wrote, because your child will grow up in an abusive environment.

Answer 11

You need to stay away from him. This relationship is not going to get better, even though you believe time will cure it. Unfortunately when it comes to domestic abuse, things generally dont get better unless you have professional intervention and both work out the root of your problems. Believe me, is not worth it. You can have so much more, even though is hard to break off the relationship, you need to get out now. Do it for your daughter, who will need a strong and capable mom. Think about the fact that you are in charge of this human being who you are shaping into a secure and confident woman, well you need to give her that example. Good luck, and believe it, is not worth it! No sex, or companion or whatever you think he is providing is worth the abuse you get from him.