I am 26 and feel like no one outside of my family and friends has loved me. I have been in relationships with people but nothing that I think of as serious. I try to let people in but they just treat me like crap.
2007-06-07 02:50:33 · 19 answers · asked by Jen_n_TX 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You're not alone. I think this problem is becoming more and more widespread. Blame it on career driven academics, people too busy to make time for another human being, too much pressure, trends towards FWB or hooking up, etc.
Don't get too down about it, it will happen one day.
2007-06-07 02:55:35 · answer #1 · answered by J F 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you think people treat you like crap, have a look at how you treat yourself first. If you passed a mirror just now and saw your reflection, how much would you rate that image out of 10? The answer you give will tell you what you think of you. I don't think people treat you like crap. I think you are suffering from low self-esteem just now. You are probably a little negative because you think people don't like you. You don't give much to others, and so you get nothing much in return, like a horrible circle.
Notice you said 'let people in'. You don't let people into your life, you actually go towards them. You are not a closed room where others have to knock before they come in and then you let them in. It shows YOU are putting up the barriers before you begin which makes it harder for people to truly love you. Begin that self love today because you cannot give away love if you have none. The happier and more positive we are is the more attractive and valued we are. People tend to keep away from negativity.
One of my articles below deal with the reasons why we lack self love and how to build it.
2007-06-07 10:00:23 · answer #2 · answered by Ms CYPRAH 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is sad, but it happens. To me ur looking for love in all the wrong places, maybe u should spend more time with ur self, and become happy within so that that radiance can shine through on the outside that alone attracts positive people. Another thing is people can only treat u how u allow them to treat u, just something to think about. Hope that I answered ur question well. good luck.
2007-06-07 09:56:24 · answer #3 · answered by imaganae 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know, trust is a difficult thing. My guess is that the way you select friends is really the problem; not you. What criteria do you use? Education? Values? Similar activities or interests? Figure out who you want to be then find friends that hold those values. Realize values are not the same as appearances. When you let these people in, they will respect you because they respect people.
2007-06-07 09:56:36 · answer #4 · answered by Ranger D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep your chin up! U need to get rid of that mentality because other people i.e. men can sense it and u will keep getting treated like crap. Men like a confident women not a victim or a person with vitcim mentality. So chin up don't go looking for a man let him come to you in time. Good Luck! and remember Jesus loves you!
2007-06-07 09:55:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been through this myself. You have to be confident in yourself first and live your own life not worrying about what other people think and the time will come when that right guy will be there. The dating life definitily is not easy and you will run into your share of the bad ones but that will just make you appreciate that one that comes along that is forever.
2007-06-07 09:55:38 · answer #6 · answered by mom2abigsis 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sound like you just haven't met the right person yet, your family and friends love you so you are blessed, try not to take any crap from people and enjoy yourself. you need to learn to love yourself before another can love you, so go have fun and when the time is right your meet your special some one, keep your chin up liefs for living and all this worrying will give you wrinkles
2007-06-07 09:57:52 · answer #7 · answered by fruitcake 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all you should not be trying to find love let it come to you. your only 26 your young and prolly pretty beautiful you will find what you looking for. but in the mean time you live in tx find a gorgeous mexican they are the best things known to man. i should know i married one and he takes care of me and the kids. and he loves me unconditionally. but to each his own i guess just wait ur time will come.
2007-06-07 10:02:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, it is definetly sad. You need to take a look at the type of people you 'let in'. There are a lot of 'ugly' (on the inside) people out there but there are a ton of 'beautiful'(on the inside) people out there. Surround yourself with the beauty and you will be amazed at the warmth you feel.
2007-06-07 09:55:23 · answer #9 · answered by 32nkikin 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Celebrate the love you have for yourself. Invest in your self worth and enjoy being alone. Then love will come your way. You don't need some one else's love to be happy.
2007-06-07 10:00:41 · answer #10 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋