A continuation of my previous question about my coach...Help again!!!?

Question

What should I do? I am in love with my volleyball coach!
I am 18 years old and I have a volleyball coach who is a bit older than me. I like him but I don't know what to do next. Don't worry, we are not going to break any rules if we date. We are perfectly allowed to date but I dont know how to take it to the next level. How can I shift from student to girlfriend? I got his cell number from his friend but he doesnt know about it, Should I text him or would it scare him? He is a quite a shy guy and I am also shy. How could I talk to him more so he would open up to me? He's single and i really want him.
I just want to make it clear that we arent off limits to each other. I assure you that his reputation would not be tarnished. He only teaches volleyball in the summer and I have no reason to see him after the summer. We are just really shy around each other
He only seems shy around me and I notice that he lingers near me.
The summer is over and I have no reason to see him. Help!

To those who answered this question before, I'm sorry I wasnt able to do your advice because they came a bit too late. I hope you could still help me this time.
There are very few occasions that i would see him, what would i do then? I'm back to square one because I got the wrong cellphone number, it wasnt his! He is a military guy and works for the armed forces. That's why he was teaching volleyball. It was part of his job to teach volleyball for military personnel dependents (which i am).He seems to be intimidated at my mom because she is a high ranking officer and he is way way below in rank (he's only an enlisted personnel). How could I help him get past this and see me worthy enough to pursue?

I have no problem with our age difference. That is one of the reasons why I like is that because he is older. Don't tell me to find someone my age because i find them immature since girls mature faster than guys

Answer 1

If he wasn't the one that gave you the cell number, then don't call or text it. Just because he is shy around you doesn't mean that he likes you- sorry.

As far as him not being fired or what not just because he "only" teaches volleyball in the summer- yeah that's up to the people that employ him. Not you. If they find out about it- regardless of if you get caught together or not, they can decide to let him go. Yes, you are 18 and legal, but that might not be what concerns the school board or whoever he works for. They could see it simply as him taking advantage of the fact that he is around younger people. If he started seeing you, what is to keep him from thinking a 16 or 17 year old would make a good girl friend?

Answer 2

By not off limits I am assuming you mean that you are not in a school situation. If this is the case, then you should consider age. If he is over 5 years older than you you are most likely looking at a very hard heartbreak. You are 18. It means that the things you are thinking about are not anything like what you will be thinking about in a few years. I am not saying you are immature. I am saying that you are between seasons in life - moving from being an adult without responsibilities to one who has to plan their future. My suggestion is that you find someone else your own age. Part of maturity is realizing that feelings are not all there is to a relationship. Situation will also make or break a relationship. There are many people deeply in love that still get divorced.

Answer 3

I would suggest a simple coffee or very public sandwich as a THANK YOU for him coaching you in the summer. Then start chatting just about him and slowly begin to ask more personal questions to see what kind of answers he gives. You could also be honest and say that you 'think' you like him, but you are not sure how he feels, and you wouldn't want to embarrass him. What does he think about it?

Another simpler way is just to text him and thank him again for his help, adding whether he would like a quick coffee that day, or when he has a minute. His answer will tell you what you wish to know. If he likes you, he will accept, even if it is for another day.

Answer 4

I want to say both for the Twins :) They were downright terrible in the past 2 weeks prior to the All-Star Game. I think they need a fresh start to play like the did at the beginning of the season. Then again, they are second-half kind of team. That's when they play their best. So if I say start of a new season, that doesn't match up with that fact and they could play horrible again! :)

Answer 5

You have respect for him because of the things he has taught you, this is probably a bad thing to have a relationship aside from your sport dealings, things will go bad and you will never see him the same way again, think it over and find a young man to spend your time with. You will always have a friend in your coach if you don't pursue this fantasy.

Answer 6

I will have to say, true love waits.
It wouldn't hurt to keep in contact with the guy though, it could build your friendship to a strong friendship, which could lead to more, if it leads that way. Try it, get a solid friendship, then move from there.
So, text him, or ask him for his number next time you see him, or justs text him and tell him a friend gave you the number so you guys could keep in contact. .

Answer 7

This is not something to just pop in to him in a text message. This is a face to face. You have got to tell him how you feel. Be prepared though, just because you are in love with him doesnt mean he returns your feelings or wants to. He may be much more sensitive to age differences than you are, be prepared for the worst, if it doesnt come good for you

Answer 8

you may have a problem with the military thing, your mother out ranks him puts him in a tight spot, the military has its own set of rules,you lead me to believe you grew up in the service, you should know this.now at 18 if you are truely interested let him know. as a coach he has seen many crushes, dont be suprised if you are treated as one. but from your description he seems to like you as well.

Answer 9

ok, send him a message thanking him for being such a great coach, say that you'd like to keep and touch, so would he like to get some coffee or see a movie...as friends...and then maybe things will move up fro there, just take it slow and have some fun

Answer 10

Talk to his friend maybe he could break the ice and then see what happens if he is in-fact interested then you could text/call him and move on from there.
Good Luck