Single Females 15-30: When you learn you are pregnant by a male whom you're not sure of his thinking about

Question

fatherhood, do you first ask him, "What do you think of being a father?" or do you just spring it on him, provided you're planning to have the child?

If he says no, he's not ready to be a father, did you take that as a rejection of you and cut off all contact with him?

I ask this because I received another case of a father being hit with retroactive child support for a child he did not know existed. The last time he saw the girl was in college. One day she suddenly quit school and moved back home to her parents, refusing to talk to him there after. That was ten years ago and looking back, the last thing she said to him was the question, "What do you think about becoming a father?" He said he was too young and not about to consider it for some years.

Well, guess what? He already was, but she waited ten years to tell him, along with an order for ten years of retroactive child support.

Answer 1

I gettired of hearing this story (respectively spoken). Women just need to quit playing games and let these men know the truth. This messes up so many people's lives that it horrible. I say just be real. If he doesnt want to be a father, do what you must. But dont wait ten years later. Because now they are doubting the child. And it will be harder for them to be a father. Let's just keep it real, and tell the truth dont beat around the bush just tell them.

Answer 2

Ouch! That works out to like 25% of gross income for 18 years...cancel Christmas!!!

Answer 3

I would not be having unprotected sex with someone I had to ask a question like this about!

Answer 4

man, you`re creepy

Answer 5

JUST TELL HIM. IF HE SAYS THAT THEN OH WELL. HE SHOULD HAVE THOUGHT ABOUT THAT BEFORE HE HAD SEX.