I've bought a leaving gift for my friend who is leaving our workplace this friday. I told my friend's girlfriend the gift i had bought from us all and she went a told him. When I found out a told my colleague next to me how out of order it is that she told him and that she is really spiteful for doing so. Anyway, she just came through to our office and signed his leaving card and my colleague said "isnt this the girl you were running down and saying was spiteful coz she ruined that surprise?" And I went really red. And now they're saying i'm 2 faced because I said one thing but they all do it all the time! What should i do?
2007-06-06 23:20:33 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well what did they expect u to do beat the girl down rite there? or cause a big scene in ur office which in turn would cause u to either lose ur job or just get in trouble with ur boss? and why r u the 2 faced one i notice none of them said anything to her either so if they r saying things about u whats that say about them? u dont actually state how u reacted when she came into the office but i would have simply ignored her and been cordial if she spoke to me and left it at that. u really shouldnt worry what these people in ur office say if like u say they r this way all the time. next time i would just keep my opinion to myself and let them find out for themselves.
2007-06-06 23:27:22 · answer #1 · answered by queeniez71 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two ways you can handle it. Confront the colleague who is the one causing the mess. Best scenario, It'll clear the air and you distance yourself from her. Talk only about business w/her. The less she knows about you, the better. Worse case scenario, it could cause her to gossip more, spread more lies and cause discomfort in the workplace. Or Ignore her. Only interactions involve business. It depends on what kind of person she is too. Is she gossipy, holds grudges, etc. But I would just ignore her. Not worth trying to change how she is, if she gets her kicks out of it. Pretty soon, the others will see for themselves. Good luck!
2007-06-07 06:38:36 · answer #2 · answered by Amy L 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like what you are describing is called "Office politics". Some people feel the need to gossip or do things to upset others so as to make themselves feel better or make themselves look better towards the boss. Since you have to work with these people, you have to establish a guideline for yourself on how to deal with them and stay by it. (such as only discuss business with them, no socializing).
2007-06-07 06:27:18 · answer #3 · answered by acedelux 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop being 2 faced. If you dont have the guts to face up to her and tell her how you feel then yeah keep being 2 faced.
Just use the lost art of communicaion to sort things out, let her know how you feel and stuff instaid of letting her assume what she thinks
2007-06-07 06:24:32 · answer #4 · answered by ChAtMaN 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Forget it--when someone leaves, say goodbye and that's it.If this big mouth says anything--tell her to get lost. God, are you the social director there?? Do your work and mind your business.
2007-06-07 06:24:59 · answer #5 · answered by fire_inur_eyes 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well just let it go and the next time that this happy just dint tell her OK
2007-06-07 06:28:42 · answer #6 · answered by EVA J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing u can do about it.. People will forget about it soon enough :) be strong.
2007-06-07 06:23:42 · answer #7 · answered by AppleSoda 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋