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i am constantly worried about my partner and other members of my family . if one of them say they dont feel well i have a over wellming feeling of dred that they are going to die i know this is silly and it is ruining my life but i cant help it . i would love to move home and start anew life but i am scared of leaving the area and something terrible happens to my family please help i dont know what to do.

Answer 1

There will be an underlying cause for this feeling...perhaps something that happened in your past. You need to visit your GP and ask for counselling as your problem is obviously affecting your life...and if not now then later, your health. Please go to your GP and he/she will recommend someone who will help you come to terms with whatever it is you are feeling.
Best wishes, Mike.

Answer 2

I don't have an answer, but I can sympathise with you greatly. It does seem to take you over, as I also have what I call my 'dark thoughts' that someone I love is going to die. If they go on an 'out of the usual routine' car journey for instance, I can't settle or sleep properly until I know they are safe as I am convinced that something bad will happen. It's even starting to invade my dreams now, turning them into nightmares occasionally. Do you also have thoughts like....eg...we were building a new waterfall in the garden, but instead of looking at it and thinking "wow that's beautiful" all I could think of was "that's going to be a memorial for one of us, we'll just remember that was the last thing we did together". They are completely involuntary thoughts and I have to tell myself to shut up and get a grip. It's also got me terrified of travelling on public transport myself, and also my family, as I have no control over the situation.

I'm keeping an eye on the other answers with you!

Answer 3

This is not uncommon. It's a bit like people going out and worrying all the time about whether or not they've locked the back door or left the frying pan on, only worse of course. You've probably experienced an anxious time recently, and it's spread over to other aspects of your life It can clear up on it's own., but really you need to see your GP and have a look at http://www.bbc.co.uk/radio1/onelife/health/healthy_mind/anxiety_intro.shtml

Answer 4

Simple answer. You have OCD. How to treat OCD.

Two ways.

1. Go to a shrink and get meds. IE Prozac, Zoloft, Luvox, etc.
2. Go to a therapists that specializes in CBT. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy is the best way to treat OCD. Studies show this. I went through it. It works. It does take time and a ton of work.

Get started by finding a good Psychiatrists.

Answer 5

Can you think back to when and where this feeling started, or have you always had this fear. That would be a good starting point.
You really need to talk to someone more qualified about this. Ask your doctor for a referral; this is ruining your life.You cannot enjoy the "now" as you are constantly worrying about the future.

Answer 6

i had this particularly about my sisters and niece (being girls and worrying about them being abused) my family realised i was like thins and all got together and discussed it
then they got me round and spoke to me about it
they are both married so their husbands both said that i needed to trust them that they would look after my sisters
also my niece has parents and when i told them about my problem with her in particular they told me off harshly and said it was none of my business that as their parents it was up to them to look out for her
the reason they were so harsh on me is because they could see it was ruining my life
i am much better about it now and i wouldnt be if it wasnt for my wonderful family sitting me down and talking about my problems openly
i dont know if you are married can you get your partner to organise this for you and get people to be really strict on you because it definately helped me

best wishes

ps i still worry about my family but i feel it is a bit more normal now i am not obsessed about it any more

you can email me about this if you wany

good luck in the future


xxx

Answer 7

it seems like you worry too much and they are not going to die if it helps why dont you go and take a health test with them and youll see that they are not going to die soon, you also need to go to talk to some psichologist(s) they might help you in the facts of finding out a cure or at least why this is happening to you

Answer 8

Sounds like you could be suffering from anxiety and it's showing itself in these overwhelming fears of harm coming to your family.

It could all be linked with your desire to move and coming to terms with the loss involved in this.

Do you have any close friends to talk to? Or a counsellor could help.

It's certainly not uncommon to feel this way - I can identify myself.
Good luck I hope you feel better soon.

Answer 9

well it is normal to care for who u love and worry about what will happen to them or if death comes etc .. some people worry about what their families will do if he/she died (in case they are depending on him/her ...etc) it is very normal ..

if u stayed or left or travelled this will not make ur family safer .. it will not change anything and if death is to happen to you or to any of your family memebers noone can control it ..

get on with ur life as normal there are many other things to worry about .. u can check ur family from time to time call or visit they will be fine .. dont let small things like that ruin ur life .. ur partner can travel with u and ur family can stay in their area ,, you and your partner and am sure ur family will be happier that way ..

Answer 10

I used to suffer with this when i had my breakdown- its part of the anxiety- i used to feel that if i didn't tell my kids to drive carefully they would crash, or if i didn't remind them to be careful at work something would happen. My GP referred me to a counseller- i have been helped a lot- i still worry but not as much now. Please go and see your GP.