my life is becoming difficult after divorce how i live i try my best but i cant forget him i have lost my property after marriage with him although he did not love yet i miss him i love him i cant see i the whole world ,the colors of life i cant face any situation and he has left me in pk he is enjoying his life very well o dear friends how i reduce my grief .i dont like any thing in this world .i have started my studies but i cant read well i just miss him then i think why i did like so and why he did like so ooooo please tell me i am angry to my god how?
2007-06-06 22:15:28 · 5 answers · asked by life of rose 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
What your going through is normal, My wife divorced me almost a year ago, and i gotta tell you that the first few months were total hell. I had a hard time concentrating at work, couldnt sleep or eat. But over time, i began to realize that even though mistakes were made in the relationship, by both of us, that I was a good person and i was ready to get out into the world and meet someone new.
It's gonna hurt- for a while, and it's going to suck.. but that feeling will pass and you will find someone who appreciates you and loves you more than you can imagine.
Just remember that your not alone and there are a bunch of people out there going through the same thing.
2007-06-06 22:25:17 · answer #1 · answered by Paulo 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is normal to feel a mix of emotions. It's like when someone has died, you can feel anger against God, even against the person, against yourself, everything can seem pointless, confused, hopeless.
There is no real way to reduce your grief, you just have to go through it, knowing that it is a necessary process that will come to an end.
In other posts you have asked how you can find Mr Rizwan Butt in Sheffield, or trace an Orange mobile number. Please consider if this is a useful thing to do. If someone doesn't want to be contacted, what useful communication can you have with him? It cannot be a question of humiliating yourself to try and win him back.
As your marriage was arranged, you must be able to write to him via his family. Write a letter, whether you send it or not, it can be easier to work out exactly what you would want to say to him when you put it in writing. Say if you want how much you have loved him, but point out as well how he has hurt you, let you down, lied and cheated, as you have told us.
Being realistic, you are divorced now, he doesn't want to communicate, and any communicaton you did have would most likely be hurtful. Your relationship with him is over You need to let this time pass, as it will, until things get better. It may not be soon, but it may be sooner than you expect.
If you need to contact him to sort out about money or property, you should get someone else to do this. Your family must have contact with his family, it would be best to let the family elders sort these things out.
Good luck.
2007-06-06 23:20:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he left it is because he doesn't love you. Stop feeling sorry for yourself and go out and meet new people. He's not the only man in the world. Also stop second guessing what could have been but wasn't. You are you and he is he. http://www.selfesteem.com
http://anxiety.com
2007-06-06 22:24:35 · answer #3 · answered by Sunset 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
write some sad poetry thats what works for me, or listen to some sad song's.sleep all day til you just can't stand it no more then go back to work become an asexual workaholic for the rest of your life.
2007-06-06 22:23:18 · answer #4 · answered by catsclaw 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you will need time to heal and friends to help you along...
divorce isn't a reason why you can't talk to him..
2007-06-06 22:20:00 · answer #5 · answered by Miss.Murder 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋