its a family wedding (cousin) and neither of us are sure how much is expected.
2007-06-06 21:19:15 · 23 answers · asked by Caroline O 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
How much what? How much to spend on the gift?
2007-06-06 21:21:38 · answer #1 · answered by ChocLover 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I'm assuming you mean how much to spend on a gift.
I'm also assuming you want someone to give you a money amount that is "the going rate" for a gift.
Doesn't work that way.
In truth, no gift is necessary. Gifts are not why you were invited to the wedding. Or if that's the case, then decline the invitation.
That said I assume you want to give a gift of some kind to show how happy you are for the couple.
Give what you can without breaking your budget.
That means, if you can afford only $5 - then that's what you give. If you can afford more - then give more. If you are particularly close to this cousin - raised together, went to school together etc. - then be as generous as you can. If you're travelling a distance to be at the event - then adjust for travel, hotel, etc.
Bottom line - weigh all the things that makes this bridal couple important to you - and give what you can without breaking your budget.
Still don't know what to get the couple? Gift cards from national retailers and restaurants (Target, Penneys, Outback, etc.) are great for "accross the miles weddings where you don't want to carry a piece of fragile crystal.
Finally, cold, hard, cash. Impersonal perhaps - but nearly always appreciated.
Just be sure not to break your budget. No one wants to find out later that you and your family did without food or missed paying a bill just to give someone a wedding present.
Oh, and by the way - if you're really cash strapped, maybe you can offer to pick up the mail, water plants and care for pets while the couple is on honeymoon. Knowing that your house is safe and pets cared for is a nice thing.
2007-06-07 02:49:02 · answer #2 · answered by Barbara B 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My grandad gives a small wooden box with a lock on it. When speeches arrives he explains that the box will be locked after the reception and won't be opened until the couples 10th wedding anniversary(he keeps the key) all the guests are then asked to write something down for the couple; congrat, thanks, prediction or whatever they deem appropriate and it is to be placed in the box. It's a gift that lasts well beyond the day and costs very little.
2007-06-07 02:26:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's rude for anyone to EXPECT anything or any particular amount. You gift whatever you can afford and whatever you choose.
The "cover your plate" thing is an etiquette MYTH that really needs to die, as it was NEVER TRUE.
It is best etiquette-wise to gift an object, NOT money or a gift card. The only exception being if you are the older generation giving a money gift to the younger.
2007-06-07 06:14:58 · answer #4 · answered by Etiquette Gal 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Assuming you're talking about the gift, you really should just give what you feel comfortable giving- it depends on how close you are to your cousin. That being said, I think $40-$50 is a nice amount.
2007-06-07 00:23:33 · answer #5 · answered by blondissima622 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with Cholover, how much what? If it is the gift and there is not a list, just buy something from the heart. If it is something to do with etiquette get a book.Stop worrying about it and enjoy the day, celebrate with the couple.
2007-06-06 21:30:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Same as when I got married.
Fidelity (forsake others including your mum), Love, Cherish each other - Obey is optional.
But if you mean money - goodness knows - that's cultural and personal - we expected people and smiles, love and wishes. Each gift was small and memorable - we stall have them some 16 yrs later.
Relatives of ours expected the entire catalogue (we didn't do it) a mate who owed me a lot of money expected more - I didn't go - some friends who wanted nothing well we got them a cutlery set and loads of dollars for their honey moon - ahhh.
2007-06-06 21:33:35 · answer #7 · answered by Wayne ahrRg 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't feel obligated to spend or give a specific amount,especially as it's a relation,I'm sure that anything you give will be gratefully accepted.
One of the most audacious things that people do these days in my opinion is when people give out a list of things that they want,and if this hasn't happened in this case then don't worry.
2007-06-06 22:05:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
ask if they are registered at any store Macy's, Wal-mart, Sears and go from there
i gave my boss and new wife a big box of 100 plastic hangers (various colors) they really loved them,,,, they moved from there parents to there apartment. did they think of that >>> NO Plus a few other things
what did you need when you got married
spend what you can afford and be comfortable with.
2007-06-07 00:06:54 · answer #9 · answered by Linda S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a guest, nothing should be expected of you. However if you wish to take a gift, don't be garish and over the top, don't spend more than £20.00.
2007-06-08 18:37:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are close then it is etiquette to get something a bit special but if you are not then just a normal gift from the gift list will do!
2007-06-10 06:17:50 · answer #11 · answered by Ce'anne G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋