I really love a girl and you may not believe it, but I do really love her. But I do not really talk to her because I got really nervous every time I am with her. I had had a lot of opportunities to go up to her and talk to her, but I missed most of them. It's just that I am scared her friends would tease us and it would ruin our friendship, because I have told her my feeling last year but she said she just want to be friends. Moreover, there is this another boy who also likes her and I don't know how she feels.
And, that shyness and nerve has caused me to be afraid in standing up for her.
Am I of any worth? I am 15. Say, years down the road, if I have 'metamophosises', will it be too late for me to apporach her?
2007-06-06 19:54:44 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you worry too much
2007-06-06 19:59:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just need a little encouragement, is all. Why don't you think about maybe two or three goals to work on regarding her.
1. Get her phone #. Like offer her a stick of chewing gum [offer gum to any of her friends also, hanging around] and make small-talk; then ask if you may phone her; get her phone #.
2. Now, think of some things to talk about; like music, games, sports, hobbies, etc.
3. If and when you make a date with her, you can talk about yourself, a little more. What do you want her to know about you?
Keep everything casual, light and easy, and if you give all this a little thought, I bet you will get over the shyness easier than you thought you could. Just be more positive.......
2007-06-06 20:12:06 · answer #2 · answered by wildflower 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Screw up your courage, ignore that sinking feeling in your gut, and talk to her. You will find that talking to her is surprisingly easy and relaxing, considering the anxiety you have regarding her.
Her friends will be more likely to accept you if you are confident; no-one really cares to mock a self-assured person, because it doesn't yield results.
As for this other guy, don't worry about it. She is in all probability not interested in a relationship right now, so don't do anything rash.
If she wants to be friends, then be her friend and don't push for more, your restraint will take the tension out of the situation.
2007-06-06 20:04:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
To be honest, if you've already confessed your feelings to her and she said she just wanted to be friends, you don't have much hope. I'm sorry, but she's just not interested in changing her relationship with you.
However, if you really don't talk to her that much are you really friends with her? Did you used to be friends? Or did she just hit you with that cliche line? If you guys aren't friends and never used to be, the best thing you can do is start a friendship with her. Who knows? With time, she may change her mind. I wouldn't get my hopes up. Maybe it's time to start trying to get over her... after all, there's probably someone else out there that you can love.
2007-06-06 20:02:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as you are both single it is never "too late" to approach someone. But you should write her a letter explaining how you feel. You would be saved the embarrassment of having to do it face to face, and at least she would know everything about how you felt. Good luck, I hope things work out great for you!
2007-06-06 20:00:15 · answer #5 · answered by boogy415 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hie there..
I believe, its never too late to approach someone, (whether or not you love him/her). At this stage, its best that you remain as friends first. hopefully one day your relationship will bloom. Try to get over your nervousness. You will be turning into a man soon. All these takes time yah. So dont rush.. But I advice you to be very careful. Don't be too obsessed over someone or something.
I wish you good luck my friend. Hopefully everything will be well for you.
Love,
-Chanel-
2007-06-06 20:04:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a crush on her, you are not in love with her. You can't fall in love that way. Take your time. She wants to be just friends right now. Don't push her or you will scare her away from you. If she is interested, she already knows your feelings, and she will let you know.
2007-06-06 20:00:22 · answer #7 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your nervousness will bring loneliness in your life, just get up and propose her with confident, don't afraid about the answer as it's no till u don't ask but there's may be YES if u ask.
Be fast dear otherwise u loose what u wanna and which is still not yours'.
vinay
2007-06-06 20:33:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you are 15 i don't see why you shoul LOVE her. I think it's just a crush. If she just wants to be friends, then let it be. if another boy likes her, then just dont be shy and go up to her and ask who she likes. You can also ask that other boy why he likes her. For a boy your age, I don't see why you can't go up to a girl who you like and doesn't even know whether she likes another person or not.
2007-06-06 20:05:52 · answer #9 · answered by Jay Vern 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Walk up to her, and say, " I don't know how to put this and I truly cherish your friendship and hope to retain your friendship forever no matter how you respond to this.
I LOVE YOU."
Then wait and see what happens.
You have to tell her 'cause tomorrow she could get hit by a bus and then you'll never get another chance.
2007-06-06 20:23:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You dont really know her enough to say you love her and if she says she just wants to be freinds then respect that
2007-06-06 20:02:33 · answer #11 · answered by A.J. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋