I've been in most relationships where I put on a lot of efforts but as time goes on, I just found my self in tears. Crying for the very reason that the guy left me without giving me any reasons at all. Many of my friends told me that I do look good and my attitudes were way too good towards those guys. ! don't know what to do to make them see who I really are..
2007-06-06 19:51:26 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
girl let me tell you sumthin, love happens naturally, sometimes quickly sometimes over time, but it's a natural development. i noted that you used the word efforts. that's your problem right there. you are putting to much effort in the relationships. have you ever seen anyone over sing because they were trying to hard. or have you ever met someone who tried to be cool with you and they tried to hard. it's so phoney looking. nobody wants phony. let love, don't make love!
2007-06-06 19:56:53 · answer #1 · answered by little lamb 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop putting in so much effort and just be yourself. You will seem false to their subconscious and this is what puts them off.
Be positive, be natural, be yourself.
It doesn;t matter if you're sweet kind and caring or a real ***** by nature. I've seen different guys fall in love with all sorts of girls.
Tall, short, thin, fat (even HUGE, after all he was hugely obese too) In other words, I have seen the proof that there is someone for almost every one.
2007-06-07 03:31:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
baby girl, I think ur just working too hard. That scary guy because he suppose to be the caretaker and ur taking up his responible.
Just relax, dont overwork ur self, cause the guy will feel useless and they dont want to say that when things are over, so they have no answer.
So just relax, and keep ur future man so room for his independent so he doesnt feel reduce.
Also let the guy do most of the work.
You know ur a princess, let ur wannabe prince work hard to deserve u.
2007-06-07 02:57:47 · answer #3 · answered by Just Loving It. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are getting your emotions involved too soon in the relationship. Wait a while before allowing yourself to fall in love. Taking your time will make all of the difference. Giving too much of yourself too soon causes them to feel that they have control of you. They lose interest because you are not a challenge to them. Wait to show your emotions until they are attached to you.
2007-06-07 02:56:52 · answer #4 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have the same problem,and I'm thirty-six years old.
Love is so hard,,,
Most people have these problems..
One day you will fall in love and he will not leave..
Hang in there..
The rough times(as much as they suck)really do alot in charachter building.
That's all I know to tell you..
Good luck.
2007-06-07 02:59:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You take it slow in a relationship and don't try to please them all time. Just be yourself. You can't make people see who you really are unless you are yourself all the time. Don't be something your not.Mr right will like you for what you are.
2007-06-07 02:58:49 · answer #6 · answered by Kaye B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maturity will help you.
You won't always want to cry.
It just feels like that when you're young.
2007-06-07 02:54:20 · answer #7 · answered by Queenie knows it all. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋