How do I keep eye contact with a girl...?

Question

So everyone says that eye contact is a big thing when seeing if a girl is into you and just in general if you're talking with a person. But sometimes I think it could creep a girl out if let's say you're across a room and you catch eyes with a girl you've said hi to maybe once and keep contact with her. Would that creep/weird a girl out to do. Also if you're having a conversation with someone, people say you know you can trust someone if they can look you in the eyes when they're talking to you. But sometimes I'll get weirded out even if I'm talking with my brother and we're just looking right in eachothers eyes. Is this just something I need to get over or is there some sort of rule about making eye contact with people?
* More important is the question about a across the room eye contact and what to do in that kind of situation.

Answer 1

it all about smiling and eye contact. But dont smile keeping smiling, just come up to the girl and ask her about her day, (l lost something have u seen it, nice music huh, hey are u in my class- did u understand...etc). Then again if u met certain girl that dont like eye contact, it not best but still at least look at them and smile.
IT show u are non threaten.
If it make u feel better look at the pupil and see if they getting bigger as u talk and out the blue say how u think of their eyes in positive term.

It about being nice, talkative but not cocky look at my bing bing.
Just keep in mind Friendliness but not crazy stacker stare. ( If the person smile back, come up to them for a fact)

Answer 2

I don't think eye contact is that important unless you're closely talking. I mean, you'd look at a person in the eyes across the room but it's much easier to lose track of their eyes unless you're talking in closer quarters.

Anyway, I remember hearing something about how if a girl likes you her pupils will get bigger while you talk so if you're having trouble keeping eye contact this could probably help keep your attention.

If you feel weird, it's something you have to get over. When I first learned about how important eye contact is back in middle school I began practicing it and it was definitely weird because I think naturally most people just aren't comfortable enough to talk like that. But, anyway, once you start doing it long enough you even kind of start to feel like you're doing a good job by keeping eye contact. I mean, you are. And it's not creepy unless you look like a creep with no emotion. Just keep a smile or interested look on your face and you should look fine.

Answer 3

I'm not a girl, so I don't really know how a girl would react to eye contact as you've described, but I would say not all would react the same way, and a lot would depend on what else you do.

Try smiling. Better yet, follow up your eye contact by going over and talking to her. You can compliment her on her looks if you'd like. Most girls aren't creeped out by a compliment.

We communicate a lot nonverbally, and just make sure what you're saying is the right thing.

Answer 4

I am the same way. But it's not like you have to look someone in the eyes the entire conversation. That is creepy, yes. Just enough to show that you are interested in the conversation. You will get more used to it in time. And yeah I'd say the eye contact from across the room is especially important. How will someone know if you are interested if you aren't looking at them in the eyes? For all they know you could be checking out their friend. I donno, But if you are gonna make eye contact with someone you kinda know. Don't just leave it at that, go say hi. Otherwise it's like you are just staring them down. And hey might get the wrong impression. Like maybe you don't like thhem very well. Ok well I am rambeling so I'm gonna go. Hope I've helped. Bye.

Answer 5

Yeah, I have problems with the eye contact thing, too. Especially during conversations. As far as meeting a girl's eye, it's not really creepy right away, especially if you give her a little smile when you say hi. It's okay to look away after a few seconds, in order to avoid looking creepy, but try to catch her eye again to see if she's giggling/trying to catch your eye (this girl is usually one you're trying to flirt with). That's usually a good sign that it's okay to approach her and strike up a conversation.

As far as holding eye contact up close, it's good to have a lot of it in conversations where you're trying to pick a girl up, so long as it's not like you're trying to drill a hole into her with your eyes. Just go with the vibe you're picking up. If she seems stressed, lay off for a bit. Just do whatever makes you and her feel comfortable.

Answer 6

You don't need to hold eye contact for more than a second or two. Practice with your close friends by making it a game of a staring contest. Learn to develop a pleasant non-threatening look and people will warm to your glances. The best you could do in thid=s situation is to become observant. Then, when asked what you are staring at, you can respond, "Is that a new shirt?" This is about communication.
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Answer 7

Dont make it awkward and just stare, make it casual hold eye contact for a second and then smile and maybe say hi if shes close. Feeling awkward arond a girl you like is natral if your a shy person and the best way to get over that is to have as much contact with her as possible to make it more comfortable. Most important thing is just to be yourself though, dont try and be what you think she would like you to be just so you can get her.

Answer 8

Just hold the eye contact for a few extra seconds at first. Don't stare for a long time because that is creepy. Keep quickly checking back to see if she is looking at you. Once you catch her doing that a few times, then add a smile to your eye contact.

Flirting 101

Answer 9

Yes it will freak her out if you just stare at her from across the room! Smile when you catch her eye and then go back to what you were doing. But if you're talking to her look straight into her eyes.

Answer 10

Yes, It will creep he out if your constantly looking at her if you've only talked to her only. She'll probably think your a stalker. Also, good eye contact are good for conversations because it shows that your confident.