In my home searching for alliance from past 5 yrs, m not getting any suitable guy, iam working in centrl govt orgn. finished engg. my problem s now i m fed up with seeing guys, so i told my parents that i ll not marry, my mother very much tensed, she worried abt me. mentally i am very much disturbd, pls guide what i hav to do?
2007-06-06 18:43:31 · 19 answers · asked by ani123 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Stop looking, and relax. The right guy will come along. I gave up seeing guys for almost 2 years because I was disgusted by the type men I had met. Finally one day the right one came along. It will happen for you too!! Just be patient.
2007-06-06 18:51:54 · answer #1 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey just Relax dear, With such a record the GUYS should be nervous not you.
If Mariges are made in heaven then there is some one who is made for you and when the right time will come you won't be able to think and it will be fixed, realy trust me it happens.
Every thing happens at the right time till now it was not the time for you to be engadged, help your parents finding a right partner is not the only thing in life its just a part of it.
If you will be tensed then your parents will be tensed, just sit back and enjoy this part as its you who is rejecting guys not the other way round (which was the usual practice).
You should have a good discussion with your parents as to what type of boy you like, I know its hard thinking that you are a girl and talking with your parents about this stuff.
But you are just discussing and not doing anything wrong, this is the time when parents are encouradged to tell their kids about birds and the bees.
So talk to your parents discuss when any prospective boy comes into view and before meeting him or his family make sure that he has maximum qualities that you like otherwise there will be another NO from yur side.
take care and enjoy your life its your time ( and if you can help your parents in this do so) like if you have a boyfriend or log to matrimony site and look for some boys over there.
BEST OF LUCK.
2007-06-06 21:07:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you get upset? You, a highly educated person should know the mentallity of our parents and how much do they take the burden of marriage, esp. about girls.
If you haven't found good boys, you just trying logging on some nice matrimonial sites and gather information about them. If there is no problem of inter-caste marriage in your family, then its the best way to find your life-partner.
As far as your condition is considered, it is just because of the pressure of family. You are edu. and not ugly(hope so), then you should not worry about such things. You ease your parents for time being and start searching nice guys yourself, like someone equivalent to your working level or some1 from your same hiererichal level would do it.
Don't get tensed, its just our parents who create the chaos. But don't worry, give yurself some time as GOD maybe planning something nice for you.
Just be confident enough and Chill.
2007-06-06 18:57:06 · answer #3 · answered by A2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its all a matter of time. don't get so tensed. ease up a bit and also explain to your parents. no matter how much effort you make, these things happen on their own and there is not much you can do. Meanwhile you could try a hand at matrimonial sites or news paper ads.
Meet only those guyz with whom you feel comfortable. Be concsientious in your work and don't fret over the issue. Enjoy your life and take things as they come. You can't forcefully fall in love or get married, so don't stress!!
2007-06-10 18:33:45 · answer #4 · answered by raindrops 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi ani, dont get disheartened. The one meant for u is not going to be born, he is already there all grown up and waiting impatiently to meet this wonderful young lady called "Ani". Dont worry when the time's right he'll come and sweep you off ur feet. Till then lay back,relax and enjoy urself wherever u r.Do all the things u like. Bcos u wont get time 4 urself when u r married. Trust me. If ur so low stop this matching thing for sometime. Go on a holiday.
2007-06-07 23:50:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anastasia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a high profile girl possessing an engineering degree...
Such girls usually outshine the prospective grooms that our parents search out-of a limited population of our society / caste / linguistic background / regional limitations...
In such cases, the boys develop a peculiar type of complex that turn in a fear psychosis… that probably, you may dominate him... male ego... right…!
I think you should now change your specification for the prospective groom... as NO BARS… SAME RELIGION... and register your profile in reputed matrimony sites viz shadi.com etc... In addition, give matrimonial Ads in all the national newspapers...
On receiving offers shortlist, them in association with your parents and meet the 'finalists' individually… eventually select one out of them... and go ahead with your wedding...
Do not get stressed... keep cool... this is not the end of the world...
All the best…
2007-06-06 19:04:23 · answer #6 · answered by Harish Jharia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey,
Finding a person suitable to any body is not an easy job... some times, for some people it happens.. just dont worry, concentrate on ur job and give support to ur parents...
This is not ur parents time, at that time they were thinking like that..
Now a days people are thinking and choosing right person..
All the best...
Soon it will happen ..
2007-06-06 18:51:27 · answer #7 · answered by friend 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you tell your mother you won't marry? What is the purpose of telling her something that you can't even be sure of yourself? Today you may be fed up with all the guys you know. Tomorrow you could find someone that causes you to change your mind. Just tell your mom that you meant you don't see anyone you want to marry YET and leave it at that.
2007-06-06 19:10:00 · answer #8 · answered by J D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2007-06-09 14:04:26 · answer #9 · answered by HopeforEmmanuel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No need to be fed up. Take it easy. Book one advertisement for yourself in Times of India matrimonial column and take the service of Computerised match making services. They are very scientific in solving things. Do all processes yourself and enjoy finding true life partner.
2007-06-06 19:21:08 · answer #10 · answered by neela m 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋