Should I give her the benifit of the doubt?

Question

I am confused. Met a flight attendant. We went out on several dates, we had sex, and the last thing-she met my friends. a whole week went by, I did not hear from her. 2nd week, same thing - so I called, and she allowed me to see her, we saw a movie. Then, another week went by, I called her- she was off, we saw another movie. things seem well, now its been three weeks, I have not heard from her... I text her "baby I miss you, are you mad at me? she replied 2hours later: not at all, I have been really busy and working a lot.

What the hell is going on? I phoned her today and left her a message: I wanna see you, did I do something wrong? call me when you get this "I wanna know how you are?

any one been in this situation before- I am starting to panic. Last time we kissed like always, she said she miss me too, things seem so well, "I know her flights are long, but what the hell?
advice anyone.

Answer 1

You've only been out on "several dates"? I'd say you need to back off and be patient for a little while - if you continue to call/text her, you're probably going to scare her off. The comments that you make above such as "I'm starting to panic" seem like a big red flag to me - "several dates" should not be panic inducing if she gets busy and doesn't contact you for awhile. The more you contact her, the more you'll probably push her away. If she truly misses you and/or wants to talk to you, she will contact you when she has a chance. You have made the effort to contct her - DO NOT initiate contact again until she calls you back, or (to be brutally honest) you'll look a little psycho.

Answer 2

One of my good friends is a flight attendant, it sounds like you met her! She's EXACTLY like that.

Her reason for acting that way is that she's afraid of commitment. Being a flight attendant is perfect for her because the job makes it nearly impossible to have a real relationship. Also, she gets a TON of male attention, from the pilots to the passengers. She is an attention whore, even though she won't admit it. If she was to settle down with any one guy she wouldn't be able to enjoy all that attention as much.

My advice to you would be to move on. It's not fair that you don't have answers, I know. The best you can do is call and tell her that you get the message but it would help you move on if she'd at least tell you why. Don't expect an answer, of course.

Sorry that your heart got broken. :(

Answer 3

Flight attendants meet a lot of guys. Can u hold up your left thumb and forefinger to your forehead and look in the mirror? That's her opinion of you. Especially since your last encounter involved meeting your friends.. maybe you should get a new set of buddies.

She texts you that she's been busy.. yeah, dude,.. busy with other fliers that are a bit more exciting this week. She screwed you within a week. You think she goes a week without screwing anyone?

Don't waste your time, find a grounded girl.

You're also sounding "needy" with the messages.. Go to your local 7/11 and hang around the coffee pot

Answer 4

I really can't say what is in her head, but all I can tell you is where I would be coming from. I have used that same line "I've just been busy" when I'm trying to blow someone off. I usually only give it because I feel guilty for blowing them off in the first place, and it's just a little tidbit. If she was into you, she'd let you know. She could have something else in her life that is taking up all her energy (like work), but when I'm into a guy, work takes a backseat. Good luck with your relationship with her. if things don't work out, I hope you find someone that will put you first.

Answer 5

Trust, trust trust..You have to trust him no matter how hard it is. I know this for a fact. If for some reason you have doubts, then ask him up front about it. Do not accuse him, merely ask him if he has heard from her at all etc...If it is just his ex, and no children involved, he should have no other reason to talk to her if it is over, unless the two of you have discussed whether or not they can remain friends. However, if there are children involved, you must understand that he does need to have contact with her because of those children. (I gather from your question, that this is not the case). I know it is hard to trust him, but if he has never given you a reason to not trust him, then it should be okay. It is harder to regain a person's trust once you have lost it, this I know from experience.

Answer 6

I don't know if she's feeling you. She could just be someone who likes to hang around you know. Call her one last time and say you miss her and want to do something soon, don't ask if you did something wrong. Set a time line, say you have to go somewhere in two days and want to meet before....if she makes the time, she's feeling you, if not...time to forget about her.

Answer 7

Don't you want someone who is going to give you their full attention and not just an occasioanl pat on the head? If she wanted to see you she would make the time, either don't take the relationship so seriously or find someone who will make time for you. Good luck.

Answer 8

Maybe she's just not as into you as you are into her. She's busy but I think she would make time for you if she really cared. You could try not to sound so desperate next time you contact her and she may find you more appealing.

Answer 9

Take it as it comes. It sounds like you want something more then she currently has time to give/wants to give. Take it from me a perennial whiner. Its not attractive. If she was mad at you or didn't like you she wouldn't be going out with you. If you have to beg her to see you it's not worth it. It will all end in tears.

Answer 10

I'm a girl. I REALLY sound like she's not interested. Maybe even seeing someone else. Don't give her another thought. Not worth it. You could have someone really trustworthy and consistent.