my husband is 30 and i am 19 everybody says he is to old for me still we love eachother to no end but still what they say bothers me like they will never except him i dont think that age should really be a factor do you? (by the way i know those of you out there probably think im after money or something no i am not hes flat broke anyway lol i just really love him)
2007-06-06 18:00:50 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Youre too young to be getting married.
2007-06-06 18:07:36 · answer #1 · answered by Matthew L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People are most likely concerned not by the numerical difference in age, but the fact that it signifies that you're both at such different stages in life. (If you were 39 and he were 50, many people wouldn't even blink.)
Most 30 year old guys don't fall in love with 19 year olds - they fall in lust and have them around as a playtoy for awhile. My guess is that his friends don't take his relationship with you seriously either. This doesn't mean that your guy isn't the exception to the rule, but the odds are definitely against your long term future as a couple.
2007-06-06 18:14:39 · answer #2 · answered by sarah314 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Age is ackward to a certain point, say someone who is mid 20's and a 16 or 17 in relationship. After a certian age, love has no boundries, although it may be odd to some, it shouldn't matter what others think, but rather how you two feel is right for your relationship. Good Luck, and ignore anyone who says otherwise.
2007-06-06 18:05:26 · answer #3 · answered by irishredfishstick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a friend that married at the age of 15 and her husband at the time was 35. They stayed married for over 30 years.
2007-06-06 19:28:03 · answer #4 · answered by hsmommy06 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ha, I know the feeling, my guy right now is 26 and I am 18. Its tought, but you know love is love and you can't help who you love. I guess what I would say is it shouldn't matter ewhat othere people say, because if the two of you really love eachother, that should create enough happiness that the others shouldn't matter. Just laugh at them because they are never going to have something as amazing as you two. Good luck to the both of you, and don't let it get to you!
2007-06-06 18:05:09 · answer #5 · answered by Deaker 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do beleive that love is important. But I had friends who
had a situation like yours. You have to realize that your
from different generations. Things may seem great now,
but your age difference will play a role at different times
in your relationship. Nothing stays the same no matter how
much you love each other. Your going to experience alot
since your not as old as your husband, and your views on
things may not be the same. I say it's good to agree to
disagree.
2007-06-06 19:32:39 · answer #6 · answered by boxmaker40 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who is in this relationship anyway? It isn't necessary for them to accept him. You have. That's all that counts. Marriage is not a committee decision. Grow up and tell the idiots to get lost. They can either accept things on your terms or they can forget it. It is more necessary for you to work on your relationship with your husband rather than your relationship with the committee. What does he say about it?
(Once people are adults, age rarely matters). Think about what they'd have to say if you were 30 and he was 19!
2007-06-06 18:11:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont consider age an issue unless it might bring up problems later on in life. Since you are married, think that you should no longer care about what people say; there are plenty of people with an age difference similar to yours. As you get older, you won't even notice it anymore.
The best of luck to the both of you.
2007-06-06 18:06:04 · answer #8 · answered by colormebrown 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-26 21:44:40 · answer #9 · answered by pooley 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the thing about age is, is it depends how mentally old you are. most 19 year olds never lived away from their parents, haven;t held a real job, and haven;t been in many mature relationships, and because of this don;t know a lot about what they want from life. if you were 26 and he was 37 it wouldn't be as big of a deal to most people. I don;t know anything about your personal life or where the two of you are but good luck!
2007-06-06 18:05:10 · answer #10 · answered by wavereng 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
God is our only judge. If you try and please everyone it's a lost cause. People will judge you no matter what, it's just that makes you and your mate a slightly easier target if you allow it, so make this make you stick closer together. Unless critics paid my bills I wouldn't stress over it. You don't need anyone on here to tell you if age matters, you said you love him and if he makes you happy who cares?
When you're in your 30's he's in his 40's it won't seem like such a fuss. When someone puts you down, they are usually self-consciously trying to raise themselves up. Also, and most important...NEVER LET THEM SEE YOU SWEAT. Since women are suppose to be more mature, your age doesn't seem to be that distant at all...
2007-06-06 18:15:35 · answer #11 · answered by llathrop 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋