We are in a long distance relationship (me in the US, him in the UK). We have an eight hour time distance and have to carefully plan talking times. We use skype, a free way of talking online with mics.
Yesterday morning I said I'd wake up this morning at 6:00 am to talk to him at 2:00 his time (because I have school). I waited until 7:00, sent him an email (that I know he read) that I'd be back on at 12:00. I waited for another two hours then (doing hw at the same time, not just waiting like an idiot).
Should I be angry? I really am but doin't know how to act on it.
Should I wake up early to see if he's on tomorrow morning or save myself the embarassment?
2007-06-06 17:50:51 · 21 answers · asked by megan f 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He just moved back home last Friday.
We talk through skype and calling him costs too much.
I told him in the email if we didn't talk today I'd be on at 7:30 tomorrow morning
2007-06-06 18:13:17 · update #1
We're both 21, have been together since September, living together basically since October until he went home to finish up University last week.
2007-06-07 03:18:40 · update #2
I believe you gave him ample opportunities today to come and set up the time to talk. If you say he checked his email and still didn't make the time I wouldnt be mad just yet. Sometimes things happen that you just can't avoid. Maybe he was going through a situation that he couldn't quite sit down and talk with you at that time. Sometimes I'm in a hurry to do things and when my husband is online and wants to chat with me, I just log off. I'll explain to him later and apologize but tell him that sometimes I can't stop and chat. If this isn't a constant thing, then give him another shot. Sometimes it's a fluke thing and maybe something was going on and he couldn't sit and chat. If it happens again, maybe reconsider the long distance thing and see if it is really working out in both people's best interest.
good luck!
2007-06-06 17:56:50 · answer #1 · answered by ediabullo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Megan--it is a exceptionally difficult task to maintain a long long long distance relationship. You REALLY think that this guy isn't seeing other girls??? Give me a break--no communication is the first clue that he is getting bored with what seemed to be a good idea. You better snap out of it--get a local guy and have a real relationship where face to face communication is just the start of it. What could you possibly get from a guy that only can talk between certain hours--and you have to alter your life for all this stuff---be honest--tell him goodbye---you aren't the first to discover that these things don't work. You are in control of your life--so make a decision and stick to it---tell him goodbye--and good luck--but that is it--no more talking to him.
2007-06-06 17:59:06 · answer #2 · answered by fire_inur_eyes 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've been there in your situation. I live in Canada and had a boyfriend in the UK. The time difference really screws you up but if he wanted to make an effort he would. I would say, respect yourself and don't wait. Just see what he does and when he does call, ask him what happened. If he squirms a lot, you know that he's giving you the gears. Personally, I would run for the hills before going through that whole routine again.
2007-06-06 17:59:52 · answer #3 · answered by ((♫♥♪♫♥♪♫ Shivers ♫♥♪♫♥♪)) 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take a chill pill, his world doesnt revolve aroud you, just step back a sec. He was probobly busy, and couldnt call you, then it prolly got too late and he didnt wanna wake you. You could wake up early see if hes on. If no response dont wait around, hit the sack for that few extra zzzz's before school!
2007-06-06 17:56:02 · answer #4 · answered by Confused 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes i would be mad too if my boyfriend was acting like this.
People are always gonna do what's important to them. when my bf misses a call once i won't freak out but, if he's dodging every opportunity to talk or see me...then i know somethings up. If he's doing this you clearly aren't at the top of his list of priorities. I would have a serious talk with him to see if u can find out what's going on. You deserve to be his # one!
If he's really into you, you won't be able to keep him away. He'll take EVERY opportunity he gets!
â¥Good luck!!
2007-06-06 17:57:48 · answer #5 · answered by sunshinegirl802 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you should not be angry. You will have to learn to be more patient if you really want to carry on a long distance relationship. This is why they often fail, because one person cannot get over themselves, their own needs or suspicions.
Honestly, it doesn't look like this is going to work out for you, sorry.
2007-06-06 17:56:12 · answer #6 · answered by gt5364e 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Ya dawg nxt tyme u see dat MoFo punch dat cracka in da face!!!!
Seriously though, how and why do you have a boyfriend in the UK. I don't think this will work out at all ya'll.
You should just tell it like it is homie. Get up in his grill. Ask a brotha why man!?
2007-06-06 17:55:58 · answer #7 · answered by DaClint 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
long distance relationships are hard...
but I would definitely be mad if someone told me they were going to call, and then didnt... esp if it is an ongoing thing. He may have had a good excuse... so hear him out first. I would not put up with it if it keeps happening.
Did you try to call him??
2007-06-06 18:09:54 · answer #8 · answered by Jennifer S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should leave things with him now.
Get on with the things your doing, live your life, don't waste your time hanging around for him.
If he cares for you he'll get back to you.
How long is the relationship?
How old are you both?
2007-06-07 02:13:55 · answer #9 · answered by smaxsx1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try again tomorrow if he doen`t call then send him a stiff e mail with an ultimatum.
2007-06-06 18:34:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋