i have very low self confidence i think im ugly and i get very shy around other people but i am outgoing with my close friends and family i get straight a's but when i get a b i begin to think im stupid and i take it hard on my self and im only 13..
2007-06-06 17:21:57 · 7 answers · asked by rain™ 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Dont worry to much little one. Impressing other people is not worth it, everyone is made beautiful. Everyone has their own talents and unique looks. Its just some people worry too much about their looks all the time and dont realise they waisting so much precious time. Like i said, dont worry about impressing others, you will do well in school even if you get b's, life is not about being the best in everything. People like that only get depressed in the end anyway.
2007-06-06 19:21:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Congratulations! You are a normal 13 year old!
It's very common to be shy and unsure of yourself at your age. The kids around you who SEEM to be confident probably have some insecurities too -- they are just better at hiding them.
The way to gain self confidence is to ACT confident. It's tough, I know, but with practice it gets better.
So the next time you feel shy, DON'T let it control you. Lift your head up and look the person in the eyes -- if only for a second. Next time, try keeping your head up a little bit longer and SMILE. Keep practicing.
It's also normal to feel ugly. If you have an older sister or you are close with your mom or an aunt, perhaps they can give you some tips on skin care, make-up and wardrobe to help you feel prettier.
Keep doing well in school and treasure your friends and family. You will be fine!
2007-06-07 00:33:43 · answer #2 · answered by luvrats 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The center of your problem is that you are 13 yrs old. At 13, there is a ton of stuff going on in your head, your body, your growth, your development, your identity, and so much more. Sounds like you already have an advantage over some of your peers. You feel that you are not totally in control of everything around you. Thats a healthy start. Its hard not to be hard on yourself, but know its ok to take the time to figure some things out. If you have a really good friend, your mother, sister, girl friend, anyone you are close to and trust, its good to talk about all the stuff that pops up in your head, and it will pop up from time to time and at times it will seem like all the time. The truth is all of us run into this same crazy place, boys and girls. Thats why they call it growing up, you are gaining knowledge and experiences, and discovering lifes many questions, and looking for the answers. Try to enjoy the ride, it will turn out alright, and for the most part you can have a pretty good time. Good Luck, but I think you will come out of this in good shape.
2007-06-07 00:41:55 · answer #3 · answered by relono 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Baby Girl if you think your stupid because you get a B, than over half this country must be retarded. You didn't let anyone down. Others I'm sure wish they were as smart as you, me for one. Give all those other people a chance to get to know you. It's a fact of life there are going to be some people who your not going to be comfortable with. I'm sure your not ugly not in the minds of all people. I feel that I'm ugly "looking" to but in my 45 yrs. of life many have told me I'm crazy, yes there have been those who have also told me I'm ugly, but when you get to know those who are mean you'll find out who the real ugly people are. Your smart outgoing and with those traits I very seriously doubt your ugly. Hold your head high baby girl. I wish I had all your traits and I'm 45 not 13. I do have a lot of confidence but for other reasons.
2007-06-07 00:52:01 · answer #4 · answered by dizzymom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be very proud of your self for all the accomplishments you have made. At one time you did not have close friends, how did you adapt to that? Beauty is what is inside. Me personally is shy but warm up to people easily. Make it a goal girl. Be adventurous: talk to a new person a day. It will make you feel better.
2007-06-07 00:39:47 · answer #5 · answered by Cindy F 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
See the self confidence websites, and negative self talk elimination methods, at http://www.ezy-build.net.nz/~shaneris on page 2, and read page 9. If you still think you're ugly at adult age, consider cosmetic surgery. Avoid beauty, glamour, or fashion magazines, etc., and don't compare yourself unfavorably with others.
2007-06-07 01:05:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to your dr. all humans have confidence issues at some point or another, but when it starts to affect your social and school life, you need to talk to your parents and the dr. they can help you the best.
2007-06-07 00:24:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋