My partner is a complete ****.?

Question

Sure he works hard, and I dont expect him to clean anything, but is it too much to ask that he picks up after himself, eg. puts the milk back in the fridge or washes the hair down the bathroom sink after he shaves? When ever i ask him to do that he goes crazy saying I'm useless and do nothing all day, and its my job, I spend my days cleaning and looking after my 2yr old son and being sick as because of being pregnant.

He doesn't care about me at all, he always gets shitty at me for not telling him whats upsetting me, but when I do tell him he starts yelling and makig everything into my fault.

It's driving me nuts theres a whole heap of other things but It would take forever to write them all. But I'm just pissed, I have no money because he doesn't want to combine finances, and the little money i get each week, goes straight into groceries or bills. He earns heaps of money and just says you need to budget better, yes I do and I dont expect to takehis money i dont want to do that.

I just want to feel stable. How would I word to him that I need more help finacially from him without him getting angry and yelling at me?

Answer 1

He needs to support you as a family, yes he may work and bring the money home, but you are what keeps the family together, you make sure his child is fed, clothed clean.
Who cares if the house isnt spotless, as long as its clean. Your preganant so just do what you can. If he cracks a ****, tell him to do it himself or start paying you.
I can be a bit spiteful and if my hubby told me that i did nothing all day, i would do exactly that.
About the money, get him to sit down with you when you work out how much of your money goes on bills, and show him exactly what you have left.
I believe that partners should pay all bills together, i think your partner is a control freak sorry to say.
Hope all works out.

Answer 2

Tell him to get a maid because you aren't one and then pack your **** and escape. If he can't communicate with you properly and take your feelings, needs and suggestions into consideration then it's no longer a relationship, it's more like him playing puppet master in an environment that you BOTH share. It seems that this will be spiraling downward until you do something about the situation. You should move on but allow visitation rights for the childrens sake of course. Good luck.

Answer 3

You are pregnant for the second time with this useless and controlling person. He should be sharing the housework as well as working. You are working just as hard at home, if not harder.

You need to get some counseling, or get out. You would be better off away from him and all of his control over you. Take your life back for yourself and your children.

Good luck.

Answer 4

Say.. "hey they're your kids to!" (they are aren't they?) If the 2 yr old isn't his, he might be holding that against you and doesnt want to help raise a baby by another man.. i'm just throwing that in there, not assuming or anything..

but if it is his kid, and you have another one of his on the way, then you should have a combined bank account, and have full access to anything he earns, Hey you might be better off leaving him and getting child support than staying with him and getting jack..
You deserve better, and the first bad signs, usually lead to worse things..

Answer 5

Leave him! The judge will make him pay "heaps" of money in child support since he makes "heaps" of money. It sounds like you and your children are better off without him. Sheesh, I thought my boyfriend was lazy but at least he doesn't yell at me when I ask him to do something around the house...he actually does it!!!

Answer 6

Get out!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! He owes you rental income for incubating his two children as well as maid duties. I hate to say this but it is only going to get worse. You need to call your local battered women's help line and get the help you need. If he makes heaps then your child support alone should more than cover your rent.

Answer 7

yep, he's a **** alright.