Were you spanked or not spanked?

Question

And, how much jail time have you served? ;-)

Also, if you were not spanked, how did your parents teach you to behave?

Answer 1

Husband and I were both spanked,
ZERO jail time.

Answer 2

I was spanked, I had toys or things taken away (ie. television rights, my horse, my phone, etc) and I was grounded. All were appropriate at different times in my life.
I have never been in jail, I have never even been close. But I heard Adam Carrola talking about this topic this morning. The people I know who have had run-ins with the law or have been arrested are usually those who have had NO discipline in their lives, not a spanking here and there. I think people forget there is a difference between beating a child and spanking a child.
Each child is an individual. Time out is not going to work for every child, just like many children never need a swat on the bottom. I think discipline needs to evolve. I think about how to discipline my child all the time and no matter what I come up with I have learned the it is hard and it takes consistency, something a lot of parents these days don't seems to have time for.

Answer 3

I was spanked as a child and I haven't done any jail time. To me, spanking was harsh and I do hope that I will not go that far with my children as my mother did. The whole "spanking" issue is a little rocky. Some people see it as a means of telling the child who's boss whereas others see it as abuse. I saw it as my mother being mean at the time but looking back I kinda see where she was coming from. I wasn't a troublesome child but did get way out of hand at times and that's why she spanked me. My mother had zero tolerance for any shenanigans. IShe used spanking as the last straw and a way to put me back in place, cause she knew I had known better therefore my actions were uncalled for. And that's probably why some parents still or have spanked their children. 'm not a parent at the moment but as a person who was spanked...I feel when it comes to parenting and disciplining the child, the parent(s) should enforce rules and regulations more and less physical punishment. Just talking to a child does nothing. Kids today are smart and are getting smarter by each generation. So they can sense if their parents are weak or not sturdy disciplinarians at the very begining. If you do choose not to spank, be more stern with your way of discipline. There are parents out here who see their child misbehaving yet won't do a thing about it. On the other hand, there are those who hit their child in public for stupid things, such as the child wasn't paying attention to where they were going...so their parent slaps them. That of course is going too far. I can go on and on about this...

Answer 4

I was spanked. It worked, I didn't get into trouble very often. My parents were very structured when they spanked. First they would give me warnings, third time resulted in a spanking. Very consistent, and I think that is the reason they were successful. They never spanked me out of anger or impatience. That is a big problem with parents spanking today. They do it out of anger and don't communicate to their children why they are being punished.

Answer 5

I'm the oldest of 6 children. We were all spanked and held to high standards of behavior. We were taught manners and had values instilled in us. I am 45 years old and have 5 children (2 of my own and 3 step-sons). They were also spanked. 3 of my children are grown (2 are 23 and 1 is 21) the other 2 are 15 and 12. Because they all know there are consequences for their actions if they are not acting right, we get respect out of all of them.

Until I had children of my own, I used to think my parents were too hard on us. After having my own children, I went back and thanked my parents for being strict. I have the utmost respect for them and wouldn't change anything about the way they raised us nor the way I raised my children.

Oh yeah, I have never been in any more trouble with the law more than a speeding ticket.

Answer 6

I was spanked a few times and have not spent 1 second in jail. Ha!

In fact, I am the daughter of a police officer, married to a police officer and worked in law enforcement for over 26 years, so you could say that I was on the other side of the jail bars.

What does being spanked have to do with being in jail? Oh, I get it, you are one of those people who think that if you give your child a swat on the fanny now and again to get their attention that they will grow up to be serial killers and axe murders. Sorry to disappoint.

Answer 7

I was spanked, in addition to groundings. More groundings than spankings. No jail time yet, lol. They never actually taught me to behave - I learned it the hard way once I moved out on my own. I think I've got it down now, though. :)

Answer 8

I was spanked often, at first I hated it and didn't understand why I was spanked, I was spanked very hard and it hurt but later I accepted my punishment and would ask my parents to spank me if I was naughty, to me this helped me punish myself when I needed punishment. I have never been in jail or arrested

Answer 9

I was absolutely spanked and I am grateful that my parents disciplined me this way. Because, other means would never have been effective and resulted to be the kind of person I am now. I am sure that I don't suffer any psychological dilemma/trauma that "experts" say about the effects of physical discipline. People think I am very polite, courteous, sweet, compassionate , generous and loving. If I were to be a child again, I would like my parents to discipline me through spanking.
I don't believe "taking away privileges" or "time-out" or "talking to your child" are the only forms of discipline. I had been a nanny for 3 years and I observed that my employers (the parents) cannot control their children because of these forms of discipline. The children had grown to be arrogant, rude and inconsiderate and most of all, spoiled. Parents have to assert they are the "authorities" and "superiors" in the family and these forms of discipline are ineffective because children would just think they can be "talked out" (remember, parents and children are not equal ) or they can have other means to attain that privilege anyhow and "time-out" is temporary and "ineffectual".
That's why most children , especially in America are the "scariest kids" in the world today. They can imprison their parents by calling 911. They don't seem to look at the police or authorities as "superiors" but merely as "friendly helpers". IN the US, the parents are jailed for disciplining their children. In other countries especially the traditional ones, they deem that physical discipline is "an expression of love".
After spanking, my parents would often console me and said, "We don't want to do this but this is the way we want you to believe that your behavior was unacceptable and we don't want you to grow up behaving like that and doing that when you're old because we love you very much".
That is why I am so grateful that my parents know better.

Answer 10

I was spanked but when they took me to jail they just transferred me to the hospital, pretty messy situation. I don't think I was taught much maybe just how to be afraid of being hurt, I keep getting involved with abusive men too.

If I was a child and didn't know that I was about to put myself into danger of being hurt, but was stopped by my parent spanking me, why would this teach me anything but to be afraid of my parents. The danger that was "avoided" was never understood.

Answer 11

I never spent any time in jail...I was never even sent to detention! :)

I was spanked, I can probably count the number of times on one hand. My parents primarily used the loss of privileges to discipline us, but they would spank us to interrupt dangerous behaviors. (ex. running away from them in a crowded, public center) Whenever they did spank us, they first warned us that we had until the count of three to stop what we were doing or we were going to have a spanking. Typically we stopped whatever we were doing by 1 1/2 :) If they did get to three and we received a spanking, they never spanked hard, it never actually hurt and it NEVER left a mark. Mainly it was just an interruption of our behavior.

Neither my sister or I have ever had any behavior problems (or psychological trauma lol) as a result :) We both have a fantastic, loving relationship with both of our parents.

Today I am a mother and, although my children have never given me cause to spank them thus far, I wouldn't have any problem swatting their little bottom if the situation required it!