Christians and dating?

Question

Christians, I am curious why you think (if you do) that dating is allowed?

Throughout history ppl did not date, it's a rather new thing...like in the last 200 years or so ... people used to have arranged marriages and there was courting too.

I am not saying have an arranged marriage but what about courting? Isn't that more appropriate because it is expressly for finding a spouse? Doesn't dating just bring too much bad with it, broken hearts, loss of innocence, cheating, possible pregnancy and stds...

I completely believe in getting to know the person you will marry but I don't think that dating is the way to go. It seems courting would be much better these days anyway because ppl are so busy and have a hard time meeting ppl (in general) anyway...

What are you thoughts on the matter?

non-christians can answer too if they wish

my parents did not allow me to date--they did not lose me.

and there are studies that say it is a 50/50 chance either way (about marriage working out)

when u r courting you get to know the person for the express reason you are interested in getting married

when you date you lie and pretend to be somebody else and then u get married and find out the truth

jlleyinnv--this ? is concerning ppl who DO want to get married

I have found somebody great and all my closest friends have too--in the same manner I might add!

emmapeel66--The longer you date the harder it is to remain chaste, no?

Answer 1

My pastor says that Christians should only date other Christians , as each date could lead to marriage and if one is not a Christian , chances are this will create a problem in your relationship and trying to raise your children in your faith .
I think after dating someone for a year , you both should know if you are adaptable for each other and should get married if you both are serious.Good luck.

Answer 2

I personally think that dating should wait until the person in emotionally mature enough to have an adult relationship with the opposite sex. Although I am not a Christian anymore, I do believe in many Christian principles (just not some of the doctrine and worship, but that's a long story). I think dating will be a serious, yet fun, ordeal for me. I'm only 14, and I probably won't date until college.

I go to an extremely conservative private Christian school, and lots of the students and their families attend the same church, and the teens there actually do court. There is a LOT of involvement from the family. One example: the two teens don't even get to sit next to each other until later on. Their "dates" are with their families at each other's houses (dinnertime, etc.) Needless to say, I don't agree with that entirely.

Answer 3

We should not be dating, and I agree with you. But because of pride it has to go our way and not God's way. If any desire
sex let him marry you. And if a woman desire sex let her marry the man. Sex serves two purposes, 1. pleasure and 2. procreation.

When we reach the point where we cannot contain- remain celibate-, we are to marry, and inside of marriage come children.

When a man finds a wife, not a girlfriend, he finds a good thing. We do this by courting and developing a friendship. Our mate should be our best friend. And when we do this and marry, the scripture teaches this: the marriage bed is undefiled. Have at it and have a good time.

Answer 4

Well, not everybody has the desire to get married. I date, and I am abstinate (now) because I choose to be, so it doesn't bring any problems like std's or pregnancy (just because a baby is born out of wedlock doesn't make it unwanted). If that is what you want, then go for it, good luck finding someone though. I wish you the best.

Answer 5

You make it sound like dating is an instant invitation to have sex. Dating is going out with someone so you can get to know the person better. Whether or not sex and all you mentioned makes an appearance depends upon the individuals involved. So yes, I feel dating is "allowed". Also, just because you date doesn't mean you are going to be fake. I am bluntly honest about myself and my convictions.
And no, it's not hard to remain "chaste". Like I said, it depends upon the individual person.

Answer 6

Some people call courtship what others would call dating. I'm not a big fan of dating either, but since the Bible never clearly teaches that dating is sinful, I wouldn't impose my conviction that dating is wrong (if I held that conviction which I don't) on other people. I would simply tell them that in my opinion, dating is wrong. I do believe that it should be limited. Guys and girls should get to know one another, mostly, in groups, not by themselves, to protect their virtue.

Answer 7

I am a christian, but i am not going to be a hypocrite and tell you that my husband and i did things the right way when we were dating. But hind site is 20/20. We went through a lot of unnecessary problems because of the life we were living. We were putting our lust before God. you will have to pray about the matter. I am not saying get married to the first guy you meet so you can have sex, Pray about it and God will answer...but you have to believe and trust in him.

Answer 8

Jessica, Since you're a believer, you ought to realize that your courting with Jesus is the principal courting you are going to ever have. The Bible obviously teaches that we will have to no longer be unequally yoked. The photograph right here is 2 oxen, might be one so much better or of a further temperament than the the opposite. One desires to head in a single course, the opposite desires to head the opposite. They might make it to their vacation spot, or they won't. If they get there, it is going to be by means of so much aggravation and straining to examine which one will win within the battle to make a decision which approach to cross. The very cause we date is with the desire of finally being "paired" with the correct individual for us. Since you're a Christian, you will have to on no account don't forget being paired with a nonbeliever. Thus, there's no cause to this point him. I realize it is elaborate while the hormones are raging, you're attracted to this younger guy, he's good-looking and has a successful personalty. He could have capabilities and traits that are very gorgeous to you, however don't be deluded or deceived. If he isn't a Christian, he isn't for you. It will handiest lead you each to distress. Yes, there are instances in which folks are married to unbelievers they usually keep married elevating youngsters and residing in combination for years. They proportion facet in their lives, nonetheless, they may be able to on no account proportion the principal facet of themselves, their spirituality. Non Christians won't have an understanding of what I have stated, they are going to deride my pronouncing it. However, you as a Christian will have an understanding of what I am pronouncing. You could be a Christian instance on your pal, however to entertain a major suggestion of courting him could no longer be smart. It isn't his fault relatively, he is aware of no greater, however you do. Once while I was once a teen, a godly trainer as soon as comparable somewhat tale to me while she was once advising me in regard not to spending such a lot time with non Christian peers, permitting them to have an impact on me. I had given her the identical argument approximately probably being the only to convey those folks to the LORD. She stated, "It's like dressed in white gloves and gambling in a coal bin. The cole has a miles greater hazard of creating the white gloves soiled than the white gloves have of creating the coal blank, regardless of how difficult you can also take a look at. Blessings l:zero)

Answer 9

It is a nice concept...and I understand that their are some who do practice this even here in the USA. I doubt if you are going to convince the teens of today of the benefits however. They see dating as just having fun and doing whatever...not just as a search for a lifelong mate.

Answer 10

I don't believe in God myself, but the Bible makes it clear that dating is sinful.

But I say to you that every one who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart. (Mt.5:27)

It is well for a man not to touch a woman. But because of the temptation to immorality, each man should have his own wife and each woman her own husband. 1 Cor. 7:1-2