hi i am the gay who dont want to be gay...i got married to a young woman, her life now seems miserable but?

Question

cannot she be god´s instrument to make me abandon any homosexual feeling??? people has to sacrifice for god, her sacrifice is just saving me from hell...what is wrong with that?
is her earthly hapinnes with a man that can sexually satisfy her more important than my eternal salvation????
i am a sinner and she is my saviour, so what does her happiness matter if i am going to be saved thankx to her???

Answer 1

Get over it and be who you are!

Being married to a woman is not going to make you any less gay!

Answer 2

Is this question for real? If so, I am confused by what you say. First, having homosexual feelings is not a sin. You were born with those as I understand the medical side of things. Can you actually not want to be gay? Second, I have to ask...if you are homosexual, then why would you marry anyway? Companionship? Financial gain? Good friendship?

Her happiness does matter as would the happiness of the other person in any relationship...gay or straight.

Sexual gratification...although an important part of marriage...is not its foundation and I can assure you a marriage can be very fulfilling without it.

Answer 3

Yes, she could be God's instrument to help you, and yes people do sacrifice for God, but your wife is not your savior, and cannot save you from hell. The only one that can save you from hell is Jesus Christ. He is also the one you need to look to for deliverance from homosexuality.
Do you love your wife? Or did you marry her just to try to run from the homosexual feeling? I don't know everything about your situation and why your wife maybe unhappy, but I believe that if you love her, her happiness does matter. I also think maybe you should think about what marriage is all about.

Answer 4

Hi. Firstly, is the woman Christian?

Here are some relevant scriptures. You'll find a Bible at www.blueletterbible.com if you don't have one.

If you're married, you're supposed to stay married. (This is the first reference I have pasted below from 1 Corinthians.) This is so whether or not either party is a believer or unbeliever.

Your wife cannot "make" you abandon your homosexual feeling, as Romans 1 explains what has led you down this path in the first place. More in a moment. However, a believing wife can win her husband over without the word (kerdaino - to gain, acquire, to get gain) by being submissive. Verse 1 of 2 Peter 3 (referenced below) starts with the word in Greek "homoiōs" which means "likewise" or "in the same way." This follows on from the end of chapter 2 which says that we were "like sheep going astray" but have now "returned to the Shepherd and Overseer of your souls." This is like Paul's words in Ephesians 5.

In any event, Christianity is not supposed to be for the "look" of it. Mythology is concerned about how things look because it is governed by aspiration, rather than authority. The Bible condemns mythology in 2 Timothy 4:3-5.

Romans 1 is the best place to go to look at what makes a homosexual. The first step in verse 18 is "suppressing the truth by means of wickedness." Wickedness in the Bible means not being concerned about justice for the poor. Therefore, if you are interested in hiding things that would help the cause or interests of a poor person by means of joking about how they aren't going so well, for example, instead of helping them because they're a human being, then you will start believing in some sort of "horses for courses" God and possibly turn homosexual, especially if you then substitute "authority instituted" (ktisis in Romans 1:25) in your worship and service in life for "making things habitable by transformation" (ktizo in the same verse). Ktisis also appears in 1 Peter 2:13, but the word "submit" is used instead of "sebazomai" and "latreuo" as in Romans 1:25. You submit to the people who have authority (that includes your wife to you) rather than revering and being employed by authorities, institutions or ordinances arranged by human beings. They don't need worship. Neither do you in your marriage. But co-operation makes authority figures either a lot more relaxed or a lot more aware of how their responsibilities affect others in real life. This is why marriages where it's all about the money that each partner earns can tend to be a bit hairy. Neither partner (especially the husband, who is the head of the household) is really going to find out that their everyday actions and choices have a huge impact (for example, listening to mates for advice instead of just taking a few seconds before responding to events - Proverbs 29:20) if they are being revered and their work is being done for them by the vicarious means of those outside the household who are willing to pay the wife to feel good about her role as a wife. This is how your wife can also bring herself to the marriage - by not discussing everything with anybody who happens to pay her or with anybody else who is also employed with her.

Answer 5

This is a weird question but I am going to give it a shot. Your admittedly gay and you seem to strongly believe in God and what God thinks and what will happen to you in the afterlife for being gay. So if you are that much of a believer do you really think you can fool God? Doesn't God know what you are thinking and what is in your heart at all times? So now let's say I am God. Here is what I would think. He's gay, he is using someone else to try to fool me, but I know better and he is making another one of my fine creations miserable for his own gain so he is also very selfish. I think it would be better to be true to yourself, be who you are and not drag others into your drama. Hey, one sin has to be better than the pile you are building up!

Answer 6

Don't look to her to be your savior, that's where you've gone wrong. You need to have a relationship with Jesus first. You also have to realize that you may never lose your "homosexual feelings" but if you truly feel that homosexuality is wrong, then you should just not act on those feelings. Also, you need to want to change because that is what you feel in your heart, not becuase of family pressure or other reasons. Talk to your wife about your feelings, it seems that you are putting a lot of pressure on yourself and on her. Maybe it would be good for you to focus on other aspects of your relationship besides the physical for awhile? Grow to trust each other more, know each other more. I suggest you arrange a counseling session with your pastor.

Answer 7

Only God can save you....read the word of God.

If she had trust God and not let her feelings get in the way.."I could change him",Will she would not have gotten caught up.
That goes for any man be it homosexual or heterosexual.
man can not save himself less known someone else. Get a grip on reality.She did not sacrifice her body to God she sacrificed her body to man,if to God she would not have married you. Now she is sexually unhappy among other things!.

Answer 8

I do hope this question is a joke. but it's hard to know when people are being serious around here.

A lot of what Jesus talked about, in a nutshell, was that we should be nice to each other. It's not very nice to intentionally use a person as a stepping stone to get where you want to be, without caring about their happiness. I certainly hope you didn't deceive her into thinking you're straight, too.

Answer 9

God made you gay, He wants you to find happiness with another man. You are doing the opposite of what God wants you to do. Your Gift from God will not condem you to hell, silly.

Answer 10

check out www.exodus.to/help
This site has the stories of many homosexuals who changed and became completely heterosexual again. Trials in life only make us stronger. Stay strong and resist temptation.

Answer 11

Sin is sin, some are harder to give up. Put your faith in God, believe that God can do what He says He will do, and believe that God will do what He says He will do. When He says it is a sin He will give you victory. You have to ask God to give you the desire to change. Remember what Jesus said let it be according to thy faith.