I am an extremely shy person but with time recently has been more comfortable to operate socially. I think now I am quite comfortable with small talk and making acquaintance. But I think my biggest problem is that I have very strong inhibition to talk about and disclose my personal matters. This makes me difficult to relate to others at a deeper level, especially with the opposite sex. I was a loner, and still am. Am I the only one in the world that have this problem?
2007-06-06 15:56:13 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think what Savannah said makes sense. I think my problem is I have difficulty trusting people, even peopel I've known for years. I think I'm able to open up, but only to those I really trust. The thing is the trust is never there. How can you people do it?
2007-06-08 06:00:59 · update #1
nah dude every1 brags ur alrite but dont get in over ur head and dont talk to girls about sex just have it with them lol
2007-06-06 15:59:27 · answer #1 · answered by man u 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to disclose this part of you because it's not necessary to unless you're just looking for someone to listen to you. I understand your private matter as I am studying Psychology. To become more outspoken all you have to do is do all those things that you've always wanted to do, this will make you feel like you have freedom. if you're a good bowler join the bowling league they're always looking for another team member. The excitement from winning is sure to bring out some emotion. Go to a concert and hopefully you'll be sitting in a hype section where the people stand and sing along with the entertainer. This is a place where you can scream and just hang lose and everyone will hi-five you and hug you and you'll just party, might even hang out after-wards. You hang out at places where people don't mind expressing themselves and this will allow you to break away from the shyness because it is just a defense mechanism and you need to let it go, you have been suppressed long enough. you're wonderful! so go be yourself.
2007-06-06 16:14:04 · answer #2 · answered by Neenah 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
there was alot of big words in that question. i don't really understand but let me try. i think ur sayin that once u open up to someone, u tell them way too much info about ur personal life. is that right? if thats the case then maybe u should try practicing talkin to chicks online w/out the openess. at least if u get shy then u can just click them away. when u think ur ready, then go out there. by the way, there is nothing wrong w/ being a loner, but it does get lonely! u have to learn to be open, but not over due it. does that make any sense to u?
2007-06-14 08:41:04 · answer #3 · answered by ider_angel2005 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One of my best friends has this problem. He expresses a lot of his personal stories on a blog that he writes, and generates a lot of friendships from the blog as a result. People are interested in his funny stories that he tells there. Maybe there is some other way to reveal parts of yourself that would attract friendships like this? Not everyone is the type of person to put themselves out there. You can still make good friends. At least always try to keep in mind that most other people feel just as anxious as you do about social interaction but your internal anxiety is a lot more obvious to you!
2007-06-06 16:00:21 · answer #4 · answered by annie bananny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No ur not because i was the same way and because of me being able to open up i've lost alot of relationships. Untill i met someone out of the blue that i could open up to completely. you just have to give it time and wait for the right person/ people to come in your life that make you feel comforable and like a great person. thats all you need to open up, even if it's just a little bit
2007-06-14 14:46:54 · answer #5 · answered by xbluedynasty92x 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't really answer your question except that I'm in the same boat. And I've made some bad decisions and left some good relationships becauses of trust issues. I do my best to work thru them. It's a constant battle. I try to work on myself and keep my self-esteem high.
2007-06-14 00:05:19 · answer #6 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, your not alone , many people are private about their personal matters, (not always a bad thing) Maybe it's a gene thing, or they've had problems when they talk to people about private things and it's a defense mechanism. It isn't always easy to have people criticize the way you deal with life. Or to have to explain yourself.
2007-06-06 16:07:07 · answer #7 · answered by fuzzykitty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow i'm pretty much in the same boat there as well, except i have a problem trusting ppl. iguess we both just need to loosen up, make some wise choices as to whom to reveal our personal matters too and live life fully..
2007-06-06 16:27:07 · answer #8 · answered by californiangel_rhonda 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Open up to people
2007-06-06 15:59:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I'm just like you. I think what we need are folks with an opposite personality, so that it balances us out somewhat.
2007-06-06 16:00:13 · answer #10 · answered by flopstock 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋