Sometimes...guys or boyfriends
Try to force me to have sex with them...I usually can get myself out of the situation..
Im scared..that one time I wont be able to..and therefore I will have sex...
What should I do in a situation such as this..?
2007-06-06 14:47:49 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
When you use a word like force it leads me to believe that these guys are trying to rape you and you are getting away. This is a serious situation that needs to be reported to law enforcement.
If you meant to say "they want to have sex with me" or "they try to" then here's what you need to do.
1. Understand that these are guys we're talking about. They've been programmed to be obssessed with having sex and this doesn't mean that you have to.
2. Make it very clear to them that you have no interest in having sex and if they try you will break up with them.
3. Or you could stay away from guys all together. If all of the guys you run into keep disrespecting you don't need them. You don't want to end up pregnant or diseased just because some horny kid talked you into having sex with him
2007-06-06 15:08:15 · answer #1 · answered by binzy86 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it ever happens, get yourself to a hospital and tell them that you were raped....that's what forced sex is. The hospital will call the police...press charges and have the guy sent to prison.
However, the best solution is to not get yourself into a situation where you are put in harm's way in the first place!!! Be very careful of where you go and with whom. If you think that a guy, boyfriend or not, will try something, don't go with him. Meet him somewhere in public. Have a girlfriend go with you or call you at a pre-arranged time to check on you. Whatever you do, do not get caught alone with this person. Be smart and stay safe......know the company you keep.
2007-06-06 14:57:01 · answer #2 · answered by rockjock_2000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Part of not being in those situtaions is not to let yourself get in them.
The only true love is a free one given by the other person openly. If they are forcing you, they don't love you.
Anyway, if you find yourself in this situation, it's obvious they don't love you or care about you. So don't feel bad or wrroy about hurting them.
Two spots on a guy that are very sensitive.
1)Between the legs; crush it with your fist, knee, elbow, whatever as hard as you can. Don't hold back. Do it several times if you need to escape.
2)On the throat. Follow your collar bone to the middle. Jab at it real hard. It won't kill him, but disable him and make it hard to breath for a few seconds. Enough time to get away.
Never ever feel sorry for the jerk who tries to rape you. They literally have no emotional feelings.
2007-06-06 14:55:37 · answer #3 · answered by Michael M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if it is not consensual then it is rape and therefore jail time for the offender. If it becomes physical think of your well being first chances are if you go with it the worst will be the rape but you will not be hurt other wise. Be careful and do not put yourself in this position. do not let yourself be left alone with a bunch of guys. always have a friend with you. If sex is not what is on your mind you should know where not to go alone. Rooms,houses,ect.
2007-06-06 14:53:12 · answer #4 · answered by debbie f 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel uncomfortable at all let the guy know.
When you say no don't look down or hunch over. Stand up tall look him in the eye and firmly say. If they see confidence they'll definately back down. or if you want, when your going on a date
that you think this may happen, have one of your friends call you about an hour into it. If things are going good let it be, if not act like something really serious happened and you absolutely need to help your friend. Apologize, and leave. Yeah it's mean but it works ;)
Hope I helped!
2007-06-06 14:52:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well most guys will say if u luv me then u will have sex wit me but girls should know that if a guy luved u den he shouldnt ask u 2 have sex wit them. if u keep sayin no and gettin urself out of the situtions then trust me u will never come to a sitution where u cannot get out of. u need 2 b friends wit dez guys first and see what kind of guys day r and then date them. do not have sex just to keep someone and do not have sex wit someone dat u will regret later.
2007-06-06 14:54:15 · answer #6 · answered by annawuvzchris 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't put yourself in the situation where you are alone with them. You may want to look closer at how you are chosing your guys. Have you been abused before or seen someone in you family abused? It seems as though you are in a cycle of maladaptive behavior with men. Just don't be alone with them until you figure it out. Please stay safe! Below is a link you may find helpful.
2007-06-06 14:59:42 · answer #7 · answered by Sparkles_65 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! This sounds like the plot of a pretty violent Brazilian porn flick.
You need to: 1) learn self defense and 2) get new friends who will respect you otherwise, you'll get banged.
You need to get out of those situations like now.
2007-06-06 14:55:21 · answer #8 · answered by Felix The Cat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what do u mean when u said force to?nobody can force u to do anything if u dont want to. try not to go out if u are not too sure of the intention of the guys who want to take u out.or go out in group so as not giving this creeps a chance.
2007-06-06 14:56:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
"JUST SAY NO!" If he keeps going, that is rape! Please do not let yourself get into this position and ask to be taken home! If they will not take you home, get away and get help asap!
Good luck and stand your ground! Making love is a mutual thing...not a forceable situation.
Saying no is not always easy, I know that but, it is the best option when you do not want to go that far!! Stick in their girl and no the limit!! I am proud of you!!
2007-06-06 14:53:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋