So, my son, (17) is staying with his father for the summer. His father tells me that when our son forgets to sign out when he is on his email site and My Space his father reads everything. His father says that he knows that our son is doing things for which he's liable to get into trouble some day. His father asked that I not confront my son about this.
I've always given my son reason to expect privacy, whether he leaves his journal open on the coffee table, or if he forgets to sign out on his email account. We talk a lot and I've always felt that I know him pretty well.
I don't want to be disrespectful to his father, but I don't like the idea that he is invading my son's privacy. If our son is involved in heavy stuff, he needs to be confronted, but his father said that he won't confront him either. Instead, he just plans to keep reading my son's personal correspondance.
Was I wrong to trust my son? His father says I was foolish to believe him.
2007-06-06 14:44:27 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Your husband is the one who snooped so he should be the first one to talk with him. Your son DOES need to be talked to. If he's doing things that can get him in trouble, he's violated your trust. He is going to have to earn it now. Don't just blow this off. Your husband is being a huge wimp!
2007-06-06 14:48:52 · answer #1 · answered by katydid 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a teen it's about learning responsibility. It's basically your son's fault that he left his information open, people are curious by nature and even not may stumble upon something when they go to use the computer next. Would your son leave his checkbook lying around? No, because he might lose money and have to face the consequences that way. He should treat everything private that way. I don't leave open stuff on my computer and neither does my roomate because we don't want to stumble across something private. We trust each other but feel its better to always practice responsbility and privacy because not everyone can be trusted.
Your son needs to learn responsibility for his actions, especially his troublesome ones. Also your son needs to learn that whats put on the internet stays there. An aqquaintance of mine just lost out on an amazing job because she had inappropiate stuff on her facebook about drinking and doing drugs, when she's underaged, and they check for these things now.
2007-06-06 22:46:20 · answer #2 · answered by texas hearts 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From a kid's point of view, I can't even say how angry I would be if I found out my dad was going through my personal stuff. I probably would have a very difficult time forgiving him, and trusting him again. Especially if he didn't care enough to speak with me about it, instead just kept going through my stuff. If what your son is doing is dangerous or what not, then confront him, and do not let his father keep reading his stuff. While your son violated your trust, his father is doing the exact same. He needs to live by example, and that would be addressing the issue, and not going behind his back to find information.
2007-06-06 22:00:14 · answer #3 · answered by Chuckles 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It depends on what his father considers "heavy stuff"
but i think you should all have a family talk to work things out
hes your son to and weather his father likes it or not you have a right in how he is raised
2007-06-06 21:50:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋