Please give swift responses I might use.
I'm a SAHM
2007-06-06 14:15:26 · 18 answers · asked by Lola 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Yes, Crazy let me clarify. The individual asking this chose to work outside the home shortly after giving birth.
2007-06-06 14:22:19 · update #1
claimed she could not afford to be a SAHM
2007-06-06 14:23:18 · update #2
10th answerer, when you say i should give the age of the child would that change your answer. 18months sahm is my occupation.
2007-06-06 14:46:05 · update #3
Well...you didn't really say what your plans are. Or how old your child is. Is this a newborn and they are already questioning or did you take 8 wks maternity leave and its been 4 months and you didn't come back yet? Are you planning on staying at home forever?
What my mother always said was--
"mike (my dad) and i are lucky. i will get to stay at home with (kids name). That way I wont miss a single memorable moment"
or--
"We waited to have (kid) so that we were financially able to stay at home. It was what we'd always wanted to be able to do and were just grateful it worked out so well"
Almost anything else makes it sound like it may not be intentional. Many women say something about how busy they are or that day care is so impersonal/expensive. That only makes it sound like they are looking for work but unable to find it or financially not well off. Neither are really good answers. But both of those answers show that you are really happy to stay at home and that it was planned ahead of time.
If you are only planning on staying at home til kindegarden, you could say that you didn't want to miss first words, first steps, but you plan on going back when he is school age.
If the kid is older (school age), you can say
"I always wanted to be that mom with milk and cookies--I just cant bear to miss the stories of his day. He comes in so excited with so much to say. I can't imagine missing all that"
Hope these help.
2007-06-06 14:35:42 · answer #1 · answered by phantom_of_valkyrie 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Just ask " why do you want to know?". This question usually stops people because they can't answer. Good for you if you can be a SAHM. Enjoy your baby now because they grow up too soon.
Another reply might be that because of the cost of daycare you can't afford to work.
2007-06-06 19:33:39 · answer #2 · answered by mingo 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Say you'll go back when your family is ready. You are happy as a SAHM and it's the best thing for you and your family.
Smile a lot and try not to get irritated. Maybe they just miss your company at the office! :)
2007-06-06 15:24:50 · answer #3 · answered by Kaitelia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good for you, Mum! There aren't enough of you out there, and that has a lot to do with the way some of our kids are going off the rails.
Nobody elses business, and they shouldn't even have the nerve to ask you, but I know there are those out there who like to make a habit of this sort of thing.
Perhaps a good rejoinder would simply be - "When my family is old enough and wise enough to be responsible for their own futures!"
2007-06-06 14:22:34 · answer #4 · answered by Julia D 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You cant knock the devil out of youngsters yet you could knock the devil into them. Why no longer attempt sending her to mattress early or combating a number of her treats. I consistently went and talked to my babies approximately an hour when I had instructed them off . I defined to them why i replaced into disillusioned with them then we would have a cuddle and say not extra approximately it. babies like adults prefer to be praised attempt praising them while they do precise do no longer enable them to advance up petrified of you and that's what a belt will do.
2017-01-10 17:16:42 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's the same person who constantly questions you then say "Same answer I gave you last time" a couple of times. After that tell her to stop asking you. If she still asks then glare at her, don't reply, and change the subject.
2007-06-06 14:22:38 · answer #6 · answered by Jay 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
First of all you do not owe this clod an explanation at all. If you are compelled to answer, i would reply, "why on earth would it matter to you when and if i decide to go back to work?" If that does not get through to the clod, nothing will.
2007-06-07 00:42:15 · answer #7 · answered by pj 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How about "I'm staying at home to give my child more love and attention. Why are my personal finances any of your business?"
2007-06-07 01:40:04 · answer #8 · answered by claude 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would just ask her why she wants to know since it's none of her business.
2007-06-07 05:05:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My priority now that I have children, is having them brought up with values that I respect, and that I approve. I can't trust anyone else to do this for me, but me.
2007-06-06 14:33:58 · answer #10 · answered by Haveitlookedat 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋