About 9 months ago, my fiance and I had a group of friends over for a bbq and drinks.Ususally I let my sister walk all over me, but that day I called her on something she did and she got pissed and stormed out of my house, dragging her poor husband with her. I normally am the one to apologise to her for ANY fight we get into, but this time I was sick of it, and "got a backbone" and decided she was the one at fault, so she can apololgize.Well it's 9 mo. later.I'm getting married in 5 months, and so i wrote her a nice letter basically saying the reasons i didn't back down this time but that wasn't it time to put this behind us? She got the letter last week according to her husband, but hadn't gotten around to opening it yet. So today i get this tattered envelope in the mail with my name scribbled on it from her. All it was was some old mail that was sent to her house addressed to me. Nothing actually from her. And believe me, the condition it was in was trying to say something to me...
2007-06-06 12:44:38 · 4 answers · asked by who? 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
What should I do or not do?
2007-06-06 12:44:56 · update #1
cut her out of your life. it's not worth it. just because she's family doesn't mean that she's friends. just because she's family doesn't mean that you have to put up with her crap. good for you for getting a back bone and standing up to your sister. i suspect that the relationship was probaly toxic. now..you need to find out where that mail came from and make sure that EVERYONE (except your sister) gets your new mailing address and changes it permanently. don't trust your sister at all. it's ok to put it behind you...but you also don't have to let her back into your life. remember...living well is the best revenge.
2007-06-06 12:59:03 · answer #1 · answered by cfalways 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget about it.
She's a bully. She very well may have borderline personality disorder. Read about it and see.
In the meantime, dump her. What are you chasing her for? Tough that she's your sister, but it obviously means more to YOU than it does to HER.
She's a bully. Why would you associate with a bully, sister or no sister?
Keep the backbone and lose that mean sister. Believe me, you aren't going to be improving your family situation by allowing that person back in. Be grateful for the rest of your family and your fiance and just forget about her.
2007-06-06 19:52:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Listen carefully. For years you were the emotional doormat and she loved dumping. Suddenly, you stepped outside that Roll. She NEEDS you to stay in the roll of doormat in her mind. You have finally started to set boundaries and mature. Read the book BOUNDARIES; Your sister is emotionally disturbed and need a psychological evaluation to assess her immature and self destructive behaviors.
Let her go and mourn what you never had: A healthy relationship with her.
You can do nothing. Jerk is NOT what she is ....Mentally ill IS the description. Congrats on your future. It looks bright.
2007-06-06 20:11:52 · answer #3 · answered by Legandivori 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Forget her, she's acting like a kid
2007-06-06 19:57:04 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋