How to handle Neighbors Children?

Question

Wow, I have the worst kids in the world who live next to me. I rent at a townhouse complex and I have had the neighbors children cuss me out time and time again, these kids are only 7 and 10 years old and they are constantly causing problems. My children ages 9,7,5 are always being threatend by this boy and I heard him one day telling my 9 year old that he was going to cut her up with knives, I asked him very nicely not to speak that way to my kids and he told my to F*off its a free country. I no longer can let my kids play outside because of him. I am terrified to talk to this kids parents about it because another one of my neighbors confornted them about it and that night their car was vandalized! What do I do? Do I call the police?

I wish that the landlord would do somthing but her son is best friends with this kid and his family.

Answer 1

I would call the cops and tell them that the kids said that he would cut your children with a knife and your children are afraid to go outside because of them. and that they cuss you all the time. if you cannot speak to the parents, I would call the cops. they are learning from the parents remember children copy parents

Answer 2

yes call the police. tell them the situation, that you are scared of the parents, and that you think they may do something to your property or your family. the police should take care of it. and also tell the police the kid threatened to stab your child.

trust me little kids can kill. i lived in a townhouse with my mom and dad and you can see the park from the townhouse it was only a couple hundred yard away. anyways this 10 year old boy had a golf club and would swing sand into the other kids faces with the golf club...many times the parents of the victimized kids would tell the kid with the club to stop. they even talked to the parents, yet the kid continued to bring the golf club to the park. well one day he swung it to hard at a girl and hit her in the throat with it. she died right there in front of her parents on the playground. it was very sad. and the kid didn't get in trouble. the parents just made him live with some other family members in a different state.

but yea this really did happen. she lived two doors down from my family.

please be careful ok.

Answer 3

What a crappy situation you have here! If your homes are owned or leased by the same company or landlord I would first report it to them. Since they are giving these people the right to live there, they can take it away. Be sure to tell the landlord about your fears of repercussion. What those little kids are doing is still considered harassment (even though they are young) but the parents are ultimately responsible, If you don't receive any help or support from your landlord, I would suggest trying to talk to one of the parents and be sure to have a tape recorder handy to take note of the conversation. Same thing goes if you talk to one of the kids and they mouth off to you again. If you still get nowhere then I would involve the police, be sure to tell them about the nice little threat that was said to your daughter. Good luck!

Answer 4

I give my renters a contract..in part it says if they make a static in the neighborhood by threatening someone or hurting them..they get evicted.
The police are the ones you call to tell about the life threats.
And it doesn't take much to put a restraining order on the kids....I would..and if the woman doesn't watch her children don't stay away from your..turn her in and the kids will get taken away.
Also talk to the police about the vandalized car

Then your problems are over

Answer 5

Ok, I know you are going to think I am crazy for suggesting this...but, maybe you should give this kid some attention. You know, kill him with kindness type attitude. Maybe this kid has a messed up home-life, maybe the family who lived there before you was mean to him and now he is "taking the turf over" (for lack of a better term). Maybe he is jealous of your kids because you are a good mom to them and his mom isn't good in his eyes.

Some kids are just little twerps...while others act out because they just want to belong or they want attention. Remember, negative attention is still attention.

If nothing works, call the cops or contact the landlord/management of the property.

Answer 6

Could the car vandalism have been a coincidence? You can't jump to conclusions.

Do you have a Neighborhood Watch in your area? What is your parking situation...on street, parking lot?

I would start by talking to the parents, and use your best judgement. Note the date and time of your conversation with them. If they seem uncooperative, and/or another troublesome event occurs, then contact the police. At least you will have peace of mind because you made the attempt.

I don't know if you can depend on landlords to do much. My last one simply refused to deal with issues between tenants.

Answer 7

Bad neighbors suck! But this is a good lesson for your kids, unfortunately children A*# H*#!@ grow up to be adults. Having bad neighbors will teach your kids how to deal with bad people, you ignore them when you can and you confront them when you have too. Don't allow anyone to invade your or your children's tranquility. Tell your kids to ignore them and not play with them don't even respond to their ignorance and if things escalate confront the parents. A vandalized car is a small price to pay rather than live in anxiety for a year or however long your lease is!

Answer 8

I'd talk to them. If anything happens. Call the cops...

And when you talk to them make it crystal clear that the kid threatened you child and that if happens again that you'll go to the cops.

You may also want to call child protective services since it's obvious that the children are exposed to verbal abuse AT THE VERY LEAST since they are mimicking it. The certainly didn't learn that kind of behaviour on their own...some one is setting a poor example.

You may want to be proactive and wash your car and then set up a nanny cam in the carport first though...just to make sure you catch any foul play on tape, with fingerprints and all...They sell wireless nanny cams on ebay by the way...for about 20 bucks. You may also want to tape the interactions with the children as well.

It's alot harder to deny misbehavior and criminal acts if there's visual proof.

Good Luck!

Answer 9

I would have called the police when there was a threat. Kids these days are more violent. If you rent a townhouse, why dont you take it up with your landlord? tell them that they are threatening your kids..They might be able to let you move to a different house. Dont wait to act till something bad happens.

Answer 10

I would try to talk to the parents first... in a general non-threatening way. Like "hey, just so you know... your boy may have been joking about threatening my daughter... and this is what he said..."

You can't let on how upset you are and you can't make it seem like you're trying to "parent" their kid.

However, if that doesn't cool off the situation, than you HAVE to call the police the next time that boy threatens your daughter. You have too.