I found out about his kids....why is he still lying?

Question

this guy i was seeing for a while he never told me that he had kids and one day i saw his sisters page on myspace and there was a picture of two kids they look just like him and he still won't admit it.....when we first met he tried to tell me but my reaction messed it up for him to be open with me ....i realized that my reaction made him uncomfortable but it's fine i was'nt going to leave him alone because he has kids...for some reason now he won't tell me..the other day we were talking and he said he was mad at his sister for saying something about him on myspace and when he was talking about her page i just came out and said "that's nice how she has a picture of your kids on her page".....he got quiet and i was trying to pronounce the youngest one's name and i asked him how do i pronounce the baby's name and he was being sarcastic saying ...."whatever u want to name her"........why is he acting like this? i have

Answer 1

does he get to see his kids??or is there a huge baby mama dramma thign goin on??? or are you sure theyre his? they could be relatives some ffamilies have strong resemblences...

Answer 2

It's weird, I'll admit but maybe he thinks that you won't like him or want to be with him if he has kids, esp. if you're reaction was messed up when he first tried to tell you. If you're fine with it, tell him that you're okay with it, and that it's a great thing that he's a dad and there's no reason to hide the fact that he has great kids from you. Explain to him in that when he first tried to tell you that you felt uncomfortable, and didn't want to rush things especially with being dads new girlfriend and so forth.

Just let him know you're okay with it, and that you want to have an open honest relationship. He'll come around:)

Answer 3

He has 2 kids.Why isnt he married to the mother and being a father to them?This is the kind of guy YOU want to make babys with? So you can end up raising them alone? He wont admit to having kids maybe because he isnt in their lives? How do you know he will ever marry you when he isnt married to his childrens mother/(or mothers maybe?) Better do some digging girl.If he is a dead beat dad, then you need to give him the old dumparoo and find a real man who takes care of his children.It s one thing to be divorced or widowed, its another to have a trail of babys and not support them etc.Also if he owes child support and gets behind and you marry him and youre working they CAN take money out of YOUR check to pay the child support hon.

Answer 4

He obviously cannot pronounce the youngest one's name either -so this makes him uncomfortable. Its quite common - Homor Simpson cannot even remember his daughter's name.
Have you tried reading the bible? No ? How about The Lord of the Rings?
This is a nice guy - he even allows you to name his child ...."whatever u want to name her"........Class !
I also agree with the girl below who had forty six years of being a women ( Did not say how long as a man before the surgery though ) - she is right . Your boyfriend is obviously stupid

Answer 5

probably frightened in case you dump him if you know for sure, try sitting down with him and tell him you know your reaction at the beginning of the relationship was wrong and that you want to get to know him. then leave him be until he is ready to tell you.

Answer 6

guys have a way of not necessarily telling you ...THE WHOLE STORY...at one time


they throw salt (info) at you in the desert(situation) ....to get you thirsty(wanting to know more) and wanting water(the whole story) and until you grab the bait..they'll string you along...

it isn't that he lied....its that his whole story hasn't been revealed yet...if you call that lying..then that is up to you..

most guys would say...he is being evasive and tight lipped..omitting information till he feels comfortable releasing it..

what girl spills her guts before dating a guy?? not many either...both genders have their own ways of revealing info when they feel it is appropriate..

let him tell you when he feels it is right...you know..and that is fine that you do...but let him feel like he is the first person telling you for the first time -he'll appreciate it..

Answer 7

He thinks his kids is a turn off. I personally wouldn't want to be with a man that wont claim his own flesh and blood.

Answer 8

you don't seemto be done with your question but...

are you sure they are his kids and just don't have a family resembalance because they are, well, family?

or possibly he is the vicitm of a bad divorce, and although he has kids, he is not a part of his life and it is hard to talk about...

Answer 9

He sees them as a mistake, and doesn't want you to be scared off by it.

Answer 10

I agree with Jerry.