Is it wrong for my husband to not have my brothers as one of his groomsmen?

Question

my wedding is suppose to be in the winter of feburary or january, i have his two sisters as well as my 4 sisters in my wedding 2 of them is also my bridemaids as well as two other cousins,, and the other two sisters is the flower girl and junior bride,,, also my maid of honor is my cousin and,, is it wrong for my fiance to not want my 15 and 10 year old brother too not have them as one of his groomsmen,,, my 10 yr old brother is going to be the ring barreier,, since my fiance dont really have as much family as me,, nor a younger ring person,, so my brother was going to be the ring barreir, how can i convince to let them in the wedding ,, and is he supposed to have atleast themn as family too,, as his groomsmen

no i want them to be in the wedding but he dont have any friends or many family sao i'm trying to make the braidmaids and groomens even he dont want them up in there but i said i want them to since his sister or in my wedding,,,

thanks everyone for your critzims and advice,, we live basicaly our lives of what other people think,, we get through our problems with the help of u guys,,,i was just asking I feel it is only fair when i'm havng his sister inmy wedding that my two brothers be in the wedding besides he dont have friends ,, any at all and i'm tryin to make the wedding even i'm just asking that he put my two bothers in the wedding since he havent come up with any other people yet

Answer 1

There is NOTHING wrong with that, in fact it's a great idea and you should be proud that they get along so well.

Answer 2

Just tell him that you have included his family members in your wedding because you will all be family soon and you feel it is the right thing to do. Tell him that you really want your brother to be a groomsman so he can be a part of the wedding. I'm sure it would hurt the feelings of your 15 yo brother not to be in the wedding when your 10 yo brother is going to be. Traditionally the bride chooses her attendants and the groom chooses his, but nowadays couples are discussing it with each other since it is both you and your fiance's wedding. Also ignore those who feel they have to be negative and judge you for calling him your husband and because of your spelling. None of us are perfect and there is really no need to criticize others. Congrats on your marriage.

Answer 3

Just like you are picking your own bridesmaids, among those who you feel close too, so should your fiance pick his own groomsmen. And your family may not be represented among his groomsmen. My cousin (female) got married and her brother was an usher, not a groomsman. When I got married, I could have had alot of my husband's family amongh the wedding party, specifically as bridesmaids and flower girl, but in trying to stay within budget, we only had a MOH and BM, and my MOH was my best friend. And I didn't know my husband's nieces enough to feel comfortable asking them to be bridesmaids.

Answer 4

Customary the groom is suppose to have his best friend or someone from his family that he is really close to too be his best man. It sounds as though you are wanting it all family oriented if you think about it it's as much his wedding as yours and you would hate years down the road to hear the same story over and over my wife had to have it her way and I wasn't aloud to have any of my friends or family to be any part unless she approved of my decision now would you? A wedding is a very special occassion for the two of you. I hope I helped you only get married once and you want it to be beautiful and a day to always remember.

Answer 5

If you're having trouble agreeing on arrangements for the wedding, I say your marriage is doomed! Usually during the dating, getting married, and honeymoon stages of your marriage things go so smoothly and you argue over giving the other person what they want rather than you getting what you want. It's after that things start to get disagreeable. I say you should stop worrying about the WEDDING and focus more on the MARRIAGE! I'm sure you've heard that before, but it's the truth! Good luck and congradulations on your wedding! :-)

Answer 6

He's not really obligated to because the grooms men are usually his family and best friends. Try bringing the conversation up again and see what happens. If you hear some give in his voice that leads you to think there's a chance then stand your ground and say it's your special day and that it would mean alot to you, and no other reason.

Answer 7

Personally, I think its kinda wrong. If he had sisters you would put them in with your bridesmaids. They are your blood and he is going to be your husband. He needs to learn to make things even and equal. When I got married, both of my brothers were in the wedding. My younger brother is only 7 so I made him one of my ring bearers. If your fiancee wont budge on the idea. Try putting your brothers somewheres else.

Answer 8

Listen, just as he can't pick your bridesmaids, you really can't force him to include your brothers as groomsmen. It's a nice gesture if he does, but if he has friends of his own or other family members in mind, don't force the issue. Find another way for them to be included - such as doing a reading or something during the ceremony.

Answer 9

I would just tell him that it is your special day and you want all of your family to be a part of it. That you don't want exclude anyone or make them feel like an outsider. If he really loves you he will let you do whatever it is that you want to do to make the day a special one and make you happy. Just talk to him I am sure he will listen once he has all the facts and know why you feel so strongly about it.

Answer 10

it is not wrong. it is his choice who the groomsmen will be and you should not obligate him to pick members of your family just because you picked members of his. actually it sounds like the wedding party is really big as it is. do you really need to add more people? the more people you add the less special it might be for those who you've asked to be a part of the wedding party. just my 2 cents.

Answer 11

Can you please not control every aspect of the wedding? He's getting married too you know, and if wants friends or otherwise to be a part of his side of the celebration - then you need to just back off and let that happen. His groomsmen are HIS choice...not yours.