is it wrong to be the other women?

Question

If he was mine first...im not from where he is and im visiting for a month, we used to date and he told my friend is he questioning whether to be with me since im gonna leave anyway

If he was mine first...im not from where he is and im visiting for a month, we used to date and he told my friend is he questioning whether to be with me since im gonna leave anyway..and he isnt married theyve been dating for several months

Answer 1

why would anyone want to be "the other woman" ? I want to be the "only" woman in my hubbys life + I am. The other woman gets 2nd best, leftover time that he can spare her. The only benefit she would get is maybe financial support + sex. Is that a good relationship ? Heck you can get sex from any guy.
There is so much more to life than having 2nd best. She deserves alot more in her life than that : )
I think the woman should get some self esteem help, a low self esteem can really make your life abnormal. Feeling good about herself, she would realize she wouldn't want 2nd best, because she would Know she deserves the very Best !
another thing to consider : is she the only "other woman" ? would she be able to tell ? Well he does have another woman - his wife. So technically he's cheating on the g/f with his wife lol.
I hope this is only a question + not a relationship you are in. Please get out of it. You deserve better.
I put a link for you to read if you want to. Please do if you are thinking or in a relationship like this

Answer 2

How do you think his wife would feel knowing her husband is sneaking around her back seeing you. You know about her so you know where he is when he is not with you. She doesn't know and she thinks he is where ever he told her he was at. If he is telling you he is not having sex with her, he is lying. If he is lying to her, which you already know he is, than there is a very good chance he is lying to you as well. Infidelity ruins peoples lives. If his marriage is in trouble than it should end because of that and not because of you. The husband needs to decide what it is he wants. He needs to resolve his first relationship before he can start another. If he did eventually leave his wife for you, would you honestly be able to trust him when he is not with you? You deserve someone who is going to give you their full attention and not someone who is just using you. He is using you as a scape goat from what ever is going on in his marriage. It is not fair to his wife or to you and if he really loved either one of you, he wouldn't be putting you both through this and if there are children involved? Just think how this would affect their lives.

Answer 3

the only way it isnt wrong is when his chick at home doesnt realize what a catch she has, and doesnt take care of her man, like cook, clean, show him love and affection, ect. Then NO it sure isnt. Its her fault he is out looking for those things. Same with any woman. If she tired of having a man that dont spend time, talk to her, go out, show love and affection, she prolly gon start looking somewhere else for those things in someone else. Its good....do you boo. Hell Id do it. Its her fault.

Answer 4

yes it's very wrong to be the other women and if he's married it's worse to be a home wrecker. and why would you went to ruin a marriage like that anyways? you don't went to degrade yourself like that. you deserve better then that. but you got to also figure if he's cheating on her what makes you believe that he's not cheating on you too? the trust is lost all together. and once a cheater always a cheater. sorry but I would chuck this up as karma what goes around comes around.

Answer 5

Is it wrong, yes. Does it make you a bad person, no. We can't really help who we fall in love with. If you have will power, or high morals, you'd walk away. You wouldn't be the first, and you won't be the last... but most of the time these relationships will just end in heartache.

Answer 6

i'm not gonna judge you but think about what he doing to the both of you he hurt her instead of being honest telling her he want you
then the fact that he's not letting her go for you is showing that she the main dish you just the dessert be real with yourself do you deserve to be hide from evryone else he will never change for you or her because you make it to easy for him and he is getting away with it you need to try and get her # call her tell her ya'll need to talk in person about a serious matter let her know that she may not want to hear it but her man has been having a relationship with both of you and that you wanted to come to her like a women about it.
you just need to figure you worth are you worth that much to yourself wish you the best of luck in life and happiness

Answer 7

Well, I do think it selling yourself short.

BUT, I don't think it's wrong... it's the GUYS choice who he wants to be with...it's the guys responsibility to decide what is right or wrong about the situation, since it is HIS wife or girlfriend he is cheating on.
You should give him an ultimatum though...you or her...because it's not fair if he has his cake and eats it too.

Answer 8

This would require a serious exfoliation of your sense of ethics but let's start with a few simple questions you can ask yourself:

Are you happy?
Is he happy?
Will things actually change so that you can sustain or secure happiness?
Do you care about your happiness more than theirs? (don't just say yes, altruism is just as selfish as anything.)

Finally, whose feelings are you responsable for? Ideally, just your own. If you worry about others (and I'm not saying not to) it gets complicated.

Answer 9

Yes, and your a fool if you are.

If he is cheating on her he will cheat on you. What a wonderful catch he will be. You are being used for sex and if someone else comes along he will use her too at the same time. Its how he gratifies his ego.

Glad you asked

Answer 10

Need more details..If ur single, it's perfectly fine to date woman..but if u already got a girl but having another affair with another woman behind ur girl's back HELL YEAH IT'S WRONG!!!