what do you do when a man if your life try to run your household and change how you have raised your children?

Question

but his children are all in and out of jail or if not careful headed to jail for crazy stuff like stealing etc,,,,,,he get mad when i tell him to back off these are not your children and they have a father to go to if need be

Answer 1

I think the both of you need to sit down and discuss what each of you feel is appropriate discipline for the children. If you are in a serious relationship with this man, meaning you live together, and if you ask him to watch your children then he should have some say. As long as he is being within reason don't go against it just because his children turn out wrong and don't take it like he's saying he knows best. If you feel he is truly pushing his boundaries then try to see where his intentions are at. Maybe he sees that your kids are good and wants them to stay that way. Maybe he sees now what he did for mistakes as a parent. The more people your children have to watch out and care for them the better chance they have in life.

Answer 2

You don't say if this man lives with you, so let's assume he's moved in...he wants to be king, typical male issue wanting to rule the roost, but if you've had no problems with your children thus far, he really doesn't need to step in. BUT, you don't want your children to disrespect this man because as of now this is his home too. So lay down ground rules, like he can tell them when to go to bed, come to eat, pick up toys, etc. but when it comes to punishment, he must come to you first and together you will decide what's suitable punishment...he can tell them what it is but he must consult with you. Believe me, if the kids father lives in the area, he will not appreciate another man telling his children what to do, but then you can tell him that he's not, that you are disciplining them together. But under no circumstances, and I do mean no circumstances, let him use corporal punishment (spank, whoop, slap, grab, shake, etc.) to discipline...you'll be opening a whole new can of worms.
You have to let the children know that you two stand together, or else they'll be running to the respective parent (or the parent who's outside the home) spreading tails to split you up.
If he doesn't like the new "rules", maybe he should get a place of his own until your children are grown and out of the house.

P.S. Disciplining his kids, when they are visiting, should be the same rules applied to you.

Answer 3

Firstly, WHY YOU STILL WITH HIM???
They are your kids and as their father is present, your new b/friend should only be supporting you in the way you choose to raise your children To try and come between two parents raising their kids,whether they are separated or not, is not his call.
Seems he is very controlling, and do you want your kids being raised in that kind of environment. I won't comment on his children as there is no info if he was part of their upbringing or if he was at times in jail.

Answer 4

Put him out that door for good.

Answer 5

SOUNDS LIKE HE MIGHT KNOW FROM EXPERIENCE? IF YOUR KIDS ARE OUT OF CONTROL, MAYBE YOU NEED THE EXTRA HELP?