We are getting married this year and need to find a way to ask guests to make a contribution to our honeymoon rather than buy gifts. I know that asking for money can be negative but in some cases easier for people as they sometimes dont know what to buy and a travel voucher would solve that issue. Need to know how to word it on the invites..any ideas!!
2007-06-06 10:12:23 · 12 answers · asked by Rachel P 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Where are you getting these travel vouchers from? Many places do offer a honeymoon registry.
You could set up a registry there and then whoever throws you a shower can put it in those invites.
She is registered at
Bed Bath and Beyond
Honeymoon Vouchers
Bed Bath and Beyond is a great choice b/c you can return anything for cash. They don't give you store credit but actually cash.
Also the bridal party can tell people and members of you immediate family can tell anyone who who asks.
But in general what the others said was correct. You can't put this on the invites at all!!
2007-06-06 10:30:11 · answer #1 · answered by phantom_of_valkyrie 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
These forums see this questions at least 1-10 times a day.
Check ettiquettehell.com
It's pretty cut and dry. You never are to put anything in a wedding invitation about registries, gifts, money, etc. People are not paying to come to your wedding. They offer a gift of their choice as a token of their joy for you.
Technically, they don't have to get you anything.
Like the other poster said, make an online honeymoon registry and just let mom, your future mother-in-law, and anyone throwing you a shower know your registry info and they can spread it by word of mouth or put it into the shower invite.
BTW - The reason registry info can be placed in a shower invite is two part:
1) It is not thrown by the couple that will be receiving gifts.
2) The purpose of a shower is to furnish the new home of the bride and groom.
Have fun at your wedding. I wish you all the best, and I hope this helped.
2007-06-06 10:44:11 · answer #2 · answered by Laura 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not just hand your guests an invoice.... they would be delighted to hear how crass, rude and greedy you are!
Do NOT put anything on paper regarding paying for a honeymoon, requesting cash, or travel vouchers (??) ....please., that's totally tasteless, not to count in poor etiquette.
You will be offending people by doing so. I personally would never go to a wedding when an invitation specifically informs me that money is the only gift that they will accept.
Register for a honeymoon on a travel agency and inform your guests ONLY IF THEY ASK you. Most people will ask you if you have a registry, and then you can reply the travel agency registry. Your bridal party can spread the information BY WORD OF MOUTH only, but never on paper.... you are not selling tickets for heaven's sake. You could post your travel agency registry on your wedding website, this is acceptable since it gathers relevant information about the wedding to your guests.
There is no "nice way" to beg for money. Those are the things people will remember about your wedding.
Good luck
2007-06-06 10:19:20 · answer #3 · answered by Blunt 7 · 4⤊ 1⤋
I'm sorry, but it's very bad etiquette to ask for money contributions, especially by putting it on your invites!!! It's insulting to the guests. Just register like one would normally do. If you and your fiance are really that strapped for cash, the only way to do it is to mention to your parents and then they can choose to tell guests and those close to them that, while you are registered for gifts somewhere, what the two of you really need is help on your honeymoon. This is the only acceptable case. Whatever you do, don't put it on the invitations.
2007-06-06 10:42:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You do NOT put anything regarding gifts on your wedding invite. This is something that should be placed on a "registry card" that is sent with shower invites. Typically if your registry is not available at stores where your guests would shop, then they will give you money. If you are determined to ask the something like...
"in lieu of gifts please help send John and Jane on the honeymoon to end all honeymoons"
2007-06-06 12:40:51 · answer #5 · answered by longhornfan1722 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you dont...plain and simple...thats just wrong. you dont ask for anything. you are inviting them to your wedding...you dont ask them to give you something. gifts are optional for the guests to bring. they have absolutely no obligation to give anything. most do, but its up to them, not to you. personally I would NEVER contribute to someones honeymoon. you take one if you can afford to...if not then tough luck. I never had one as we couldnt afford it. and I still cant afford to take a vacation so anyone would be damned to think I would be paying part of theirs. I chose to buy a gift...that way I know the money I spend is going towards something the couple needs not wants. the point of the gift is to help get the couple started...not to get them a hotel in the tropics to fool around for a week.
2007-06-06 11:03:59 · answer #6 · answered by Jenn ♥Cadence Jade's mum♥ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, you do NOT do this, and you certainly don't invlude any information on the invitations about gifts, nor on any enclosures. If people don't know what to buy, they may ask your family.
If you cannot afford a honeymoon, that's too bad, but you could delay it. But you should not expect your guests to pay for it for you. You are to be HOSTING them at your wedding to celebrate with you, not pay your way.
2007-06-07 00:32:07 · answer #7 · answered by Lydia 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I understand where you are coming from, we are also wanting money for our honeymoon. We registered with thebigday.com and created a wedding website through mywedding.com. We directed people to our website on the invite inserts, and are having family spread the registries by word of mouth.
2007-06-06 11:55:13 · answer #8 · answered by irlndsumer 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-26 20:24:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
any mention of money or donations is very tacky!!!
if you cant afford a big honeymoon, then either dont go one one or just stay over night at a nice hotel or bed and breakfast.
there is just not a polite way to word on an invitation that you expect your guests to pay for your vacation!!!
2007-06-06 10:22:49 · answer #10 · answered by Awesome Rockin Mom 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋