If you spoil your child when they are born ( Its prob hard not to) ie: when they cry you immediately pick them up
Do they turn out to be spoiled brats when they get older????
Just wondering...
2007-06-06 10:10:59 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
No you cannot spoil a baby. It is an old myth and old advice to not pick them up when they cry.
Responding to a babies cries is the crucial point of a secure attachment between you and baby. They form a sense of trust and comfort that you will always be there.
Most experts say that if you have a high level of response to your baby, the more secure and confident they will be as they grow up, they cry less and have better sleep habits.
Spoiling the wrong way comes later on in a child's life. That means overindulging, letting them do what they want, whenever they want, not teaching them consequences, offering no discipline at all, rewarding or bribing them with candy to behave and neglecting their needs.
So pick up that baby, don't let them cry and ignore old fashioned myths.
2007-06-06 10:30:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Well, that depends on where you draw the line.....a newborn is differant than a 1-2 year old....a newborn should have you every attention...feed when hungry, pick up when they cry, all the time...its those parents who refuse to give that up once the child gets older that they have problem with "spoiled Brats".....once a child hits about 6 mon or so, you have to start letting them do things on their own. THey need to know that mom/dad is there, but isnot going to pick them up every time they make a noise.
2007-06-06 17:17:53 · answer #2 · answered by yetti 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You cant spoil a newborn. Newborns have basic needs that must be met. If they cry, they are crying for a reason, whether they are hungry, dirty diaper, need cuddling etc. As the child gets older than they can be spoiled. It doesnt mean they will turn into spoiled brats though.
2007-06-06 17:22:31 · answer #3 · answered by Kristin Pregnant with #4 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Actually it is proven that if you go to your baby whenever they cry for atleast the first 6 months of life they grow up to be most secure in themselves and capable as adults. . . Doctors gave me all this stuff to read why I was in labor for 40 hours, lol, I think I know more than they do in certain areas now. When your child is younger then 6 months there is no such thing as spoiling.
I wonder what our great great grand parents did. . . geez, they didn't even have walkers or anything, they had to hold their babies or drag the basinette around with them everywhere.
Sorry I'm an a semi-ranting mood. But holding your baby is what you're supposed to do! It is healthy and helps the bond, also keeps them from growing up to be nervous people.
2007-06-06 17:17:51 · answer #4 · answered by mrs_ricketts 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Depends on what you consider "spoiling" a child. You cannot hold or love a child too much a far as I am concerned. Children need that body contact and being comforted.
What "spoils" a child is indulging them with every little thing that they ask for as they grow up; not imposing rules and regulations in their life; not expecting them to show consideration or respect to others and not disciplining them when they are older.
soooooo, at this point, follow your heart and what YOU feel is the right thing for you and your child.
2007-06-06 17:21:42 · answer #5 · answered by dddanse 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
first of its not spoiling when you pick your infant up when they cry..it actually gives them a sense of security and thats how they know that their needs will be met. plus letting them cry actually is painful for them..it hurts their lungs and can cause brain damage in some cases..
it actually depends on you though. i have 2 sets of nieces and nephews...the first set was spoiled and when they did something wrong..they were never corrected so now their mom cant tell them anything....
the second set..they were spoiled as well, but since they were disciplined..they know when its ok to get what they want..and when its not ok...
2007-06-06 18:23:52 · answer #6 · answered by ana g 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think John Rosemon said "you spend the first 18 months treating them as a king, and the next 16 and a half years dethroning them" lol.
I don't think it's bad to spoil your babies with love and attention.
2007-06-07 06:11:40 · answer #7 · answered by olschoolmom 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
its not spoiling your child when they are born.. its the baby knowing that he or she will be comforted when they are crying and feeling safe. I did that with my daughter and she is 3 yrs old now. and she is perfectly fine. Its all about them knowing your limits and how well you disipline them. not spanking them but standing your ground when you say no!! No is no!!
2007-06-06 17:28:07 · answer #8 · answered by hawaiian808 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can't spoil them when they are newborns. When they are a little older, you don't need to respond to them the instant they cry.
2007-06-06 17:16:53 · answer #9 · answered by sharkyincanada 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think so at all. Infants need to know that they are safe and loved. For the first 6 months or so you need to teach them that you're always there and love them unconditionally... once they're a bit older you can then teach them self-sufficiency. But until then, the only thing they need to know is that you're there for them.
2007-06-06 17:16:16 · answer #10 · answered by fuffernut 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋