Is she using me ???

Question

I got back with my gf after very hard work. i made her feel special buying her gifts perfums etc and flowers nearly every week. She got back with me last week and she told me she loved for the first time and i love her to bits cos i didnt wanan lose her. my gf went on holiday on sunday, so i met her on saturday and i bought her a 200£ chanel purse as a holiday present. She was ok with me and stuff and in the cinema she said to me " i should buy her some big earings" i got stunned and i said give me the purse back and ill buy you some earings insdead and she said to me "why cant she have both". Is she using me ?? i havent even slept with her, cos before me she was with a guy for 4 years therefore i didnt wanna pressure her. each time i make advances she rejects even kisses. am lucky even if i get a kiss. i rung her 2day and b4 i put the fone down i asked for a kiss, she repleid saying "she cant cos she getting ready" i got pisssed off. was i wrong and is she using me ????? please help

Answer 1

ohhh tell me more...i thought i was good at using...but sounds like she's got a few good pointers...might i have her email address

Answer 2

I would not say she is using you, but I think you are using her.
I am sure you are feeling very much comfortable with the situation you are in now. Let us put this way, you both are using each other. You have a psychological and self esteem problem. You are afraid that you will not be able to find someone else new. So in a way you getting satisfaction out of this abusive relationship.
There is no need to cure this mental sickness. More you try harder to get out of this painful relationship, more you get deeper into it. So just let the situation get worse first. Things have to get worst before they get better. You already have started the process by asking other"If she is using me"? So you already have detected the problem, otherwise you would not be asking this question to others. Once a person dtects the root of the problem, it gets easy to solve it. You do not need to do anything. This situation will not last too long and soon you will get out of this mud without struggling hard. Just enjoy watching her playing tricks with you because these are the final days of her abuse. Next time, please do not love any one who does not return her love. Congrulations for detecting the cause of your unhappiness and good luck.
By the way, I am in the same situation but I am just taking it easy because I know in just a few more days or weeks, I will be out of my abusive relationship.

Answer 3

No one should ever, ever ask for a gift....did I mention, EVER? Some people are never satisfied with what their partner is doing for them. Did she even thank you for the purse? WOW...how ungrateful is that?! Listen, if someone is sincerely interested in you....a kiss is going to come quick and naturally. If she is holding out on one of the most sensual ways to show someone you are interested...she is definitely using you. Don't you believe that you deserve better than this? Bottom line....if you have to ask if you are being used....you probably are. Good luck and God bless!!

Answer 4

What! She couldn't even give you a kiss over the phone??? --no physical contact what so ever. I do think your being used. Has she bought you any gifts? Does she cook for you? Did she do anything for your birthday??? A relationship needs to go both ways... (Sex is not necessary, but just the natural exchanges of being a couple would be.)

Just guessing , but she got back with you because her new bou had no cash!

Answer 5

Damn, after you writing all that she is definitly using you. She loves getting all the nice expensive things and she doesn't have to do anything to get it and thats what shes loves. She won't even give you a kiss! Shes not in it for a relationship, she's in it to get spoiled. I love my boyfriend to death and if he were to get me a chanel purse I wouldn't DARE ask for some earrings or anything. But anyways, she is using you. She got back with you AFTER you spend tons a money..she told you she loved you AFTER you spent money. And she won't even kiss you or spend time with you unless you spending money. Screw her. She a gold diggin beeotch.

Answer 6

Get out, Romeo. We men are a stupid breed--we can't see the forest for the trees. Perhaps it is evolutionary (as many may argue), but it is true that most men enjoy the chase, and for what? Relationship games are for the birds, and your taking the bait--playing along if you will--and every time she gets something from you, she's saying to herself, "checkmate." Move along, for surely a WOMAN will come along that will care for you for the man that you are, and you won't have to buy her a thing...

Answer 7

I would not waste my time on any girl that has emotional problems. There are too many other women out there in the world. It sounds like she is using you, so I would break up with her and get a new gf.

Answer 8

Uh, yeah. I hate to break it to you but your are totally being used. And the worst part of it, you are letting it happen. Why do you need to buy her all these gifts? That's what she likes, not you. I absolutely HATE when men empower women like this because of whatever, nice legs, she's hot, whatever. They will have no substance - ever.

Answer 9

wowz.. that girl is being a ****! are u kiddign me! you gave her all this stuff! and waht did she give you? welll just to tell you the truth ::::::::::::::::::;;;;; i just think that she's just taking thingz a lil bit slow.. and why did you say give me the purse and ill buy you earing? what type of boy says that.. i would have slapped you are u kiddin' me.! and she'z just not using you she'sz just getting you back for what you did.! omg.. im a girl and i thhnk il know..

Answer 10

You are truly fascinated with her, and I know that you know the answer to your own question. You just want your fear confirmed by others. The answer is clear, she is using you big big time. Find yourself a girl worthy of your attention.

Answer 11

She is deffinately using you. Man dump that girl and find a woman. Dont let woman let all over you. I mean give us little gifts and all, but dont go overboard. Besides...she's probably cheating on you.

Good Luck!