4yr relationship. A couple of weeks ago I was at his sisters bachellorette party and he never came home, when he came home he lied about where he had been. Finally he told me he ended up with another girl, claimed nothing happened he had never done anything like that before. I started packing my things because I wasn't going to wait around for him to doit again. He begged me not to leave, he said he was so sorry and that he wanted to be with me and not her. He claimed that he was drunk and scared because I am going to be moving to a different state soon. Then I went on a small weekend vacation with a few of my girlfriends and I never heard from him again and he would not answer my phone calls. When I got back to town I found out he had stayed with her the whole time. Its only been 2 weeks and he is now living with her and took her to his sisters wedding. I still haven't been able to get a hold of him and I just don't understand why he would beg me to stay and then leave?
2007-06-06 09:54:15 · 13 answers · asked by leala315 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think that there are several things to take into account here, to understand his behaviour. And I think that your little summary of recent events is very revealing: I don't know how old you are, but I am guessing that you met him when you were both quite young. Now, he said he was scared because you are moving to a different state. So you have plans that do not include him, because you plan to live far away from him. No matter how little or how much you have talked about it together when you made that decision, he obviously resents this: your move means that he is not your main priority. I am not saying this is wrong of you though.
If you have been together for four years, and have lived together for a few years, then you are used to each other, so much so that if you are like me, and like most women, you do much more around the house than he does, and he is going to be by himself feeling pretty hopeless when you leave. Obviously, that's scary -- I mean, come on, who's going to cook him his dinner? And who's going to think of doing the washing? He could be in a phase of self-denial, where he is thinking that it is not you he loved, but having you around. I.e. replacing you with another woman will do the trick. So when he sees that there is a woman out there he can replace you with, he doesn't hesitate. Now, either he's really proud and won't even try to get back in touch with you when he realises how stupid he's been, or he'll try and call you to say how sorry he is.. I don't know the guy so it's pretty hard to tell..
If he begged you to stay, it could be because he genuinely cannot live without you. If he then asked you to leave, it's because he realised he could have someone else around -- and he could also be taking his revenge...
You are obviously very independent: you are moving states, and you found the energy to go away with your friends. You showed you didn't need him around all the time. Now maybe he's taking his revenge. But if he cannot forgive you for being independent, and if he cannot love you the way you are, then you are better off without him.
Good luck! Eat lots of ice cream watching silly movies and reading great books!
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2016-11-26 20:20:32 · answer #2 · answered by galle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably wasn't sure that the other gilr would stay with him, so he wanted you as a back-up. When you left, he saw the perfect oppurtunity and apparently she decided to get with him. Then, when he found this out, he decided that he didn't need you anymore. That is just so wrong, so it is a good thing that you aren't together anymore. he just isn't worth your time...
2007-06-06 09:59:05 · answer #3 · answered by Dana Mulder 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He wanted to make sure that either way he would end up with a girl. So he clung onto you incase the other girl wouldnt have him. Been there and its happened to me. Just move on. His loss.
2007-06-07 00:57:39 · answer #4 · answered by Poise ! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After all he's said and done, do you really need to understand it in order to move on? Let's face the facts ... he left you for another girl. Forget this guy and move on.
2007-06-06 09:58:21 · answer #5 · answered by Desiree 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's called mind games he thinks he has won, Now move on you can do without this sort of humanoid dog dung
2007-06-06 10:22:24 · answer #6 · answered by Scouse 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He wanted to be the one to control the 'end' of the relationship. He knew/thought you were going to end it so he wanted to save face and do it first.. No one wants to be dumped. Better to be the dumper then the dumpee.
2007-06-06 10:00:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because he wanted to do the leaving. He didn't want you to break up with him. Big important man thing.
2007-06-06 09:58:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because he's a bone fide *ss hole...... Im sorry hun but you have lost out here. Try to forget about him, I know that sounds trite but it's all you can do.
2007-06-06 11:39:37 · answer #9 · answered by T M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's found out he's actually okay without you in his life? don't know hun, maybe he was just begging you to stay out of fear for his own future.
I know this sounds horrid & I know it must be painful for you right now......but better you found out now rather than later....
2007-06-06 10:01:13 · answer #10 · answered by Funky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋