I am SO confused. Okay, sorry to bore you people, but there this guy, and I kind of like him, but I'm not so sure. He's going on and off, as in flirting. Like a few times he'd ask me to movies and pay for everything, carry my books, talk to me whenever, and always gives me a view in his perspective when I need it. But then he'll tense up and doesn't talk to me for a few days, doesn't IM me, and if he does doesn't bother to say anything or say bye when he logs off. I don't think he's backing away at all...because it's just like a pattern...and it's really confusingggg!
I don't want to let him be a major crush because I'm not sure if I'll be disappointed or whatever. I'm usually good at answering this probs, but i can't myself! I have no idea what to do, because we are friends, and I don't want to ruin that either. Please help! All answers are appreciated ♥
2007-06-06 09:28:29 · 29 answers · asked by city of love*♥; 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
We're only friends, yes.
2007-06-06 09:38:47 · update #1
You either need to wait it out while he sorts out his own intentions/life/feelings, or you need to talk to him.
If you do talk to him (since you're already friends) just talk about your relationship in general, not as a dating relationship. Ask him why you'll see a whole bunch of him for a little while and then you hardly speak for a few days or so after that. You don't have to get all serious, just ask him casually and see what he says.
2007-06-06 09:33:48 · answer #1 · answered by Aymeigh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay friend's for a while but don't take it to serious cause it sounds like your more of
just an agenda amidst his busy life and distractions than a top priority. You say you kinda like him, that's like saying and no offence meant, your kinda of pregnant. you either like him or you don't, and about the signing off with out saying good bye, that can be nerve racking not to mention down right rude and inconsiderate also he may have some one else you don't know about and when they come on bang you go off. yeh just take your time on this better to have a good friend even if he is off the wall a bit than a ruined relationship with a broken heart to boot. good luck take care . . .
2007-06-06 16:42:05 · answer #2 · answered by myheartsvoice 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he does like you too, but he's afraid of commitment or he doesn't know if he's ready for a relationship right now. Why don't you just ask him what's up, is he interested or not. Tell him your getting mixed signals. I mean you don't want to waste your time or get your hopes up and then have your heart broken. I used to like this guy that would do that to me, it was so frusterating, I kinda waited around for him for two years and then I met someone else (who is now my husband), I was like so sick of trying to figure him out. Wouldn't you know that right after I met my husband the first guy called to tell me he was ready for a relationship. I just told him sorry, you took too long. I wish I had said something though. long before hand, because i feel like I wasted so much time waiting.
2007-06-06 16:37:05 · answer #3 · answered by bad_kitty83 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he is going through some rough things right now and he doesn't want u around. i think as a friend and a lover the best thing to do is to give him some spaces , just say hi to him when he says hello. talk to him if he talks to u then just go with the flow. then when is done being like that i believe he will come around. good luck
2007-06-06 16:37:20 · answer #4 · answered by ivelisse 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Basically, I see this as someone that may just like your friendship as it is. It seems to be a matter of convenience for him. He seems to only want to be with you when he wants to. My thing is simply ask him if he has any intentions about your relationship. I know that it maybe easier said then done. So I suggest maybe getting a mutual friend to ask him if he digs you or not.
2007-06-06 16:35:01 · answer #5 · answered by Ghetospydr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay just friends. He has problems and may need counseling. Even if you help him and get him back on the straight and narrow he'll probably prefer to be with another gf since you know he has baggage.
2007-06-06 16:51:18 · answer #6 · answered by green3ch 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is setting the pattern of how he operates. He probably does the same thing with rest of his life. If that doesn't bother you you then go for it. But if it does I'd keep going and keep him as a friend.
2007-06-06 16:46:36 · answer #7 · answered by theladygeorge 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok i think it could be one of two things.... one he is scared of the next step and when he feels like thats whats going to happen he backs off alittle until he can finaly take it or he's just one of them guys that likes talking to you and spending some time wiith you.... but when it comes to more thats all it is... there is no more thats why he backs off for a few days... now that hard part is something only you can figuer out and that is witch one could it be....use your female intuition it works just listion to it.... hope i helped and i wish you the best....
2007-06-06 16:40:54 · answer #8 · answered by angel_eliann 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to say this but I think he's cheating on you with somebody else!! He might be switching up back and fourth from girl to girl!!!!! Just come out and ask him what's up and why is he doing this? He might be doing this because he thinks that your so in love with him and that if he stopd you'll be chasing after him or something!!!!!!!! That's just what I think about this!!!
2007-06-06 16:33:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is your friend than it shouldn't be a problem confronting him and asking what his problem is. If you ask him and he pulls away than maybe you weren't as good of friends as you thought. Someone has to step up, it might as well be you since you are the one who is confused. He'll never do that.
2007-06-06 16:33:29 · answer #10 · answered by !~!~Edward~!~! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋