Does age really matter when it comes to marriage? In the bible it seems that young woman were married to older men. Look at the book of Ruth. Do you think that age really matters to God? Would God set you up to marry a person alot older then you? What do you think of a attractive 28 yr old marrying a hansome and physically fit 49 yr old?
2007-06-06 08:53:49 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
The reason why I am asking other Christians is because I would like to hear wise council from true Christians not secular advice.
By the way...the end of times seems like it is getting closer and closer....having said that...is age in marriage really a big deal?
2007-06-06 11:06:16 · update #1
I'm not Christian, but I think that if 2 people love each other, they should get married. WHO CARES ABOUT AGE ASLONG AS UR HAPPY???
2007-06-06 13:45:13 · answer #1 · answered by sjROX 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would recommend that you spend much time in prayer over this because it is a permanent decision. God hates divorce.
There are factors that must be taken into consideration. A physically fit 49 year old will be radically different by the time
they reach their mid 60's to mid 70's. Natural aging process
is stronger than fitness in the latter stages of life. When the partner is 70 years old, the other partner will only be 49 and in the prime of life. There will be demands the younger person will want met that will not be possible for the older one to fulfill - especially as each year passes.
If you have children, the 49 year old will be 67 or 68 when the first child graduates high school and that is if the child comes within the first year of marriage. It is harder for older males to deal with raising children - I have seven and know what I am saying. There is not a strong connection when you are not able to run and play with the children as you would like. If you have children two to five years into your marriage it will be even more difficult for the man.
A man of 49 probably has strongly established habits in the area of handling finances and other points that strongly affect how marriages work. At 28, the woman may also have these things set in place, and if they conflict there can be trouble brewing in the home.
Location is another thing. Can you both agree on where to live. What kind of house you want. Furniture. You might think
this is silly, but couples have had some serious arguments over such things. The older we get the more set we get in our
ways. Changing, even for someone we love, can be rough.
Job and ministry or whatever you are pursuing must be what both of you agree on as well. If He has a strong call to ministry and you don't there could be some conflict there.
I am sure I missed something, but I hope these things help.
2007-06-06 16:11:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't think Ruth's husband was so much older than she was. But anyway -- some issues to consider when marrying a man 21 years older than you are. Does he have children? What are their ages? Will they add stress to your marriage?
Is he financially secure? He'll probably be retiring within twenty years, and you don't want to have to work your brains out to support both of you.
Third, it DOESN'T MATTER what he looks like. In ten years he'll look a lot older than you do.
Fourth, why do you address this to Christians specifically? Is there some spiritual implication I'm not getting?
ADD: You could be right, this could be the end times. But it may not be, and if it is, how about the Tribulation starting while you're pregnant and your husband is well past his prime and not able to protect you as he'd wish. (I guess if you believe in a pre-Trib rapture you're not worried about that, but I don't think God wants us to use the Rapture as an excuse to not take responsibility).
And God expects you to use good judgment so you can honor Him to the best of your ability.
2007-06-06 16:00:37 · answer #3 · answered by rcpeabody1 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
For a True Christian the first concideration would be... is the other also a True Christian... A Christian is not to be unqualy yoked... The age issue is up to the individuals involved... but... biology playes a role here... a lot of concideration should be given and that takes more room to address than should be use on YA.
2007-06-06 16:01:20 · answer #4 · answered by idahomike2 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Does it matter now? no.
But will you be by his side when he is not a physically fit 69 year old and you are a 48 year old hottie with children.
When you bury him at 74 and you are 53, what will you do then?
(If Jesus tarries and does not return soon)
2007-06-06 16:00:05 · answer #5 · answered by Christmas Light Guy 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
In the bible ( I remember where, forgive) and states that God fullfills the desires of our hearts because those desires come from him. I honestly do not think God worries about that. He just wants you to follow His will whatever that is.
2007-06-06 15:58:40 · answer #6 · answered by Jessica C 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Age does not matter when it comes to marriage according to the Bible.
2007-06-06 16:10:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well I think its best to be married when you can responsibly make the decison that you spend the rest of your life with someone... Since your 28 you obviously are mature enough so I think thats fine...
2007-06-06 16:00:30 · answer #8 · answered by baby.brown_eyes 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think compatibility is huge, but as long as your ok with the fact that when you're 40 he's gonna be 61 I'd say it's fine.
2007-06-06 16:16:16 · answer #9 · answered by knockout85 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if you are both adults its okay... it may be hard for most people to date someone older. not much in common, they might have a child the same age as you
2007-06-06 16:08:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋